In the comment area, a highly praised reply: "When the real career comes, no one can stop it and no one can escape."
The netizen spoke about his experience of middle-aged unemployment.
In middle age, she experienced two passive unemployment, one at the age of 34 and the other at the age of 40, both of which were the most critical moments in her life.
The first time was when she was 34 years old. She was forced to be fired because the company's department in Chinese mainland was cancelled.
The 40-year-old this time is because the company suffered an economic crisis and implemented the last elimination system. She also became a victim of the company's development.
When she was young, she regarded herself as a panacea. She is too busy with work, endocrine disorders, acne and chloasma all over her face.
Even busy with an important meeting of the company, she never missed the opportunity to see her father for the last time, which became her lifelong regret.
For a job, she not only paid painstaking efforts, but also paid her feelings, the kind of "single-minded" feelings.
At that time, she thought she should devote herself wholeheartedly and unreservedly to her work.
However, after being unemployed twice, she suddenly realized that it was this "barbaric" growth that destroyed her.
In fact, most people in the workplace are like her. For a job, we try to "squeeze ourselves dry".
I hope that the company can see its own efforts, see its own value, and have opportunities for promotion and salary increase.
Even in the end, with the growth of age, I hope to have my own place in the company.
But the naked reality is that no one can escape the challenges and threats brought by age and the law of market economy development.
In order to really avoid the crisis of middle age, in addition to doing a good job in the company, we need to do the following three things, so as to reduce the risk of middle age and avoid the crisis of middle age.
First, make plans and prepare in advance.
Planning well in advance can greatly reduce the anxiety risk caused by age growth or changes in occupational environment.
At every stage of career development, we need to make career plans in advance.
Only by making preparations in advance will you not be bitten by the "middle-aged crisis".
When we are in our twenties and thirties, our career plan may be promotion and salary increase, relying on the platform to learn and develop.
But after thirty-five or forty years old, our career development will be influenced by many factors such as age, family and life.
At this time, you need to re-set your own career development route, plan your future career path and the corresponding implementation plan.
For example, working women in their thirties may have to adjust their career plans because of factors such as childbirth and family care.
In order to take care of children and families, we need to re-choose jobs that can take care of families and accompany children after work.
Even some families without the help of the elderly or nannies need to take care of themselves, but they don't want to give up their personal career development.
This requires preparing in advance before leaving the workplace and finding a job that can balance work and family.
There are also some men who have not yet reached the management level at the age of 40, and their competitiveness in the workplace will become weaker and weaker.
At this time, it is necessary to plan ahead and prepare for the transformation.
In the economic crisis of the past two years, some companies have dismissed employees who are in marginal positions, older and less valuable.
Of course, there are also small companies that fail overnight, and companies that dismiss all employees also exist.
Therefore, when we rely on the platform to grow and develop, we also need to consider the influence of uncontrollable factors in advance.
A career with a plan is called traveling, and a career without a plan is called wandering.
Therefore, at any stage, we should not just bury ourselves in work, look up at the sky and look forward to the future.
Don't sell yourself completely to a company, treat a job as a career, that is, develop around your career goals.
Even if one day you leave the platform, you can still have your own job.
At different age stages, do a good job in personal career development planning, make preparations in advance, and nip the "middle-aged crisis" in the cradle in advance.
Second, seize the long board and give full play to its advantages.
Man's success lies in maximizing his own advantages, not overcoming his own shortcomings.
The law of barrel has gradually failed to adapt to this era. Everyone has a short board, but instead of trying to fill the short board to hold more water, it is better to lengthen and strengthen the long board, turn it into a "bridge" and let yourself have a whole "river".
In the process of career development, most of us often spend a lot of time to make up for our own shortcomings, and it is easy to ignore our personal strengths and give full play to our personal advantages.
Knowing how to grasp our own long board and give full play to our own advantages will make us take fewer detours and spend our time in more valuable places.
With the growth of age, our learning ability and creativity show a downward trend, and time is precious.
Only by making good use of personal advantages can we reach our destination faster and easier.
Whether you start a business in a company or an individual, you must make use of your personal advantages to be more successful.
For example, if you have good copywriting skills, then you can deliberately train to be the first in the company.
In this way, within the company, copywriting is irreplaceable and reflects your personal value.
