The first one: repeat the dialogue.

When chatting with each other,

You can increase each other by repeating the dialogue.

Have a crush on you.

For example, the other party said that they were working out these days.

You can say that you often exercise,

No wonder you have such a good figure,

Hide the praise in your expression,

This will make people's impression of you instantly better,

And properly use this way of repeating dialogue.

Praise each other, there will be no sense of disobedience.

The second one: viewpoint 1+ 1 rule.

For example, at a company meeting, one of my colleagues

After the suggestion, do you want to talk to your colleagues at this time?

This view, and some of your own views,

You can say that Lao Zhang said these three points very well just now.

These three points are what we need at present.

Personally, I only have quick solutions.

One more thing, because Lao Zhang is also here.

Only when I am old can I dare to make this suggestion.

If it was anyone else, I wouldn't dare say,

If you are Lao Zhang at this time,

What would you think in your heart?

Third: Give up rhetorical questions.

For example, you forgot your key when you went out.

As a result, when you go home to get the key, your wife

Say to you: "No brain? Out key

Will forget, always forget things.

When can I change it? "If your wife

Put it another way: "You go to the bedroom and have a look. Last time,

You found your lost key in the bedroom.

It should still be in the bedroom. "Look,

The same thing,

On the other hand, it makes people feel very comfortable.

Because psychologically,

The rhetorical question itself has some offensive properties,

So when communicating with others,

Remember not to ask rhetorical questions.

Fourth: learn to look at people and talk.

We have been taught since childhood:

"Talk to everyone, talk nonsense."

Those who like to show off every day,

What they really want is praise,

When you hear him show off again,

You can praise it,

This will make him feel good about you from the heart.

Fifth: Open question.

Never use closed forms when asking questions.

It is correct to ask questions and choose open-ended questions.

Give a simple example, such as long time no see.

After meeting, usually everyone says,

How have you been recently? The other party generally responded well.

Have you noticed,

There is no direct topic to talk about.

And people with high emotional intelligence will ask:

"Look at your recent good state,

What are you up to these days?

Did you find each other at this time?

No matter what the reply is doing, your topic is

Yes, this is an open question.

Extend from one problem to other specific problems.

Sixth: Don't be too full.

When people ask you for help,

Don't worry about answering yes or no,

Otherwise, it is easy to hurt feelings.

Teach you a universal formula. Statement+* * * Seeking+Constraint

Step one: make a statement.

Don't worry, brother,

I am sure I am interested in our relationship.

Step 2: * * *.

This matter is really not small. If you do this, you should look for it more.

A few people asked, let's split up. What?

We must also ensure that this matter is thoroughly implemented.

Step 3: limit.

You're welcome. Our relationship is mine.

This is my job, but I agree in advance that if

You can't blame me for not doing it. So that the other side

There is a high probability that you can do it or you can't.

Reasonable psychological expectation. If it works,

The other person will definitely thank you, even if there is no result,

The other party won't blame you.