Chapter 1: How do women "kill" age panic?
Chapter 2: Do you have "age panic disorder"?
Chapter three: How do women calmly deal with the age problem?
Women tend to think that beauty ages easily. Women are very concerned about their appearance, so they will be very concerned about their age, and even reach the state of age panic. So, how do women cope with the growth of age? How to solve the age panic?
How do women "kill" age panic
30 years old: You look old.
Sit up straight and always smile.
30 years old is an age that many people don't want to face. For men, 30 years old means becoming mature and responsible; For women, 30 reminds you that youth is fleeting and beauty is gone. Many white-collar workers said, "After 30 years old, it seems that they are getting old very quickly. When you see your little belly and wrinkles, you will lose all hope. " The growth of age, the decline of appearance and the unsuccessful career make many people pessimistic, negative and even feel inferior and panic.
In fact, no matter how beautiful the appearance is, it can only leave a short-lived glory. The so-called "standing at the age of 30" is more like a "psychological threshold". Going forward may "transform your life" and bring new life satisfaction to your career and family; If you hold back, you will only feel sorry for yourself.
Allen, assistant professor of psychology at Harvard Medical School? Rosovski tells us some small ways to help "stay young forever".
First, sit up straight. Keeping a straight body will make you look more confident and energetic.
Second, smile. A heartfelt smile will not only infect people around you with sincerity, but also erase the age label.
Third, change your hairstyle. A trendy hairstyle will make people suddenly different. Fourth, quit smoking and drink less. These bad habits will accelerate the aging of the body. It is better to change to a healthy lifestyle such as fitness and travel. In short, with a young and positive heart, life will always be "fresh".
40 years old: decreased ability
Make up for the loss with family.
Some people say that 40 years old is like a pair of sharp scissors, crushing the enthusiasm, courage and chic of youth. By the age of forty, people's memory and learning ability began to decline, gradually losing their capacity, and they could no longer find the enthusiasm and enthusiasm like newborn calves. Seeing rookie emerge in endlessly, even subordinates younger than themselves have become immediate bosses. Many middle-aged people feel heavy, even anxious and depressed, worried that they can't keep up with the times, and their sense of insecurity is becoming more and more obvious.
According to the survey, most middle-aged people are afraid of their age, and 7% of them suffer from mental illness. The sense of self-responsibility in adolescence and early adulthood can usually maintain a confident and passionate life for 20-25 years. By the age of 40, the decline of physical fitness is inevitable, and many people will have a strong sense of loss and fear when pursuing their goals.
Middle-aged people might as well remind themselves that although we can't recover our lost youth, we can still create another spring of life and career as long as we relax and adjust our mentality. Associate researcher Shi Zhanbiao, director of the Mental Health Service Center of the Institute of Psychology, Chinese Academy of Sciences, suggested that, on the one hand, don't set a certain goal for life as if you are in a hurry.
Spend more time and thought and enjoy family happiness with your family, and you will find that this kind of happiness is unparalleled. On the other hand, pay more attention to your inner needs and explore your hobbies, such as photography and hiking. Fulfill the wishes that cannot be realized when you are young and expand the "width" of your life.
50 years old: physical decline
Regular life and health care
Mr. Sun, who is in his early fifties, has a successful career and a happy family, and is a "successful person" envied by everyone. The physical examination two months ago showed that his blood pressure was high, his blood vessels were hardened, and his blood sugar and blood lipid were not very good. This makes Teacher Sun very worried. "am I a' three high' person?" Since then, he has paid special attention to his health and studied various health tips every day.
For more than half a century, I have reached the age of knowing my destiny. No matter how you take care of it, your hair will turn white, your eyes will change and your steps will slow down. Signs of aging are bound to appear. At this time, people will pay special attention to the changes in physical details. When they have a headache and brain fever, they will worry that they are seriously ill or incurable. Over time, there will be psychological problems such as hypochondriasis and fear.
However, the aging of the body does not mean the aging of the mind. A study in the United States found that middle-aged and elderly people over 50 years old have stronger expression and communication skills than young people. You might as well give play to this feature and make yourself "healthy and energetic". The first is "strategic contempt". Don't give up the fun of life and work because of a little mistake, let alone worry about it and scare yourself.
Secondly, "pay attention to tactics", establish a healthy lifestyle, quit smoking and limit salt, exercise properly, have regular physical examination, and hold up a good umbrella for the body. Finally, family and friends around you should praise them more, such as "good spirit" and "elegant demeanor" Discover your strengths and abilities and build your confidence.
60 years old: the alarm of life
Make friends with young people.
After retirement, Aunt Qin did nothing at home and was lonely and bored. The old classmate's phone call gave her another blow: her good friend died of cancer. Thinking of a beautiful and cheerful friend who left without saying a word, Aunt Qin felt that day was not far from her. Suddenly, she was particularly lonely, and her mood became more and more depressed, full of anxiety, worry and helplessness.
Many retired people will have different degrees of psychological changes, which will lead to loneliness, inferiority, emptiness, depression and other negative emotions. Even pessimistic thoughts, anxiety and fear of death are increasing day by day.
Professor Yao from Peking University Institute of Mental Health suggested that if the elderly want to live a happy old age, they should actively discover and find happiness in their old age with an optimistic and cheerful mood. You can give full play to your interests and specialties, take the initiative to participate in some community affairs, such as health supervisors and public security patrols, and find a sense of accomplishment as a "work body".
Spend more time with friends and relatives and talk about each other's new things, instead of always being immersed in a negative mood. In addition, you can make more friends with young people, talk to them about current events, listen to pop music and infect their youthful vitality, instead of always talking about life and death with a group of old ladies.
