Indeed, loving yourself is the beginning of all romance ~
Although people are gregarious animals, no one is an island, and no one can be independent of society. Only by learning to be quiet and talking to one's own mind can one remain calm when facing the troubles of the world.
The greatest freedom is inner freedom ~ learn to be alone and know what you really want, so that you won't lose yourself, you won't haggle over everything, and you know where to go with others.
Contradictions between people are inevitable. When there is a contradiction, a person's performance is the true humanity of ta.
Chen said: a person's cultivation is not when he is calm, but when he is angry and shriveled; A person's reason is not in a calm time, but in a noisy time; A person's compassion is not when he is condescending, but when he speaks lightly; Respect between lovers is not a time of idleness, but a time of different views; The love between husband and wife is not the blossom and the moon fall, but the disaster arrival.
Looking at a person, you can see at a glance what t a looks like when he is angry, and you can know whether t a can communicate or not, and you can know the dormancy of ta in the depths of human nature. This is definitely not an alarmist.
When a person is angry, it can best show the true colors of ta. Those who say nothing when they are angry, those who are abusive and heartless, are definitely your nightmares. You should definitely stay away from them, the sooner the better.
Zhang Haochen said: slowly approach a person and make sure you can see him clearly; Leave someone quickly, or you will really be reluctant to part.
This kind of reluctance he said should be an entangled lover, a deeply affectionate relative, or a deeply affectionate friend.
Speaking of friends, this should be a very warm word. Ta is not a relative, but sometimes she is better than her relatives, accompanying us on the road of life, moving forward silently and guiding us forward.
However, if you have been in contact with people for a long time, you will find that the right person will always be around, and the wrong person will not feel sad even if he leaves. It's only a matter of time, because you're not traveling together.
A lot of things can be done, but it is absolutely impossible to get along with people.
As the saying goes, sworn, sworn, it happens.
I have such a friend. Now it should be said to be an experience, because I don't think she deserves to use the word friend.
We met while doing business. Later, because I quit the mall, we haven't contacted each other for a long time.
Once she and her neighbor went to my office on business and met unexpectedly. After a long separation, she was overjoyed and got in touch.
Later, I bought a house here in Jingyue, and it happened that she also lived here. With the change of the nature of my work, our communication has increased.
But the trouble is coming, because we are not far away, so we often go out shopping and eat together.
But slowly I found that she is a very slow person, what color door to decorate, tossing and turning, vacillating; For children, it is also hot and cold and moody.
It was clearly that the child was eating, and an unknown fire rose and cursed the child. I advised her not to teach children at the dinner table, which would be bad for her physical and mental health.
I think, besides, aren't children like this allowed at ordinary times? Turn a blind eye when you are happy, and lose your temper when you are unhappy.
But she said that teaching children is afraid of people making irresponsible remarks. I'll go. Does this guy know anything? ! Well, since you won't listen to others' opinions, I won't say anything. Your child is your decision.
What bothers me most is that she has no sense of time and treats me as her emotional trash can.
Usually in the morning, before I eat, her phone will call in. After talking for more than two hours, I was embarrassed to interrupt her.
In the end, I was too hungry to stand up. I have no choice but to tell her that I must eat something first.
In fact, no one wants to hear negative emotions, especially about things between husband and wife, and outsiders are even less likely to participate.
She had an unhappy marriage, had a son, married her husband for the second time and had a daughter.
Because this husband is much older than her now, although he has superior economic conditions, he has also developed the problem of covering the sky with one hand.
As for her, she is not alone. They often have the final say, even if they plant fruit trees or vegetables in the yard.
As the saying goes, it is difficult for an honest official to break housework. I can only try my best to persuade, not to persuade. It can be repeated many times, and I also understand that although they are fighting, no one can live without anyone and it is impossible to split, but it makes my spirit almost collapse.
Every once in a while, I will cry and fight, and the result is still calm.
We broke up that time because I accompanied her and her daughter to dance classes. At the end of the class, because she was talking to someone from the insurance company, let me go and have a look.
At that time, I was editing an article on my mobile phone, completely immersed in the arrangement of the article, and heard her words, but I still didn't return to my mind and didn't reply to her in time.
I don't want to be angry because of this. At that time, her face dropped and she said, well, I don't need you. I'll go by myself.
I was stunned. Why is this person like this? It seems that everything others have done for her is right and there is no gratitude.
Although the boss was upset, I held back the attack.
I think she is heartless and I can't be unjust. If she leaves angrily at this time, it will not only be rude, but also make her immediately in an uncontrollable hurry.
Be kind. So, I'm still babysitting for her. After she talked with the insurance company, I decided to leave immediately, because I felt really tired with her.
This is not the first time. You never know when she will get angry. The uncertain mood makes people feel very depressed.
I was walking home alone, and I didn't want her to catch up with me in the car.
After getting off the bus, make a scene with me on the road and keep talking like a machine gun.
I was really shocked and speechless. I was completely shocked and asked myself again and again in my heart: Is this the so-called friend I made?
At that time, I only listened to what she said. I just felt that everything was spinning and passers-by looked at her in surprise. I'm really ashamed to stand with such a person.
Although she drives a Mercedes-Benz, it has not improved her social status at all. Screaming at the top of my lungs has become a very ironic landscape.
I didn't say anything, but left her a sentence: when you calm down, think about what you have done.
My mood at that time was that if a scholar meets a soldier, I can't say for sure. The sooner I leave her, the better.
Afterwards, she sent me countless messages, said a lot and apologized, but I knew we couldn't go back to the past.
I never dare to approach such a person again, and I will definitely stay away from her, because she is like a time bomb, which may explode at any time. I don't want anything to do with her.
Because she will only consume you constantly. Consume your emotions, consume your time, and consume your feelings.
I sacrificed my fitness time to accompany her to run and decorate; I sacrificed my writing time to accompany her to do housework and take care of children; I overcame my fear and disgust of the hospital and accompanied her to the hospital for surgery. I sacrificed a long time to listen to her endless crying. ...
Yes, friends are for use, but you can't abandon them after use! Unexpectedly, it turned out to be the result.
Journey to the west said: "kindness bites the hand that feeds you, because kindness returns little to the world."
Some people are mercenary at heart, and it is natural to accept others' help.
Forget it. It's good to say goodbye. At the very least, I can devote myself wholeheartedly to what I like, and I will never waste time and energy for this ungrateful and meaningless person again.
Ok, now I can devote myself to reading, writing and physical exercise.
Thank God for letting me see her clearly, and thank time for letting me remove her from my life.
In the future, I will only be with comfortable people, love myself, do what I like, and never wronged myself for others.
Without her, my life is calm again, and my life is back on track.
Miyazaki Hayao said: "Sometimes you can get what you want most if you insist on doing what you least want to do."
Writing has always been something I insist on. It is very embarrassing and difficult to meet the bottleneck in writing, but I believe that only by persisting can there be a bright future!
I told myself: this is a time to learn to accept yourself: accepting yourself means understanding that no matter what happens in life, it doesn't mean that you are not good enough, it just means that you should know how to support yourself, care for yourself and grow up.