Leftover women: a group of older young women with high education, high income and high age can't get an ideal home in marriage. "Leftover women" is a new term for older young women, which can also be called "3S women": single (single), Senventies (mostly born in 1970s) and clingy (clingy)-single. These people generally have high academic qualifications, high income and superior conditions. The older women and children are in primary school, and the younger ones are picky and happily married; Those who are smarter than them are not as beautiful as they are, and those who are more beautiful are not as smart as they are-but they are the only ones left. Some people say that "leftover women" are born to men. Because of independence, having a job, a house and a car, ordinary men dare not stand aside. As for excellent men, they are not in a hurry. Instead, I pursue my career, pursue famous brands, go to the gym, go to cafes, and just don't pick up girls. Leftover women have a stable income, a decent job and a comfortable and elegant living environment, but they can't fall in love for a long time. They have full motivation to pursue high-level quality of life, lofty ideals and excellent other half. Good men don't pay silently behind their backs. Being the man behind them is too stressful. This leads to long-term disharmony in love life and wandering outside the marriage hall. With the growth of age, she was left in society, so she became a leftover woman. Some people say that "leftover women" are not made, but "made by themselves". Not one woman did it herself, but the whole women's group did it together. No boyfriend, okay? We can learn yoga, Pilates, floral patterns and tea ceremony ... Are you trying to make our boudoir unhappy and get married in a hurry? Sorry, I'm not available. I married the "Mr. Right" in one second and met the "Mr. Right" in an instant. What should I do? But it doesn't mean that "leftover women" all believe in not talking about love. This is life. There are too many accidents. Grab what you can, but don't force or worry about what you can't catch. There is only one thing in life that we can control: going to the end-going to the end according to the true wishes of the soul. Advantages and Disadvantages of Being Single [Edit this paragraph] The phenomenon of being single in China is called "crisis" by some media. One thing is unclear. Whose crisis is this? Single yourself? Mom and dad? General ethics? Country? Chinese nation? The increase of many singles is not forced, but voluntary, at least self-made. For these people themselves, single life is not "danger", but "opportunity", which is more opportunities and opportunities. Because I am single, I have more choices and a more free life. Just because I don't want to lose them, I stick to this lifestyle and refuse to get married for the sake of marriage. As for those who want to get married but can't find a suitable partner, it's hard to say that they are completely "forced". In fact, the criteria for choosing a spouse are always relative, and the key is whether you are ready to accept an imperfect choice. How can there be "perfect" things in the world? Those high-quality unmarried men and women are absolutely intelligent and rational enough to understand this truth, but everyone is still unwilling to accept the reality, unwilling to make do with it, and would rather lack it. This persistence itself, on the one hand, is not really so strong in the desire to get married, on the other hand, they have this independent foundation and capital, and they can be so "willful" if conditions permit. In this sense, it is still an old saying: artists are bold. As for those people who really can't find a marriage partner because of various objective conditions, they do exist, but this situation exists at any time, which is not a special phenomenon today. Generally speaking, the increase in the number of singles is directly related to the rapid changes of society, urbanization, modernization, the publicity of people's personality, the refinement of life and the emphasis on self-feeling. With the development of society, people put forward stricter requirements for themselves and others, and it is more and more difficult for people to accept things that are not in line with themselves, especially in the field of private life. This phenomenon cannot be simply attributed to "Western influence". In fact, the variation and openness of marriage, love and gender relations in China today have surpassed those in developed countries such as Europe, America and Japan in many aspects. This is certainly a part of the overall weakening of ethics in China's social transformation period, but there are also some elements of "traditional revival". This non-mainstream, flexible and open lifestyle factor lurks in China's social tradition. In almost all the "prosperous times" in China history, this seemingly "wild" lifestyle will rise, especially in areas with prosperous economy, developed culture and high degree of urbanization. Today, all kinds of "new" lifestyles have a profound relationship with tradition, but today it is not necessarily centered on male power, and women should also get this "right", but the openness of marriage and gender relations has existed since ancient times. Single phenomenon is not too "dangerous" for singles. In many cases, it means "opportunity" For the society, there are some "dangers" in large-scale singles, and the most direct one is the crisis of population structure. Due to the family planning policy in China, the young population has shown a downward trend. If this generation has a low marriage rate and does not have children, the population of the next generation will decrease again, which