I don't know if you have such distress:
Obviously doing things together, others do it quickly and well, and it is easy to get promoted and raised, but you do it slowly and poorly, so you can only stand still; Obviously, everyone's time is the same, others' lives are in good order, and their families are satisfied, but you are in a hurry and can't see anything; I clearly know that I should think twice before doing things, but when I really do things, I always make mistakes; Obviously, you are hardworking, diligent, smart and studious, but you just can't succeed. You know a lot of truth, but you still have a hard time!
You can't help shouting: "I don't want this kind of life, I don't like this kind of myself!" " Who can help me? "
Don't worry, Cathy Rush can save you! She believes that as long as you have the ability to think deeply and do things in the right way, your troubles will naturally be swept away.
Cathy Lasher is a senior corporate trainer and productivity expert in the UK, who is committed to helping customers build a deep thinking system and enhance their personal development ability. She has worked for many large international professional service companies and provided internal training for their leaders.
Deep Thinking: Let Everything Start Right is the essence of Cathy Raschel's years of practical experience. It is a book that can make ordinary people learn to think deeply.
Part I: Why should we think deeply?
Teachers and parents told us from an early age that we should sum up after the exam, so as to check and fill in the gaps and get a higher score next time; When we grow up, the leader will also tell us about the restoration project and try to make a better plan next time. In fact, whether it is summary or recovery, it is a deep thinking process that can make you progress.
The latest research of Harvard University shows that only 10 minutes of deep thinking can obviously improve the efficiency of study and work.
So, let's talk about the benefits of deep thinking in detail.
First of all, deep thinking can make you stand out in your work.
In the workplace, sometimes hard work does not necessarily have a good result. After all, the company is a place that only values credit rather than hard work. If you want to achieve something, stupid efforts are not enough.
Then you must ask: What can we do to get a good result? Simple: think deeply!
As the saying goes, if you don't work with the Lord, you will be exhausted and hard. If you are careful enough, you will find that every company has employee evaluation standards, and every leader has a steelyard in his heart. These may be obvious rules and regulations, or they may be personal likes and dislikes in secret, but there will always be a general framework for your reference.
Therefore, before you work hard, you must first make clear this explicit or implicit framework and make your own annual goals or development plans on the basis of the framework. We should also adjust and modify our plans in real time according to the development and changes of the company. Only in this way can we find potential problems, adjust our efforts and stand out in our work.
In addition to doing a good job, deep thinking can also make us better balance our lives.
Many times, you may feel that your life is busy and chaotic, or your parents feel that you have not been well taken care of and are dissatisfied with you; Either your lover thinks you ignore your family and complain to you; Either the child thinks that you don't have enough company and pouts. And you want to keep fit, make friends, cultivate hobbies and have your own life. As a result, they always care about this and can't care about that. Everyone complains.
Deep thinking can help you prioritize your parents, lovers, children and yourself in an orderly way. You must first determine the current priority, and then analyze the proportion of time and energy allocation. Step by step, you will find that life will become balanced and orderly. You can not only enjoy family happiness, but also keep your own space.
In addition, deep thinking can also help you develop new behavior habits.
For example, I want to cultivate a good habit that will make you successful. You can ask yourself: What are my unfulfilled dreams? What do I really like? What are my talents and shortcomings? How does the new habit help my work and life? How much time can you spare to do it every day?
Knowing these problems, you can start to cultivate new habits. For example, start a new way of fitness, join a new reading club, or learn a new musical instrument, and so on. Of course, if time and energy allow, you can also cultivate several new habits at the same time.
Part II: What is deep thinking?
Elders or leaders often say that young people should not be impulsive and must think twice before acting. The "think twice" here is actually equivalent to the "deep thinking" we are going to talk about today.
Deep thinking is a way to help you concentrate, and it is also a learning process with specific goals.
For example, when you are busy, tired and stressed every day, you can focus on an annoying thing and think deeply. You can ask yourself this question:
Do I really have to do this? What is the correct way to do things? Have I been repeating myself in vain? Can I finally meet my expectations? Am I alone?
If you think these questions clearly, you will understand whether it is valuable to do it; If it is valuable, how to do it well? When your thinking is clear and your direction is clear, your stress will naturally decrease.
The author believes that in order to really learn to think deeply, we should also consider three levels: brain cognition, psychological emotion and physical feeling. Simply put, it is brain, heart and body.
