Followed by the cover of the book, red, blue and white color matching, natural.
This book is also an inspirational book, sharing many authors' experiences and feelings about some social phenomena.
Open the directory, the book is divided into 7 chapters.
1. Why does your male god like you?
The main points of this chapter are:
Girls should work hard and be excellent in order to be favored by hard-working and excellent people.
Encourage girls to become excellent and give others a reason to like themselves.
I deeply agree with this.
I don't like being forced to find a boyfriend all the time.
First of all, this is not something that can be done quickly.
Secondly, I don't think girls have to fall in love and get married to have a complete life.
Next, I will make myself excellent first, and naturally I will meet and attract the same excellent people.
2. What was I thinking when I deleted my circle of friends?
The main points of this chapter are:
Most modern people care too much about how others define themselves, and always emphasize to others how excellent and happy they are by running a circle of friends.
But I didn't know that time was quietly swallowed up by my friends, but I didn't catch anything.
The author said that she prefers to waste time on things that she feels good about.
Before I read this book, I deeply felt that the circle of friends was a silent time killer. So in order to save time, I only look at the first three developments every time I brush my circle of friends.
Now, I don't even read these three articles. If you want to know who is dynamic, it will be more intuitive to chat with him directly.
I don't want to waste time editing Jiugongge pictures, and then expect to like them and reply to comments, except to share my thoughts, send company tweets and send my own tweets.
Of course, this is only my personal choice, because I want to waste my time on what I think is more meaningful. After all, I don't live in a circle of WeChat friends.
3. Don't mistake the platform for your technology.
The main points of this chapter are:
People should make themselves excellent in order to improve their irreplaceability. Instead of relying on the big platform behind you or the excellent friends around you to raise your worth.
Smart people are very clear about what their own abilities are and what are just the benefits brought by their own platforms.
4. Good love is to find someone who can grow up with you.
The main points of this chapter are:
Good love is not only immediate love, but also long-term synchronous growth.
We are in the same rhythm, and we don't need anyone to wait for anyone, accommodate anyone, or stumble after anyone.
It's not that my life will be bad without you, but that our life will be better with you.
Only by letting the past go can the future come.
Girl, you can live without love, but you can't live without dignity. So don't say you can't help it. People who have loved, people who have no results, have low emotional intelligence.
Love once, not who trains who, but love tames each other.
You live a glamorous life, but your parents are humble.
The main points of this chapter are:
filial piety/mourning
No matter how tired the flight is, home will always be a harbor, parents will always be the backing, and filial piety will always be the main theme of life.
6. Your friends are great. What do you care?
The main points of this chapter are:
You know who's not your skill,
Who you are is your skill.
7. Life won't start all over again. Why not be greedy?
The main points of this chapter are:
I want better, I deserve better, and I am willing to work hard for everything better.
To live hard means to live more freely. A free life is not just doing nothing, but choosing a lifestyle that you love more.
After reading this book, I want to talk about several kinds of people in life:
"negative energy"
Some people, obviously well-off, have a loving husband after marriage and work better than the average person. They often find out what they are unhappy about and give speeches around the topic that others are not good enough for me.
Some people, feeling the oppression of all kinds of life, like to sell bad, and they have to tell their "miserable situation" when they meet any friends. Gradually, such people are far away from their friends, but they don't know it yet. People who really live a miserable life have no time and mood to sell misery everywhere.
There is a word in psychology called halo effect, which can also be called halo effect. On the contrary, there is a word called the devil effect.
Let me explain briefly:
If you are punctual, people will think when they hear you, oh, him? Very punctual. And it will radiate this good impression to other fields like a halo. For example, if he is so punctual, this report will surely be well written.
On the contrary, the devil effect: if you complain a lot, others will hear you and think, oh, him? He likes complaining very much. I won't let him teach my children. How can such a complainer be a teacher?
You see, don't underestimate your carefully edited circle of friends, which brings you more than just a few praises or comments.
"rapporteur"
Some people like to report their lives and things in great detail in their circle of friends.
Every day, I carefully edit the life report of the giant baby, such as: I ate several bowls of rice, several dishes and drank several glasses of water today, what time did I go to bed last night, the psychological activity process of taking out the garbage today, where did I go today, and I got lost. I thanked someone for helping me find the way, and then praised myself as cute and needed other people's care.
There must be a balance in everything. If you want to invite others to watch your life, please be prepared to bear negative comments and bad effects.
Do you know how many employers will look at the circle of friends of candidates before the interview?
Have you ever thought that such a report actually creates many opportunities for people with malicious intentions to integrate your information?
Others' "Marxism-Leninism" and their own "liberalism"
Some people practice liberalism alone. Obviously, I didn't do well on one hand, but I practiced Marxism-Leninism on others with a critical point of view in this respect.
For example, everyone hates being fat and can't accept themselves in photos, but they are free to themselves, seldom exercise and have an unhealthy diet.
However, I have applied Marxism-Leninism to others many times. Obviously, when I see others' efforts in fitness, I may find faults in others and exaggerate them to cover up my inferiority.
I think such people are boring and a waste of time. Instead of wasting time on others' Marxism-Leninism, it is better to cultivate one's self-cultivation.
May you and I encourage each other.