? We can trace it back to the Spring and Autumn Period and the Warring States Period. Mencius' mother, with sharp words, said in St. Amethyst: "Meng Mu once chose neighbors." If you don't learn, you will break the loom. "Mencius can vertical and horizontal several countries, asked," Wang Gu left and right. His language is sharp and wise. Meng Mu is the founder of "environmental pedagogy" and has trained a generation of "elegant students". Putting children in a place with a strong learning atmosphere, children naturally have strong imitation ability and will naturally imitate learning to read and read.
? "A loving mother often defeats her children", and Meng Mu is also a strict mother. Don't children study? All right! If you don't study, take a pair of scissors for your mother to cut out the woven cloth. The child had never seen such a scene, so he was scared silly at that time. What are you doing, mom? Meng Mu began to explain the truth of learning and knitting. Only persistence can lead to good results. This kind of education, this kind of spirit, how many mothers can do it today? At most, it is to chase after the child's ass and nag a few words. Study, study. But who wants to hear it? Children will go downhill if they don't get a good education. Can play? Who wants to learn?
? It is not enough to give children an environment and make them determined, but also to make them virtuous. It's hard, it's hard to be a man, and we all spend our whole lives learning to be a man. What impressed me most recently was Yue Fei's mother-in-law, who tattooed the words "loyal to the country" on her back. Now we often sing this song when we go to karaoke and tattoo it on her back. In today's words, educating children to set up their ambitions and realize their own values is a super ceremony. This is the duty of a great mother.
? Being a mother is the beginning of learning to improve yourself. I admire tiger mother Chua Meier very much. She is also a strict mother. Amy Chua is a person who keeps a strong learning ability. She infected her daughter with her actions. Although her daughter rebelled, she began to reflect on her education and wrote "Tiger Mother Standing Song", but she recorded the love and hate between herself and her daughter so truly. Being strict with my daughter did not reduce my love for her. The daughter said that after having children, she should be a "good mother" like a tiger mother. I think if tiger mother uses traditional culture to educate her daughter about filial piety, perhaps the educational effect will be better. Speaking of filial piety, Confucius said, "It doesn't violate the etiquette."
? Another mother who strives for perfection? Li's mother, a "national senior", is a person who knows how to teach children wisdom in accordance with their aptitude and gives them a relaxed psychological space. Li became a tyrant and obtained degrees from famous Yale University and Harvard University. Moreover, she wrote a good article, and her heart was sunny and enterprising. She said that she didn't like the education of Tiger Mother. She is an English professor, exposed to western culture and has Taoist thoughts. She put her son in nature, catching insects, sunbathing and running wildly. This is the barbaric growth of nature. What should I do if my child doesn't study well?
As Zhuangzi said, is a maxima domesticated by Bole still a real horse? Horses should run freely, which is the spirituality of natural species. If tamed by Bole, it will only become a tool for people. Whether people should be internalized has always been a dispute between Confucianism and Taoism. But if I want to be a good mother, I must gain experience by studying, because I don't know how to be a good mother by nature. Confucianism and Taoism have become the mainstay of traditional culture, but there are also places of integration.
? Being a good mother is actually a realm pursuit. Being in your comfort zone, don't ask, don't learn, just a frog in the well in Zhuangzi's mouth, and the sea and the wider world you see are just turtles in the East China Sea in Zhuangzi's mouth. As human beings, we are actually very small, but we can't stop pursuing a beautiful realm just because we are small. We should improve our own realm, and also let our children improve their realm.
A mother should not assume an authoritative or condescending attitude. A good mother is sentimental and truly loves and cares for her children. A good mother is strict, treats incorrect and immoral things and dares to discipline them with a fair attitude. When I was a child, my living environment was pure, only TV, radio, newspapers, books, magazines and comments from my parents and relatives. There were teachers and classmates at school, but now children have a wide range of contacts. The birth of the Internet has accelerated the times, and the requirements for children should be higher and higher.
Has the standard of a good mother also improved? Now a new species of mother is popular, and it is also "the kitchen under the hall". Children require their mothers to be energetic and beautiful. I tried to practice makeup, and my daughter always said sweetly, "Mom is so beautiful!" " But I have also experienced a period when my eyebrows are as thick as crayons, but I have to learn to let my children see me beautiful every time.
? I love to hear Jay Chou sing "Listen to Mom". There is a saying that "a warm recipe is in her heart". I think being a mother who cooks warm meals is a good mother. My generation is used to eating ready-made food and is too lazy to go to the kitchen. They order takeout when they are hungry, but now I don't like eating outside food more and more. It's salty and doesn't smell like home. I think if the chef's cooking becomes more and more salty,
? I think cooking for children is the first step to be a good mother. I envy my sister very much. She can make steamed buns, stew and egg tarts. Although the egg tart is burnt and the steamed bread is made into dead noodles, she is willing to try and cook all kinds of food for the children. Later, she got better and better, and her nephew was raised tall and strong. Children's nutrition comes from food. If a child wants to grow taller, every mother should be half a nutritionist and half a gourmet.
? I used to think I should have my own life after giving birth. Later, I thought clearly that my life does not conflict with my children, and I should combine my wishes with raising children. Those who love fitness exercise with children, those who love reading study with children, and those who love traveling travel with children. However, there are some recognized bad hobbies. If you quit, you will quit. It is good to play less cards and mahjong. I don't know the algorithm, my math is poor, and I don't know the traditional mahjong game. Maybe that's why I have time to study other things that interest me.
? I often make a pot of light tea and drink a few cups to calm my mood. My daughter will also kneel down and ask me, "Can I have a taste?" I'll give her a bite. I think, when I am old, my daughter can have a cup of tea and talk with me. This is a beautiful painting. I want to be a good mother. In this utilitarian world, I only take a ladle of water. Clouds blow into snow, and human products become tea. I just want to be a good mother to my daughter.
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