? On reflection, I recommend him to read Wang Yangming's book Yangming's Mind. Teacher Fan Deng said that all people's questions can be answered from books. People are confused because they have been away from fitness and reading for too long. He also replied to me, but he didn't study hard for several years. He is my good friend, graduated from a prestigious school, handsome, beautiful and virtuous, bought a house in Zhengzhou and worked in a financial company himself. ? Among the diligent children who come out of the countryside, they are among the best. People over the age of 30 are confused.
I think this is the confusion of many children from rural areas. When we were young, our parents sponsored us to go to college and told us that knowledge changed our destiny. After college, I thought I could make my parents and family proud as I dreamed when I was a child. I thought there were many opportunities to work hard in the city, whether going north or south or going to Shanghai and Hangzhou. However, the reality is that after countless cruel tests, I found that the answer given by society is that I can only be an ordinary person, or even an ordinary person can't do it, and my belief collapsed. Five years after graduation, a friend who went to Beijing envied me for not going to the north and said that I was comfortable. I said that Beijing is the capital, and all the smart people went. I don't have the confidence to go, for fear that I can't compete with them. And he said with a wry smile, five years, sleeping in the basement of Beijing, the quilt has never been made, and it has always been wet.
? Time flies, we are all over 30 years old, and our original dreams and lofty sentiments have long been exhausted. Although they live in cities, most of them have no houses and live around cities. The registered permanent residence has moved to the city, and the countryside cannot go back. It's contradictory and embarrassing. After 30 years, there is no passion in work, no vitality in body, less and less hair, less and less mortgage and car loan, and more and more expenses for parents and children. Busy and confused, life becomes blind? . The summary is one sentence: nothing is done, people are old, there is no need to say nothing. The ancients said: stand at 30, not confused at 40, and know your destiny at 50. Why are you still standing at 30? My understanding is that some people really gained a firm foothold in their careers through hard work in their twenties. What's more, their friends have established themselves at the age of 30, and they have been helped by their friends. In the competitive social mechanism, there are not many friends, the children are from the countryside, and there are few resources around them, so there are no rich second generation friends to help when it is difficult? . Entrepreneurs with high morale have no connections to use and no experience to guide. Most of them failed. After the failure, all you can give at home is complaining and complaining, so that you can go to work honestly, but the work will never keep up with the speed of rising house prices. Then the cycle continues. The rise in housing prices has created the theory that reading is useless. Nowadays, college graduates are far less happy than their junior high school classmates. Those students who graduated from junior high school left school early to work. Before house prices rose, they earned money to buy houses in prefecture-level cities, had houses in rural areas and had children early. As we all know, students who graduated from junior high school are desperately forcing their children to study hard and go to college to make up for the lack of life. People, what they can't get are always in turmoil.
All suffering and confusion are an awakening opportunity given by God. Many friends around me have already encountered their own incentive events, or started their own businesses for the second time, or continued their studies. Children who study science from an early age are trapped by what they know and form obstacles to what they know. At the age of thirty, I need to see the nature of some things. We should not stay on the surface, but look at the current problems from a high-latitude perspective. Cars, houses, tickets, children, women and five children must study, which is very consistent with the theory of entropy increase. Entropy increasing theory is a desperate theory. All systems in the universe are developing towards disorder and chaos, and so is everyone. From the moment we were born, entropy increase appeared and developed in the direction of disorder and death. In order to fight against the increase of entropy, we need sports nutrition to ensure the orderly growth of life, that is, to fight against death. Mentally, entropy increase is also our biggest enemy. The increase of entropy will make people constantly pursue laziness, disorder and relaxation, leading to various irregularities in diet and rest in life. Entropy increase is natural, but the essence of progress is entropy decrease. Everything should develop in an orderly way, and every time we fight against the increase of entropy, it will become painful, such as reducing smoking and drinking to learn fitness. About learning, I recommend Liu Feng's books to improve my thinking dimension. We live in three-dimensional space, but the spiritual world can go to four-dimensional space. Look at the problem now, just as we look at the difficulties of ants. Many times, it is not things that trap people, but our thinking that traps ourselves.
Thirty years old, where should I put my heart? The classic story about seeking inner peace is that Hui Ke, the second ancestor, learned from Buddhism. Hui Ke reassured his ancestors, and Dharma said, Give me your uneasy heart, and the second ancestor suddenly had an epiphany. When he returned to Dharma, his uneasy heart was gone. "Heart Sutra" also said that because there is no place to live, it is born of its heart? . To live is to persist. People who practice live because they care about fruits, while ordinary people are obsessed with money, power, sex and affection. Where there are obstacles, there are fears. After understanding this concept, you should start to think about where your uneasy heart is and why. I think many people can't find where their hearts are. Because of many worldly things, it is difficult to return to self. Many people live for their parents, lovers or children, and are led by money, but they just can't live for themselves once. Be kind to yourself before crossing others, and you will live in a mess, let alone let the person you love.
? I think few people can do what they like, but those who can develop their hobbies into careers have extraordinary lives. My heart can't find a safe place, but I don't like what I do, and my heart is very wronged. Freud's ego, id and superego should also be studied. Everyone lives in the ego, and it will be very difficult if the true self is not nourished. Materialism, which has made people lose their awe, naturally has no respect for heaven, no respect for heaven, and no fear for God, which is even more inconsistent with the laws of the universe. There is no peace of mind, no happiness.
Confucius said: A gentleman's business is based on his foundation. If you want peace of mind, you need to return to the basics first. What are your own standards? You can't throw it away. Without Ben, men don't live like men and women don't live like women. In the standard, and then return to the true self, only by living in the world of the true self can people recover their energy and enter the growing personality, and all kinds of troubles will be broken. Life is neither short nor short. Never compromise, follow your heart. Do what you like and be with the people you love. Self-discipline means not doing anything that consumes you. Thirty years old is the beginning of fifteen years of golden life. Follow your heart, do something as much as possible, and leave something behind. Don't be happy when you come, sad when you leave, and walk around the world empty.