Suffering = pain x resistance
Suffering will be a frequent visitor in our life.
Pain itself will not become suffering, but resistance to pain will amplify this emotion thousands of times and eventually become unbearable suffering itself. For example, at present, many activities that advocate fitness self-discipline and learning promotion, if you have hidden resistance inside, will produce a kind of psychological pressure, leading to the end of freedom.
Correctly realize that suffering is everywhere, just like oxygen in the air, you can accept it, use it and transform it!
Despair = Suffering-Meaning
Find the expression that suits you.
Expressing oneself is actually venting emotions. The road of life is hard to be smooth. Experience related to suffering may shape a brand-new personality, and a sudden accident will completely defeat the psychological defense.
Since pain is inevitable, you can learn to vent negative emotions correctly by keeping a diary, joining a support group, and confiding with intimate friends, but you should pay attention to not taking out the garbage with your partner as much as possible, which will cause potential double psychological harm.
Despair = Suffering-Meaning
Don't focus only on the abstract and ignore the concrete.
Don't ask too much about the meaning of life. What really matters is not what we expect from life, but how to turn the meaning of life into daily details that can be specifically controlled, such as how to be a positive and sunny girl.
Specifically, this is an important secret to fight anxiety. As long as the anxiety is divided into executable specific goals and put into action, the mood will be more substantial and peaceful.