Respect each other's privacy and increase mutual trust. Everyone has their own life circle, which existed before they met. So, don't try to separate two people's life circles, and don't try to integrate their life circles. These two extremes will inevitably lead to the demise of long-term relationships. Know how to respect each other's privacy and give each other trust in life. Sometimes he doesn't want to say something, so don't get to the bottom of it. If the other person makes up a little lie out of necessity, and you find it, but don't expose it, the other person will be very grateful to you. Don't let people go out to play. Ask questions like prisoners as soon as you get back. You should believe in your charm and believe that your partner will not do anything wrong to you. Properly divert attention and pay attention to life. Many brothers will lead their own lives when they are single, such as gathering with friends, playing ball on weekends or taking short trips to fitness ... but since they have a partner, they have gradually ignored their original life, and they have not always been centered on the other half, and almost all their focus is on her. You must know that this is very dangerous. Besides love, you should continue to focus on your studies or career, get together with thoughtful and capable friends, constantly enhance your comprehensive charm and learn new knowledge and skills. On the one hand, it can divert your attention, indicating that you are a serious person with ambitions and dreams, and love is not your whole. On the other hand, you will find that if you do this, the woman will feel lost, and she will get close to you and continue to attract your attention. Learn to create a sense of crisis and keep a sense of mystery. Once the long-term relationship reaches more than half a year, your relationship will enter a relatively long period of dullness. At this time, your charm will gradually disappear in her eyes. She will give you the cold shoulder at first, unlike a naive girl in love. At this time, you need to learn to create a sense of crisis, whether consciously or unconsciously. For example, when there is another girl in your life who is very kind to you and wants to chase you, of course, you should never flatly refuse her, she will be found out on purpose while being friendly. At this time, she will take the action of protecting food, change back to the state she started in "Innocent Girl" and increase her competitiveness. This is also the application of so-called jealousy in long-term relationships. At the same time, in order to remain attractive for a long time, we need to keep a certain mystery in each other's hearts. Do not open your whole world. For example, you used to wear a casual style, and put on a slim suit shirt in front of her when dating. For example, you are always gentle at ordinary times, and suddenly one day you are furious with her. In short, it is a great contrast for girls to look at you differently. Don't give blindly to make your feelings unbalanced. In a long-term relationship, you can be nice to a girl, but you can't always be nice. You should make some changes at the right time. For example, when a girl calls to ask you out, don't push anything, and completely obey the girl's time. We must have our own principles. If you blindly pay for girls, whether it is feelings or resources, it may lead to the imbalance of the value balance. Therefore, we need to correctly guide girls to pay. For example, emotional input can guide girls to open their hearts and talk more about your outlook on life, values and childhood events. If you go out on a date, you will all have a balance. You can buy movie tickets and let girls buy popcorn. Plan your future more. When we are bored together, we can plan together and imagine the future of two people together. For example, when watching TV, you can plan what your future home is like and how to build a warm home of your own. Plan a trip together, etc. This will let your partner know that there are many things you can do in the future, and make her look forward to a better life in the future, which is also the application of expectation in long-term relationships. How to maintain emotional stability for a long time? 2. Grasping each other's needs, keeping freshness and passion from fading, is the real beginning of love. Keeping the freshness in love is actually a problem that many people have to study for life. Two people have been together for a long time, and it seems that they have finished talking and can't find a topic. Looking at the same face every day has begun to be aesthetically tired. Constant life, feelings become consumables. Soak in a dull feeling for too long, people's hearts will start to be restless, eager for new challenges, excitement, enjoyment or longing, which is nothing more than the touch of novelty in people's hearts. Second, the less the better. Brothers are also clear, especially those who have feelings outside marriage. When it comes to interests, everyone will be selfish, and few people will consider others. If both sides of an extramarital relationship often raise money, there is definitely no sincerity, and some can only be benefits. This relationship is difficult to last. People who really love each other rarely raise money, but many will take the initiative to pay for each other, and the other party will pay the same money while accepting it. Third, don't expect too much. Extramarital affairs are different from normal couples or lovers. They are all shady, let alone together in public. So be sure to put yourself in the right position, don't have too high expectations, and don't make too many