Do you have an age panic?
Achievement panic
As the saying goes, stand at thirty. However, not everyone in the workplace is successful. Many people over the age of 30 are panicking because their careers are unsuccessful. They will have negative psychology and think that they can't see the future and hope. Many people are deeply worried about their future. Psychologists have found that people are at risk of being fired by their bosses at any time in middle age, and they are rejected by countless recruitment information because they are over 35 years old. This kind of psychology is also called "35-year-old phenomenon".
Marriage and childbearing panic
People who are busy with their careers often neglect their families. Some people have been wondering whether to have a career or children. They often wait until their careers are successful, or when they have the best of both worlds, but they have already missed the best time to have children. For the anxiety of pregnancy, the expectation of "having children" replaced the original intention of "promotion".
Positioning panic
When people freely choose jobs and positions, they will also lose their jobs or be dissatisfied with their jobs. There are four periods that are most likely to cause career crisis: orientation crisis when choosing a job, promotion and employment crisis after working for 5-7 years, orientation crisis around 40 years old and rice bowl crisis after 50 years old. Among these four kinds of crises, "positioning crisis" is the most confusing one for people in the workplace.
Psychological countermeasures:
Set Practical Goals Middle-aged people with age panic can make a plan for their work and have a clear goal of how much they want to accomplish every day. Don't set goals regardless of your actual ability.
Making a marriage and childbirth plan should be listed as a part of career planning. Marriage and childbearing planning can not be ignored, because it involves issues that can affect your overall career planning, and it is also an important part of your personal life planning. You can't make your life incomplete because of your work. After all, life needs balanced development.
Learn to adjust your mind. When you feel great psychological pressure and sadness, anger, resentment and other emotions, you should relax and learn to face the reality with a peaceful mind. You shh.
After all, the fundamental way to prevent age panic is to plan ahead. Whether in the workplace or in life, we should be aware and prepared. Then, panic will naturally leave you.
How do women calmly deal with the age problem?
"The face is old, how long can the youth meal last?"
Some service and entertainment industries are dubbed as industries that eat youth meals. With the disappearance of youth, many white-collar workers have a sense of crisis about their future. In fact, even in these industries, there are still many places that need personal qualities and endurance. Improving "internal strength" may be a better choice for white-collar workers who are worried about their age.
stay up late
"People who sit well look more confident and energetic than those who are lazy, hunched or lean to one side." PaulDarisso, a medical practitioner in Colorado Springs, USA, said that correct sitting posture can also prevent muscle and joint pain, reduce muscle tension in shoulders and neck, and thus relieve headaches.
He suggested that those who are in poor shape can improve themselves by practicing yoga or pilates. "This can strengthen the muscles of the abdomen, pelvis, coccyx and other parts, and make the upper body relax and straight." If you don't have time to practice, you might as well stretch your body every hour: land your feet, relax your shoulders and jaw, and put your hands on your thighs; Slowly extend your shoulders to your back and squeeze your shoulder blades for 5 seconds. Just pull it three or four times at a time.
Enjoy happy sex at least three times a week.
Studies have confirmed that middle-aged people who have frequent sexual life (about three times a week) look younger than other "asexual" peers 12 years old. Because the former has fewer wrinkles and smoother and more delicate skin. Researchers say that during sexual life, the brain secretes a hormone. It can relieve stress and make time to go back. In addition, a happy sex life can make people sleep more sweetly, and the skin is naturally whiter and smoother.
Draw eyebrows
Having two curved eyebrows makes people look younger. "Fine eyebrows can't highlight personal characteristics, and even teenagers will lose their youthful atmosphere." DamonRoberts, a famous American beautician, said, "It is not difficult to trim eyebrows. First of all, apply a dark eyebrow pencil on the sparse eyebrows to create a dense feeling. Then erase the color with your fingers to make it more natural. The key is to follow the natural eyebrow contour and don't draw the eyebrow peak too high, otherwise the whole face will be angry. "
Dye hair with pigment and powder.
Outline the face with high-gloss foundation and apply a little rouge; Dye your hair in a fashionable color and people will change immediately.
Buy new underwear that suits you in time.
Women know that breasts droop with age, but few people try to cover them up. SusanNetherro, the author of 755-79000, believes that good underwear can make women feel full and protected. "It should include a cushion and a supporting steel ring, which can hold up the highest point of a woman's chest. Generally speaking, this should be between the shoulder and the elbow. " When the weight is obviously increased or decreased, the chest circumference should be measured in time and the underwear size should be changed.
Beautify hands
Glittering decorations on nails or small rings on fingers will distract people, thus ignoring wrinkles or spots on their hands. A British study found that 49% of the respondents thought that women who carefully decorated their hands looked younger.
give up smoking
The US Centers for Disease Control and Prevention has said that smokers' eyes and mouth will have a lot of wrinkles in advance and their faces will be darker. Patriciafarris, a clinical assistant professor of dermatology at Tula University, pointed out that there is no sooner or later to quit smoking. "Even if you are an addict for many years, once you quit smoking, your body can still repair the damage caused before, your skin color will be significantly improved, and your skin condition will be completely new."
Smile happily
People are used to seeing a faint smile as a sign of "getting old". The sallow teeth are exposed from the lips, the stiff corners of the mouth are covered with fine lines, and the shortcomings are instantly magnified infinitely. However, if you smile from your heart, your sincerity will infect people around you and even erase the age tag from your forehead.
Conclusion: Women often regard their age as a secret. When women find that the first wrinkle appears in the corner of their eyes and their bodies are not so stiff, many people will be nervous, anxious and even afraid and panic. These bad emotions will accelerate aging, so women should relax and calmly cope with the growth of age.