Housewives used to talk about chickens, babies and commodities, but I don't know when they moved to a new place: an enterprising husband.
"I study financial management. He only plays games every day, saying that our family has only that little money. What happened? He doesn't even know that he has to manage money because he has no money! "
"How can I say that my fitness has changed? He won't even go with me. He prefers to sleep at home on weekends and watch his stomach. He can't discipline himself at all! "
"Mobile phones have what good-looking of? I don't know how to take the exam again in my spare time. I'm not going to class. I never listen to the books I recommend him to listen to. I know how to play games. I have nothing to say to him. "
Even in the reader's private letter, my wife suggested that I talk to her husband directly and let me "save her husband's soul" directly. It seems that after Jiwa, the market potential of "chicken" husband is also huge.
Time is a witness of love and a mirror that reflects each other. It's not terrible to be defeated by reality in the end, it's terrible to be defeated.
I believed it without hesitation.
It is said that marriage is like gambling. When you are in your twenties, seeing a man with potential is the biggest bet for many women. Gambling on the happiness and expectation of a lifetime, the losers are endless, and the failed marriage is born.
Marriage needs the joint efforts of both parties, and at the same time, we should be good at ourselves.
You don't have to listen to my complaints, but you have to be worthy of my efforts.
A person can be confused or dull when he is in charge, but not making progress is a big problem.
They all say, don't bully the young and the poor. When you are in your twenties, you may be born with no money. When you are in your thirties and forties, you can only blame yourself for not working hard.
How many marriages were established because of love and trust, but they were finally defeated by the ignorant and upright "Don't bully the poor in middle age" and "Don't bully the poor in old age"
What are people in their forties who have no money and who are not motivated in their twenties?
They think that youth is very long, and there is still a lot of time, and they rely on young physical strength and a lot of time to squander and waste;
They said they would have money and work hard in the future, but there was no plan;
They just talk about dreams and never do practical things;
They believe that success depends on opportunities, not sweat and hard work;
They think they are just born at the wrong time, and others' success is due to the help of a good father and nobles;
They despise those realistic people and don't want to talk about money.
If you meet such a man in your twenties, don't think he is romantic and thoughtful. He may be lazy, not self-motivated, only dreaming, only talking about not practicing, and getting something for nothing.
Poor couples may be a little romantic when they are young, but no kind of love can stand it, and they will not make progress for ten years.
And they always have an excuse, that is, "you are too realistic."
I'll tell you a story, because there is a husband who is not motivated at home. Unemployed husbands defrauded their in-laws for subsidies, which exposed them and made their wives take the blame, eventually leading to divorce.
26-year-old Xiao Jing, with average family conditions, has a good job. With a monthly income of nearly 10,000 yuan, she has no suitable marriage partner. Finally, she met her current husband through blind date.
Everyone else is honest and belongs to the type of man show. They usually don't like to talk and don't know how to be gentle, but they have a romantic energy in their hearts, which can always surprise Xiaojing inadvertently.
However, there is a disadvantage: people are more lax and less motivated, but they are still unemployed at home when they are getting married. Their parents-in-law are also busy with their own careers, and their families are quite affluent, so they don't care much about their sons.
Anyway, it's a suitable family, right? Friends around me say that Xiao Jing is not worthy to be with such a man, and she will be crazy, but Xiao Jing just likes this one-track-minded man.
When I got married, my in-laws were still doing business in other places. Xiao Jing and her parents didn't have much in common. I gave birth to a daughter after marriage, and my mother-in-law didn't come back. Instead, I paid a nanny to take care of Xiao Jing for four months.
But this is not the way to continue. My husband doesn't work at home, he can't take care of people, he can't go to work himself, and there is no income at home. Nannies are so expensive now. When Xiao Jing recovered almost, she dismissed the nanny. I don't work anymore, but concentrate on taking care of the children at home.
"I thought it would be enough to save some money from my savings. When the children are older, I will go out to work. It is important to make money, but so is growth. I don't know my in-laws. Although they didn't take care of my confinement, they paid me to hire a nanny. I feel that they have been very kind to me and I am very grateful to them.
It is not easy for in-laws to get up early and get greedy when doing business outside. I help them save money. Besides, being selfish, my husband is an only child, and the money he earns will definitely be left to his husband, so he is also my own in-laws.
So let my husband tell his parents-in-law about his resignation as a nanny, and let my parents stop paying the nanny. My husband nodded and agreed at that time, and I left it alone, but who knows, who knows that he can do such a loser thing? I can't believe it after what happened. "
After resigning, Xiao Jing 'an became a housewife at home, spending all day with her husband who played games at home. It is common to quarrel and have conflicts. After all, a man who doesn't work after marriage is really outrageous. Men sit in front of computers all day, except for Doby's daughter occasionally. Either face the computer or hold a mobile phone every day. Although Xiao Jing is helpless, she has long been resentful.
When my daughter was ten months old, my in-laws also went home for the New Year. Xiao Jing was cooking in the kitchen when her husband came back to pick up her parents. After several months of exercise, her cooking skills have improved a lot. After hearing the sound of opening the door, I went out to meet her in an apron, but my mother-in-law's smiling face suddenly tightened.
