Reading Tip: That night, Hua and my wife were in a bed. My husband sleeps in the middle, and Hua and I sleep on both sides of him. Unexpectedly, at night, they were shameless in front of me, and I was in great pain. They actually said to me, Don't be narrow-minded! I was trembling with anger, but I couldn't help them.

Netizen confided: Yan Yun

Gender: Female

Age: 30 years old

In the gym, Yan Yun met Hua, a girl about her age. She is unmarried and as fat as Yan Yun. They often exercise together, and after a long time they become good friends who talk about everything. Unexpectedly, such a good friend turned Yanyun's home upside down like a tiger.

Impression: She is the mother of a four-year-old child. Because of this little guy, her story is intermittent. She often says: The child is making trouble again, and I want to leave for a while. So, we talked late, after the children fell asleep.

She has the cheek to stay in our house.

After giving birth, my weight increased from 50 kg to 80 kg. Last year, my mother helped me get a fitness card. The baby was born in poor health and I was badly beaten. So I would like to go to the gym every day. There I met a girl about my age, Hua. She is the same size as me, but she is unmarried. We often exercise together, and after a long time, we become good friends who talk about everything. I often tell her my troubles at home. She has no friends or even boyfriends, but it's not that she has never been in love, but she always ends in failure, so she is happy to be my audience.

We have been together for more than a year, and I thought we would be friends forever. Unexpectedly, it was such a good friend who turned my house upside down.

One day in June this year, Hua asked me to go shopping together. I left in a hurry without my cell phone. My husband couldn't find it, so he called her and asked me if I was with her. She said yes, and then handed me the phone. After hanging up the phone, I accidentally found a short message sent to her by my husband, which was a bit ambiguous. At that time, my heart sank and I felt something was wrong I broke up with her without saying anything and hurried home. As soon as I entered the room, I saw my husband holding the phone and trying to explain something. I can hear you. It's about me. Hua asked my husband to explain why he called me instead of her. Of course, I didn't understand until later. At that time, I thought this call was from Hua.

It didn't take long for my husband to admit that they had proper relationship. My husband doesn't feel guilty at all, saying that he has suffered too much injustice in our family. My parents forced him to go this way. He wants to get a divorce and stay away from my family. I don't agree to divorce, because I still love my husband and my children are still young. So something even more outrageous happened.

They just blatantly sway in front of me and have the face to come to our house every day. That day, Hua stayed at our house very late, saying that he was going to sleep at our house after quarreling with his family. At that time, I didn't know that they actually had that relationship for a long time.

The house at home is small. My mother-in-law and father-in-law share a room with their children, and my husband and I share a room. There is no extra room. That night, Hua and my husband and wife slept in the same bed. My husband sleeps in the middle, and Hua and I sleep on both sides of him. Unexpectedly, at night, they were shameless in front of me, and I was in great pain. They actually said to me, Don't be narrow-minded! I was trembling with anger, but I couldn't help them.

After several days of stalemate, my parents finally let go.

You will definitely ask me why I am so timid and tell you about our family from the beginning!

My husband and I met at a classmate's birthday party. He is still quite handsome. I remember when we first met, we had a good chat and hit it off. Later, we often played together, but it was only a year after we met. After getting along with him, I found that he is a very good person, very responsible and practical, but his family is not rich, but I don't care about these.

We didn't have a romantic date outside, didn't go to the movies for dinner, and went to his house every time we met. No matter spring, summer, autumn and winter, no matter how late, he rode me to the station and waited for me to get on the bus. For a time, his stomach trouble was so serious that he even vomited after drinking water, but he still sent me home every time. I can feel his love for me, which makes me feel happy and satisfied.

One day, I found myself pregnant. I'm happy and sad. I called him and he said, then get married. I went back and told my parents about it and met with strong opposition. In fact, my parents have always disapproved of my association with him because his family's economic conditions are too poor. Their family is a foreigner and they haven't done anything decent in Wuhan. But I insist on getting married and having children. After several days of stalemate, my parents finally let go.

Parents meet, buy furniture, take wedding photos and inform relatives and friends. In less than a month, all the preparations were done. Seeing that their family conditions are not good, I won't get three gold medals. My parents also paid for wedding photos and cars, and even my mother bought the ring. In this way, my father rented eight luxury cars to take me to his house. By the way, my parents are rich and do a lot of business

Soon after marriage, we began to welcome the birth of the baby. There is still more than a month before the due date, and my stomach always hurts, and I don't know why. When the child was born, he was very weak, only 4 kg and 3 liang. The doctor said to go into the incubator.

After marriage, my husband and I have no money. The cost of having a baby is basically paid by my parents. Although they are rich, they are unwilling to spend more money. Because of this, the child did not enter the incubator, leaving the root of the disease. Just full moon, the child went to the hospital for examination because of a cold and found that he had a heart disease. We are really going to faint.

Since then, the child has been ill for three days. For three years, we basically spent it in the hospital. Of course, among them, parents have given us great help financially. That's why they have the right to boss around in front of us. Every time a child is ill, my parents will blame us and my mother-in-law for not taking good care of the child.