demands on each other, otherwise it will be easy to break up. Both sides of extramarital affairs should be prepared to be separated at any time. People who are particularly clingy or demanding are hard to get long-term love and are easily abandoned by others. Fourth, respect each other. Since it is an extramarital relationship, you must respect each other, don't restrain each other too much, and don't try to gain any birthright, because your relationship is not normal. Both sides of extramarital affairs must learn to avoid suspicion, don't try to appear in front of other people's relatives or friends, and don't even think about becoming a full member, otherwise your relationship will only disappear faster. Conclusion: If you want a long-term extramarital affair and a lasting relationship, you must follow these four principles, otherwise there will be problems. How to maintain long-term emotional stability 3 1 Grasping each other's needs, keeping freshness and passion unchanged, is the real beginning of love. Keeping the freshness in love is actually a problem that many people have to study all their lives. Two people have been together for a long time, and it seems that they have finished talking and can't find a topic. Looking at the same face every day also began to aesthetic fatigue. Constant life, feelings become consumables. Soak in a dull feeling for too long, people's hearts will start to be restless, eager for new challenges, excitement, enjoyment or longing, which is nothing more than the touch of novelty in people's hearts. Connor, a famous emotional restorer, once said, "To maintain a long-term relationship, the most important thing is to seize each other's needs." We all know that life is not easy. When you are together for a period of time, your focus may gradually be pulled away from each other. While you are busy with your life, you gradually ignore many other people's needs, and you will regret it when things break out. You know, not all love is vigorous. When the passion of love recedes, it will gradually return to dullness. As long as you get through this dull life, it will be a perfect love. If we don't get through it, we will fall into an endless cycle of novelty forever. So in addition to the heavy life, pay attention to each other's needs and satisfy them as much as possible, so that your feelings will always be fresh and unbreakable. Second, the pace of life is complementary. If you want to live comfortably, you have to follow your own rhythm, and so does your love life. In love, both people live in their own rhythm, and the marriage with little rhythm conflict is the most comfortable. It is not unusual to meet love in this life. The hardest thing is to meet and understand. Complementary two people can add a lot of interest to each other's life, feel a different world and avoid moping all day. There is no perfection, only perfection. When two people understand each other and depend on each other, life is particularly beautiful. Just like when you are thirsty, have a glass of water; When you want to stimulate, have some carbonated drinks; Life, what you need is always a combination. If you like better things, add more. Then I still want to ask you, what kind of person do you expect in your life? Two people should be one, not exactly the same, but they overlap and complement each other (equality and division of labor). This kind of marriage is the most comfortable. Like a jigsaw puzzle, or Lego, two mismatched squares can't be put together. When two people know each other, they can complement each other and go hand in hand. In love, only when two people have the same pace of life and balanced needs can the feelings between them be maintained. Third, romance and fun are indispensable. I have a model couple by my side. After graduating from college, they got certificates. They have been together since high school, and now it seems like they just got together. Envy is self-evident. By chance, I saw such a small note on their computer desk. The note carefully wrote down the secret anniversary between the two. Almost one day every month, this paper is marked with different pens, not just a note, but actually recorded in the memo and calendar reminder of the mobile phone. Boys go home early without working overtime, they will go to the market to buy their favorite seafood for girls, and they will also buy small gifts for girls when they get bonuses. As for girls, they will clean up their homes in the morning of the festival, and no matter how busy they are, they will definitely cook a meal for boys in the evening. When there are emotional problems, there are always people who make excuses for their laziness. "An old couple is still doing this." But have you ever thought that your age, your years together, all have specific values, but feelings don't. As you spend more time together, the novelty between you will definitely decrease, but timely romantic interest and irregular small surprises will always bring different stimuli to your feelings and will be remembered by you. Loving for a lifetime is like loving only one day, but surprises from time to time will lengthen your feelings and make you feel that this life is long and beautiful. You should remember that even after a long time together, you still have to appreciate each other and appreciate each other. Only in this way can your love be happier and fresher. In fact, even the best method needs to be practiced. Every relationship is unique, which determines that every relationship has its own problems. This requires you to know what the other person really wants. Only in this way can your relationship be sweet and long-lasting.