At this moment, he said with a dark face, "Are you showing me?"? What about the nanny at home? " Xiao Jing said timidly, "I have been fired for a long time. Didn't Dacheng tell you? "
Without saying a word, the mother-in-law looked at her son and turned her suspicious eyes to Xiao Jing. She took off her coat and threw it on the sofa. She grabbed her hand and said, "the baiwenhang eats and drinks for nothing, and works hard outside all day to make money." You enjoy yourself at home and think it's cheap to get 4000 yuan from me every month. How can we calculate money like this before we are old? "
Xiaojing suddenly realized. Her mother-in-law doesn't seem to know about the dismissal of the nanny. She looked at her husband, who bowed his head and went back to his room without saying a word. In the face of angry mother-in-law, Xiao Jing is the only one left. Mother-in-law thought it was Xiao Jing's idea, saying that her son had been honest and obedient, not Xiao Jing encouraging her. She couldn't figure out such a bad trick, and her mother-in-law's difficult obedience finally made Xiao Jing.
"Mother-in-law, you are mistaken. I never took your money. Dacheng has been lying at home for almost a year. The expenses of food, clothing, housing and transportation are all the money I saved before! "
But her mother-in-law replied, "Do you blame me for my husband's poor management? I know you took my money. "
Later, Xiao Jing learned that her husband had been holding the money given by her mother-in-law to hire a nanny. Not only did he not tell her that the nanny was dismissed, but he also concealed Xiao Jing. He takes the money to play games and buy equipment every month and has a good time at home.
What is even more exasperating is that my husband is hiding in the room at this time without saying a word. Originally, he did something wrong, and all the responsibilities were actually borne by Xiao Jing alone.
Mother-in-law asked Xiao Jing to pay back the money she had hired a nanny in recent months. In the face of such fierce scolding, Xiao Jing knew that she was indefensible and didn't know how to justify herself. She was extremely disappointed in her husband. If you don't work, you don't make money. You take care of your children at home, do housework by yourself, and use the money yourself. You made a mistake, but you didn't say a word and let her take the fall. In the face of her mother-in-law's disobedience, her husband did not bear any responsibility. These reactions made Xiao Jing completely cool. Finally, she asked her husband for a divorce and denounced it.
"I don't blame your mother for speaking badly, only blame you. Coward when things happen. If you make a mistake, you dare not take it. You only know how to be a little puss-head. Divorce you loser! "
Xiao Jing's divorce was not a temporary brain fever, but a deliberate one.
"Now in a special period, I can't leave it for the time being, but I have made things very clear. I will divorce in the past, and I will continue to work and raise my own children. I have this ability. Why should I raise a failed man? Do you think you have suffered enough or lived too long? I'm stupid enough, and I don't want to be stupid anymore. "
In fact, a man who is not motivated like Xiao Jing's husband is far more terrible than an unreasonable man. When we meet unkind people, we should give up decisively, but when we meet people who don't make progress, we will always suffer big losses in the long years.
No one wants to be rich and powerful, and no one wants to live a better life. Without that woman, to marry a man is to accompany him for life.
It is instinctive for women to want to live a good life.
This story reminds me of a distant relative. From his twenties, he told us that we must get ahead and honor our ancestors. His parents and wife were very happy and said they would definitely support him. Then, he went into business, and after half a year, he lost everything. He told his parents and wife that it was my bad luck this time and I will succeed next time. His parents and wife took out their savings to support him to start his own business again. This time, he lost everything. Parents and wives can't stand it, so advise him to find a job and support his family!
But as soon as he heard it, he cried, I want to do great things and make a lot of money. How can you work for someone? What are those bosses? They will have to grovel when they see me in the future.
This has been going on for five years, and it has not achieved great things or made a lot of money. The originally rich family was almost destroyed by him. But he didn't reflect on himself, but blamed others for not having a vision and refusing to give him a chance, or blamed God for not having a vision and not giving him any luck. The family once again advised him to find a job with peace of mind and stop tossing. But he still feels good about himself: "Looking for a job? What job is suitable for me? Let me be the chairman, I won't do it. At my level, being a governor is a waste. "
People around him are gradually reluctant to talk to him. Now they are in their forties, and they are still doing nothing. They complain about others every day. Parents in their eighties can only sigh that their wives of the same age have worked for many years, raised a pair of children and fell ill. But he always felt that fate had buried him in his life, and he began to brag when he caught strangers. Now even the children don't want to talk to him.
Life is realistic. No matter how pure love is, life also needs basic material maintenance. We can meet our spiritual needs by love, but everything is inseparable from material things when we have children and raise them.
Especially after having children, I can bear hardships, but I hope children can live better, which is inseparable from the economy. How can you be happy when you see that your children are not dressed as well as other children?
A man who doesn't make progress may bring you the scolding of his mother-in-law and the fatigue of doing housework and taking care of the children, but after a long time? Can you ensure that you have enough money to eat and wear for the rest of your life? Wake up, women who expect them to turn over a new leaf, there is no if in life.
Please remember this sentence: I am most afraid of doing nothing all my life, but I also comfort myself. Plain is true.