Ye Zi's appearance is sweet and lovely, but she is actually a woman in her thirties and had a failed marriage. Fortunately, Ye Zi, who has a strong heart, never gave up the expectation of life and love. After the divorce, she also fell in love with her five-year-old brother Xiao Mu.
In the early days of this sister-in-law relationship, happiness was everywhere. Ye Zi and Xiao Mu don't think there is any problem with the age gap. Their feelings soon warmed up and they soon moved in together. However, this love began to change with the cohabitation of two people.
Ye's job is mainly to go to work during the day, but as a fitness instructor, he is very busy at night and can't even bring his mobile phone to class. They think that after living together, they will have more time to be together and communicate with each other. Unexpectedly, due to the nature of their work and Ye's sensitive and suspicious personality, they often quarrel and have a cold war. Finally, I moved away secretly and blackened the leaves.
In order to save Xiao Mu, Ye went to the gym in Xiao Mu to harass him. Xiao Mu was extremely troubled by this, and the contradiction between them further intensified, even alarming the police. But fortunately, Yaya finally found us and successfully saved Xiao Mu.
From the examples of Ye Zi and Xiao Mu, we can sum up several difficulties that may occur in the real sibling love, which is of great enlightenment to friends who are talking about sibling love or are hesitant to talk about it.
The first difficulty: the psychological quality of women.
Although it is an open society now, as the parties of sister-in-law's love, they still have to bear great psychological pressure, especially women.
Sister-in-law love requires women to have strong psychological quality from the beginning. If a woman's heart is not firm enough, she will be easily influenced by other parents, her own parents, relatives and friends. Once a woman is shaken by the eyes of outsiders, she will become sensitive and suspicious, wondering all day whether a man will care about his age like others.
From a man's point of view, he may not understand women's sensitivity and paranoia. After all, a man is a rational creature, and it is difficult for him to feel the change of emotional level as easily as a woman. Young men lack emotional experience, and women can't expect each other to meet their psychological needs. Women can only strengthen their psychological quality to tide over this difficulty.
The second difficulty: trust.
Sister-in-law's love is indeed more difficult to maintain than ordinary love. If you want to run a successful sister-in-law relationship, you must really love each other and trust each other unconditionally. Otherwise, a little trouble from outside will easily break your sister-in-law's love relationship, which everyone is not optimistic about.
Women's age disadvantage and men's mental disadvantage are inevitable problems that two people will encounter in the process of getting along, but these problems are more just because they don't trust each other enough, which makes both sides prone to negative emotions such as suspicion, anxiety and uneasiness. In the final analysis, such negative emotions still need you to trust each other enough, and you can't simply throw the problem to the other side to solve it, or expect the other side to give you more security, which will only increase the psychological burden of the other side.
The third difficulty: marriage.
The last question is trouble. After all, a woman's youth is precious. She always wants to enter the marriage hall at her best age and the best object, and then produce the crystallization of love. However, older women not only have the pressure to marry late, but also miss the golden age of pregnancy, and can't have the same love crystallization. Can they accept it? These are all issues that need to be considered in advance.
For young men, getting married means greater pressure and responsibility, especially those little boys who lack career foundation and material conditions. They are even more reluctant to choose to enter the marriage hall at a young age.
I was anxious like an ant on hot bricks, but I was indifferent. Their different psychological states can easily lead to more contradictions.
Having said that, don't think I'm against sibling love. Any normal relationship is worth supporting. Women can overcome the above difficulties wholeheartedly as long as they think clearly about its advantages and disadvantages. After all, any relationship has difficulties. Even a couple made in heaven will face many trivial marriage problems after marriage. As long as we have firm confidence in each other and boldly pursue true love, life will reward those who do their best.