With the growth of age, only by doing the most effective and valuable things in the shortest time can we succeed.
I have a friend who likes to do yoga during work and business hours. Personally, learning yoga is faster and more effective than others, and it has also been recognized by teachers.
Later, she signed up for a course, followed it for a long time, got a certificate, and occasionally worked as a part-time yoga instructor in her spare time.
One year after delivery, because my mother-in-law is not in good health, she can't help with the children and doesn't want to ask a nanny to take care of them.
So, I had to quit my job and take care of the children myself.
But strong, she didn't want to give up her career completely for her children, so after her children went to kindergarten, she became a yoga instructor in the gym.
Time is relatively free, you can pick up the children in the morning and evening, and you have plenty of time to spend with them.
In fact, the workplace will be more cruel to women, and besides age, there are also family factors that have a great influence.
Therefore, only by making good use of our own strengths and giving full play to our own advantages can we reduce the risk of middle-aged crisis.
Don't bury yourself in work, we need to think about what we can do to maximize our advantages and reduce risks.
Especially for middle-aged technical men, technology is changing with each passing day. With the growth of age, their learning ability is gradually declining, and their competitiveness in the workplace is weakening.
If you have strong technical ability and certain teaching ability, it is not impossible to transform into a lecturer.
Or use the internet platform to develop personal courses, establish personal brands, and prepare for subsequent entrepreneurship in advance.
Therefore, before the middle-aged crisis comes, we need to make plans in advance, find out our personal strengths and be good at using our personal advantages to develop our careers.
Third, keep learning and iterating.
Real growth is continuous learning and self-iteration.
Today, with the rapid development of new technologies, a lot of new knowledge, new technologies and new processes are constantly updated, and the knowledge you have today may not be suitable for tomorrow's work.
Only by continuous learning and iteration of personal knowledge base can we not be abandoned by the times and continue the road of personal career development.
Education and experience only represent the past, and whether to maintain learning ability and keep iterating is the future.
Although I am in the workplace and have worked in the company for many years, I have become an old employee of the company. Don't think it's safe.
Whether you are a Fortune 500 company or a steady state-owned enterprise, you won't even say hello when the times abandon you.
In 20 19, Oracle Bone Inscriptions closed the R&D center in China, and laid off nearly 500 people, most of whom were technicians in the R&D center.
Prior to this, the cultural atmosphere and working environment of Oracle Bone Inscriptions Company were extremely comfortable, without any pressure, and they didn't want to learn new knowledge.
It has also led many middle-aged people to think that there will always be food in the back mountain. As a result, when the economic crisis came, everyone lost their secure iron rice bowl.
There is a trap called comfort. There is no crisis, this is the biggest crisis.
A few years ago, when Tangshan government cancelled all toll stations around Luqiao, a middle-aged woman collapsed and cried:
"I am 36 years old, and my youth has been paid. I can't do anything now, and nobody likes us. I can't learn anything. "
No matter which era, luck is always the luck of those who keep learning and keep pace with the times.
The times are developing and progressing. Only by constantly learning and iterating the personal knowledge base can we win the tickets for the next era.
In Alice in Wonderland, the Queen of Hearts said: We run hard just to stay where we are.
In the era of great rivers running, we can stand still and not be eliminated by society.
Don't think that a job can be done forever. If you want to live a stable life, you have to take more responsibility.
In this rapidly changing world, no matter how powerful we are today, no one knows what will happen tomorrow.
Only by constantly learning, iterating and always being prepared can we have our own real secular stability.
The so-called middle-aged crisis is the result of our disappointing youth.
There is no midlife crisis, but you didn't work hard enough when you were young. Only by working hard when you are young can you make it effortless in the future.
The midlife crisis is definitely not one thing, but everything comes together and makes you breathless.
Therefore, only by planning and preparing in advance, giving full play to personal advantages, and constantly learning and iterating personal knowledge base can we avoid the self-attack brought by the middle-aged crisis.
There will never be a stable job in this world, only a stable ability. You are awesome, and you are stable everywhere. If you are incompetent, you will be at high risk everywhere.
I hope that in the end, each of us can be like the writer Wang Er: "The rest of your life is long, and your climax should always be in the next kilometer."
Today's topic: What do you think can be done to avoid the midlife crisis? Welcome to leave a message in the comment area for discussion.