In life, we will see that some women have no beautiful appearance, but when she stands there, your eyes will be on her. Although some women are beautiful, they only give people a glimpse of short-term beauty. A few more eyes will lose the initial heartache and even produce aesthetic fatigue.
This sense of difference is actually the difference between being feminine and not being feminine. The former emanates from the bones and lasts for a long time. The latter only stays on the surface and can't stand the baptism of time.
So why are some women particularly feminine, while others are not at all?
The influence of family background on a person. What's it like growing up in a loving family?
It is the love of parents' words and deeds, the confidence and generosity wrapped in layers of happiness, and the belief that I am willing to believe everything in front of me even if there are places in the world where the sun can't shine;
Have the courage to pursue what you like. They also dare to give up what they don't like, because they don't lack love in their hearts, so they never worry that they will never get anything because they give up.
So, what's it like growing up in an unhappy family? Perhaps, the heroine in The Life of an Unliked Pine Nut will be the best interpretation of the answer to this question.
Because when I was a child, my parents would give more love to my sick sister. When I was a child, pine nuts didn't know what it was like to be loved. Because of the lack of love, her "flattering personality" has been with her since she was sensible, so that she has been thinking of others, but she has never loved herself well.
Happy people use their childhood to cure their whole lives, while unhappy people use their whole lives to cure their childhood. Those girls who grew up in love are confident and calm about the world. Girls who grow up in misfortune have a sense of inferiority no matter what they do.
Because of the lack of childhood happiness, they can't really be confident, and they don't have enough attraction to linger in the beauty.
Pay attention to "self-discipline" In "Twenty Not Confused", Liang Shuang attracted everyone's attention as soon as he appeared, with a white face, long and straight legs and a healthy figure without a trace of fat. Such a perfect combination has undoubtedly made her the object of many people's pursuit.
Many people say that the beauty of Liang Shuang is a reward from God. However, this is only the appearance that people see, because no beautiful woman can maintain a state for a long time. Those amazing beauty must be the combination of hard work and sweat.
On weekends, others are sleeping or playing games in the dormitory, and Liang Shuang is sweating in the gym; When eating hot pot, others eat spicy pot bottom, red soup and so on. And Liang Shuang ate the food in clear water soup and went to bed at 10: 30 every day without interruption.
Liang Shuang put too much energy and effort into her face. In this way, she will become a very feminine goddess in the eyes of others.
Li Kaifu once said: "Never indulge yourself, make excuses for yourself and be strict with yourself. After a long time, self-discipline will become a habit, a way of life, and your personality and wisdom will become more perfect. "
That kind of femininity, that is, in the self-discipline of those seemingly ascetic monks, slowly exudes.
Many women feel that their most beautiful appearance should be a smooth face, and they can't see any age. As a result, they couldn't accept their own smashing and began to make bold moves on their faces, trying to stop time on their faces with technology. But under the same pattern, it is the stereotype of copying and pasting, and people will admire its beauty, but it is only for an instant.
And some women calmly accept aging and carve each other's time on their faces. They are more willing to accept this ordinary self and start carving words on their souls.
For example, in the variety show "Idol Comes", Brigitte Lin, who was praised by Yang Yuying as "the woman who stepped down from the painting", was not very tolerant of her, but she accepted it frankly and began to fill herself with knowledge, such as writing books, such as publishing books.
There is a sentence in the book "In this flashy world, I just need to be just right": "I can recognize the beauty of success and advocate self-struggle; I can also accept ordinary reality and embrace the years. "
And those women who can make people look at them for thousands of years must have temperament that others can't copy, such as tranquility, such as calmness, such as tolerance, such as calmness.
In short, women of every age have their own beauty. They were, are and will be when they were young. Accepting your own ordinary is the beginning of romantic charm.
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