may lead to an inversion of the age structure of the population and a shortage of young people. On the other hand, the existence of such a large number of singles may lead to the proliferation of pornography, and if it is not handled properly, it may also lead to problems such as the spread of sexually transmitted diseases and AIDS. At the same time, today, family is still the basic structure of society. Generally speaking, people with families tend to live a stable life, while single people may tend to change their life content at will. Therefore, the increase of singles may mean that the basic family system is facing challenges, which will lead to the shake of the basic moral order of society based on family ethics and the increase of social instability factors. However, this "danger" is not impossible to resolve through some system design and innovation. For example, develop various voluntary associations and interest groups to meet people's needs for a sense of identity and belonging, and for example, with the increase of demand, develop some emerging social services specially adapted to a single lifestyle. In fact, the rudiments of these new social life forms have developed spontaneously among the people, but they have not yet become the mainstream because of the constraints of social customs and some ethics. China's profound cultural traditions and complex microstructure will inevitably produce many brand-new concepts and social systems to adapt to this growing trend of single population. The advantages of marrying a "leftover woman" [edit this paragraph] Facts have proved that being a leftover woman is not a completely bad thing. At least, leftover women are good. Happy older women who enjoy flash marriage need to have one quality if they want to get married: nimble eyes and quick hands. It refers to never hesitating after seeing the only thrill, making moves when it's time, lightning love, lightning marriage, everything must pay attention to speed. You have no spare youth to spend with him, so do your best to let him get into the trap of your marriage. Flash marriage is happy. Because of the short love time, I entered the marriage before the aesthetic fatigue period, and continued to enjoy the sweetness of love after marriage, and successfully passed the running-in period. At least it's better than getting married after Malasson. The divorce rate is very low. When the leftover women finally got married, those who got married early were basically divorced. 1+ 1=3 leftover women have no time to think about whether or not to have children, and when to have children. However, women who marry early have more troubles than the leftover women, always hovering between wanting and not wanting, and suffering from abortion if they are unlucky. Leftover women should have children quickly. After the age of 35, the probability of a woman giving birth to a deformed child is greatly increased. Therefore, leftover women should have children as soon as possible after marriage, and even marry their children as soon as possible to complete the plan of educating people. The sole proprietorship will carry on the family line at a certain time, and the basic cause will also be successful. People who can't eat grapes say that she just has a bad feeling that she is going to start a career. Anyway, the leftover women are basically gold collars. Such a woman, married her man can not secretly glad? Just have fun. Maybe when the leftover women are happy, sole proprietorship will be the inheritance of your family. We will always believe: big waves wash sand, leaving behind treasures; The best must be at the end; "leftover women" has nothing to do with "old, weak, sick and disabled"! Either "leftover women" or "leftover women", or what people called older young women a long time ago (most of them are single women aged 30 and above in real life). In order to save women's face, some people call them "3S women": single (single), 1970s (mostly born in 1970s), stuck. Of course, "3S" is not a particularly face-saving statement, and "stuck" is enough to make the leftover women feel depressed. Frankly speaking, the conditions of the leftover women are not bad, not only themselves, but also the people around them think so. But life is so cruel: older women and children are in primary school; The younger ones are also picky and happily married; Even Er Ya, who looked ashamed every time she met next door, put on her wedding dress and went out beautifully-but it happened that only the two of them were left. When analyzing this "surplus" situation, some people say that they are too independent, some people say that they have high standards, and some people say that they don't give themselves opportunities. Not really. The leftover women who are clever may not understand what they need. The so-called high vision is only because they feel that they can't give in. Born in the 1970s, they grew up watching Qiong Yao's novels. As soon as the hero and heroine met in the book, they hit countless people. Once they fall in love, they live and die together. However, in real love, it seems that there is always a link that goes wrong. One wrong step, one wrong step, and the water goes straight down. In the end, the whole game is lost, which is difficult to recover and always does not meet their predictions. In fact, leftover women are not "leftover". They don't get married, not because no one is pursuing them, but some even have boyfriends with firm feelings; They don't necessarily ask for Qiong Yao-style love, so many experiences make them clearly understand what is the true expression and existence state of feelings-they just need someone who is interested in them and a catalyst suitable for them.