They make out under my nose every day.

For the children, my husband and mother-in-law and I rent a house near my parents' house, and eat and drink at my parents' side. Although my parents spend a lot of money for us, they have a bad temper. Even if they are afraid of a little thing, they will yell at us, which makes us very uncomfortable. They look down on my husband, always scold him and often scold me.

One day, we went out shopping, and my father specially brought his car over for me to make it public. In the middle, my dad told my husband to go left, but he said to go right. My husband turned around as he spoke, and my dad exploded at once, cursing: just like your mother! My husband looked ugly, but he didn't say anything. My mother-in-law was in the car at that time, and I felt so embarrassed!

This kind of excessive things often happen, and my father always yells at my husband. On one occasion, my husband said angrily, whatever I do is hard for you! My dad said angrily, that's not me!

My husband is full of frustration and resentment, and people have to bow their heads under the eaves. Therefore, after the husband cheated, he said without shame: I just want revenge. He once complained to China how despised he was by my family and how much he wanted to leave. I think if my parents hadn't done this to him, he wouldn't have cheated.

I thought about divorce, but I didn't get the warmth of my parents since I was a child. They just want to make money. When I was a child, I often felt lonely. I remember when I was in junior high school, my father had a woman outside and had trouble with my mother all day. I once committed suicide for this, and they didn't know it.

It was my husband who found the feeling of love and became confident and happy. He changed me. I think if my parents respect him, maybe we will live well, because my husband is a responsible man. But in front of my parents, all his self-esteem was trampled on, so he became distorted.

Now my husband and Hua make out under my nose every day. My husband's family knew about it and said that my husband was wrong, but it didn't change anything at all. During the National Day this year, my mother-in-law and I took care of the children at home, and my husband went out to play with China. In the middle of a few days, my mother-in-law asked her husband to take me and my children back to my hometown to see. Who knows that when he first arrived at his hometown, Hua called and cried to commit suicide or something. I wanted to have a good time in my hometown for a few days, but as soon as she got into trouble, my husband took her to my hometown. I am so angry!

We watched fireworks together in the Mid-Autumn Festival. He only told China how beautiful the fireworks were, but I was like an extra person. Thanks to my mother-in-law and children, I'm not too embarrassed.

I really can't stand it. When letting my husband make a choice, he always says he doesn't want to choose, so let time make a decision. My mother-in-law is very kind to me. Knowing that I have been wronged, she often advises her husband not to do this to me. My husband is sometimes very sympathetic. He knows that I am not easy. To this end, he also tried to break up with China many times, but all ended in failure. Every time he said goodbye, Hua cried loudly and said that he would commit suicide. Her husband was afraid that she would force him, and his heart melted.

My husband just used her to get back at me.

There is no love between them. China is to meet my own needs, and my husband is to get back at me. My husband was going to ask for a divorce two months ago, but I don't agree. On the contrary, I often talk about divorce. I don't really want a divorce, but I can't see the future in such a day.

The child is still in poor health, and I am not in the mood to take him now. At this time, my husband and the woman are in another room of our house. I am hiding in the study and telling you my grievances on the computer.

I really regret being friends with Hua. Her family is poor and has no friends. I sympathize with her. She is often invited to our store to play and invite her to dinner. She can help me sometimes. When I look at the store alone, she can watch it for me when I go to WC. After a long time, I will know my husband. At first, my husband had no feelings for her. She is not beautiful, and she is fat. It is really necessary to have no appearance and no figure. Besides, she used to be a terrible person. She had many boyfriends, but she was abandoned after being played by others every time. In fact, my husband doesn't really like her, but just uses her to get back at me.

Now I still hope my husband can turn around. If he wants revenge, this revenge is enough. No matter what he did, I still have feelings for him. Maybe that's what makes me sad. In fact, I don't want a big house or a famous car, as long as I used to ride a bicycle for ordinary happiness. I don't want my children to grow up in an incomplete family, you know? It is the lack of fatherly love that makes China defective.

I once talked to Hua, hoping that she wouldn't ruin my home, but she said that she would never let go, because she saw that there were contradictions in our family and she felt that she still had a chance. But I still hope that she can know herself and quit automatically!

The characters in the text are all pseudonyms.

Self-discipline education

After reading this story, I believe many people will blurt out two words: sparse and chaotic.

This reminds me of the theory of Skinner, the most famous representative of western psychologist and behaviorism school. He believes that people have no dignity and freedom, and whether people do something depends only on one influencing factor, that is, the consequences of their actions. Generally speaking, people act according to their own needs or interests. He concluded that there is no difference between humans and animals.

How to change this property? Skinner put forward the behavior correction technology of shaping behavior, constantly using rewards and punishments to shape people's behavior, prompting people to make good behaviors and change bad behaviors. To put it bluntly, it is the construction of spiritual civilization. It can be seen that self-discipline is far from enough for some sparse phenomena in the social transformation stage, and it is urgent to strengthen ideological education. (Xia Feiyue)