Let's talk about it in detail with an example of "complaining to friends after being criticized by the boss".
First of all, the cognitive level of the brain requires us to look at things rationally and logically, and to consider who and what we have contacted, the concrete performance of people and the objective state of things.
For example, you can say, "The boss stood up, threw my plan on the table, and then pointed at my nose and scolded,' If you can't do this well, you are a waste!'" " "
Then there is the psychological and emotional level, which describes our feelings and emotions about things, and often uses emotional words such as surprise, anger, sadness, anxiety and fear.
For example, you say, "The boss's words make me want to go up and slap him!"
Finally, talk about the physical feeling level, that is, physiological feeling. It should be noted here that the reason for this feeling is probably not what we thought at first, but something else.
For example, you continue to say, "I am shaking with anger, and my heart has been hurting since I came home at night." I think I must have had a heart attack because of my boss. " If so, I won't spare him!
I woke up the next day and found that my heart was bruised, thinking,' I won't be bruised if I am angry!' Later, I recalled everything yesterday, remembering that I accidentally touched my chest when I was moving the box, and I didn't care at that time. So from this perspective, my heartache is not my boss, but myself. "
Therefore, we should not only look at the surface, but also explore the real reasons behind it.
Only by thinking deeply from multiple angles can we look at the problem comprehensively.
Part III: How to think deeply?
As the saying goes, if a worker wants to do a good job, he must sharpen his tools first, and that kind of deep thinking naturally has its own unique weapon. Do you really want to know what this unique weapon is? Don't worry, the answer will be announced soon!
It is the EDGE-it thinking mode created by Cathy Lasher, the author of this book, which is a diversified goal-oriented thinking mode. It allows us to focus on the most critical link at every stage of thinking.
Ok, let's talk about this thinking mode in detail with the case of Jason's job interview in the book
EDGE-it mode of thinking * * * is divided into five steps: summing up experience, thinking carefully, summarizing choices, taking actions, and repeating.
Let's talk about the first step: summing up experience, that is, observing your own experience in depth. In this step, we have to answer three questions: What happened? What did each participant do? How did I feel then?
Take a look at Jason's answer!
The thing is this: Jason is interviewing; The participants' practice is: three judges ask questions in turn, and Jason is answering the judges' questions; Jason's feeling at that time was: very nervous.
Next, the second step: think carefully, that is, understand what this experience means to you. In this step, we should answer some exploratory questions.
For example, what do I want from this experience? What is there to be happy about this experience? What's the problem with the result? What facts are hidden behind the experience? What do I want to achieve through deep thinking?
Let's see Jason!
Although Jason was nervous about the interview, he found that the first interviewer appreciated him by analyzing the interviewer's reaction. But he wasn't sure how good the interviewer was, so he tried to cater to other interviewers.
Let's talk about the third step: broad choice, that is, to find more choices for the next step. The core task is to figure out what can be done now.
You are free to use your imagination, and the more options you come up with, the better.
For example, think about it: What experience should I learn? How should I learn? What are the problems and challenges? What should I do with it?
Let's see how Jason summed up his choice:
Jason has two general goals: the first goal is to make the interaction more concise; The second goal is to make the statement more convincing.
For the first goal, he summarized some options, such as "always pay attention to each other's body language", "read communication books", "establish close relationship with difficult people", "remember each other's looks and names" and "rank the interviewer's attention".
For the second goal, Jason summarized the options of "using passion to drive each other's emotions", "leaving room in the speech", "learning from the experience of the master speaker" and "participating in the stage performance".
We have all the options, and then we go to the fourth step: take action, that is, evaluate all the options and choose the best one to implement. The core content of this step is to combine action with experience.
We can rank all the options according to the difficulty and effect of implementation, and then choose the most effective and easy-to-implement option before taking action.
Let's take Jason for example. After sorting the options, Jason found that the best three options were "always pay attention to the other person's body language", "learn from the experience of the master speaker" and "leave room in the speech". Jason immediately began to implement these options.
Ok, the next step is the last step: loop, which means repeating the first four steps. It can be said that the first four steps can cultivate your ability to build deep thinking, and the last cycle can make deep thinking a habit.
By repeatedly using these five steps, you can form a good habit of deep thinking, so as to do everything correctly. So, are you far from success?