My family and friends always ask me, "Why am I still single?" . Their idea is: for both men and women, falling in love and getting married is a natural law, and it is a social role and social responsibility that must be assumed at a certain stage of life.

When I was a child, I wanted to get an education and go to school to prepare for my social life as an adult. As an adult, I will work, fall in love, get married, start a family and have children, which is the key for human society to maintain metabolism for a long time.

For people, the age of 20 -35 is the most energetic and productive stage of life, and it is also the stage of life when it is easier to get married. Marriage and career correspond to the last two of the four happy events in life, namely, meeting bosom friends after a long drought, spending a candle night in the bridal chamber, and being shortlisted as the champion.

My parents always want me to do the right things at the right age, such as going to school at the age of seven or eight, going to college at the age of seventeen or eighteen, and getting married at the age of twenty-seven or eight ...

02

This is true, but why am I still alone?

Maybe I'm too mean. I like to express negative, sharp and unpleasant comments and judgments, and analyze the thinking logic behind things and the dark side. My ex-boyfriend can't stand my swearing at him. He thinks I don't appreciate him, respect him, love him, and I feel insecure and warm with him.

Maybe I'm too picky People complain that I am above others. I just want to find someone to live with. How can we really find perfection? I have many shortcomings myself, why can't I accept some shortcomings of the other half? It's okay now. A few years ago, I still had a choice, but now it has become the remaining wave of being picked.

Maybe I have a bad personality, lack of self-discipline, want to lose weight but can't control my mouth, so that I don't have a good figure; Not responsible enough, work and life are lazy, so that they are mixed up; Not active enough, I always like to publish some sad state of spring, so that many people secretly advise me to be optimistic about the sunshine; If you are not sophisticated enough, once you offend, you will tear your face and miss many opportunities.

Maybe I haven't recovered yet. I still can't forgive my ex-boyfriend When I heard that he had a new girlfriend, I knew my expression was ferocious and ugly. I also know that the best way to forget the past is to start a new relationship, but I'm really afraid of being hit again.

Maybe my life is too regular. When I go to work, the company's home is two o'clock and one line. At noon, the company orders takeout at the convenience store downstairs, goes home from work or goes to the gym, or watches variety TV dramas at home. In fact, there is not much difference between weekends and working hours. At most, I go shopping, do my hair, go to the supermarket and have afternoon tea with my same single girlfriend. This lifestyle leads to few opportunities to meet the right age-appropriate opposite sex. But is it really useful to go out to various parties, city meetings and training courses?

03

"I value, don't like me; I don't like people who like me. " This sentence was criticized by the older generation as being above others, but I didn't expect it to be confirmed in me. How can I not be worthy of these men I like and admire when I know that my education and financial situation are not bad? Can I only force myself to see a man who likes me but I never liked him?

Always urged by all kinds of things, always discriminated by people wearing colored glasses, but being single is not the end of the world! The man I like doesn't like me? It doesn't matter! I can always like myself.

It is a godsend for everyone to come into this world, even if they don't meet a good marriage for the time being, it doesn't matter. A person can create a lot of value, and falling in love and getting married is only part of it. For this part of value, we will not give up our efforts to create other values, such as family, career and personal achievements. Since we are lovelorn, maybe we should stop being lazy and work harder in our work and career. After all, love is illusory and elusive, but material and income are real, and as long as you work hard, you will be rewarded.

I don't want to be single. I do what I want to do, pursue what I want to pursue and enjoy the life I want to enjoy!