We are very happy when we spend thousands of dollars on classes or fitness cards. We thought we would study and exercise every day as we imagined, as if our lifestyle had been completely changed at the moment of spending money. Then, the reality comes, and you will find that textbooks are often placed in the corner of the table, and the laptop is still in the center of the table. According to the frequency of going to the gym, the annual card is not as cost-effective as the two cards.
Some people really learned something, and many people really changed themselves. Yes, imagination will come true, but imaginary happiness will not. We have learned pronunciation, so we should continue to learn grammar, and then oral English; I have practiced chest muscles, abdominal muscles and shoulders; Even if we catch up with the girl like a goddess in our mind, we will still love her deeply soon, but we will never look at her like a goddess again. We quickly returned to the ordinary and unsatisfied, and in a flash we devoted ourselves to chasing the happiness of the next imagination.
The author also mentioned that the imagination of sex and love between men and women is extremely deceptive (people's feelings about things are divided into aesthetic feelings and experiential feelings, and deception refers to experiential feelings). We often imagine or are taught that sex is ecstasy and ecstasy. The author thinks that this is a perceptual description, not a rational experience, and the two are far from each other.
RICKY, a nutritionist in Late Night Health Room, said that when we saw the beauty of the goddess, we guessed that even her private parts must be strawberry-flavored, but in fact, everyone is normal and will have some flavor.
Especially now, the internet is full of beautiful women, and there are handsome guys and warm men everywhere in film and television dramas. We thought this was what the opposite sex should look like. If you think so, then removing special effects and filters, turning off the reality of beauty and face-lifting makeup removal may not give you the happiness you want.
How many people mistakenly think that the person who is always in turmoil in their hearts is their true love, failing to live up to the people around them who are real and plain, and finally find that Bai Yueguang, once imagined, can be touched, but has become an ordinary rice grain.
Just like the happiness that a beautiful woman will bring to you in a boy's mind, it doesn't exist in reality. All kinds of lifestyles we see in TV dramas and on the Internet, such as luxury, minimalism, pastoral, poetic and antique, seem to be extraordinary happiness, which looks so beautiful and tempts us to immerse ourselves in it.
When you travel, you will often find that many places are not as beautiful as you imagined or boasted. For example, Wu Kang Tower and Tianzifang will be mentioned in the Shanghai guidebook, but in fact, when you arrive at Wu Kang Tower, you will stop for one minute (waiting for the traffic lights), take a photo like this, and then put it in a circle of friends to attract people with good imagination to take a similar photo. As for Tianzifang, the gap between imagination and reality makes me have no desire to take pictures in continuous shooting.
The author wrote: "You indulge your imagination extremely, but you don't know that the happiness in imagination only exists in imagination. When you experience it personally in reality, you will be cruelly aware of the great difference between reality and imagination. The reality is ordinary, not as brilliant and wonderful as imagined. "
However, I don't like or agree that the essence of life written in the original book is pain and ordinary.
Beauty and experience are not separate. When I am with my beloved, it is still warm. When my little niece smiled sweetly at me, my heart was still melting, and I was still very happy to imagine that my efforts had been rewarded. Sex may not be as strong as imagined, but the happiness of love is unimaginable.
Thank the author for giving me a new angle to think and look at my happiness and anxiety.
We have a clear understanding of imaginary happiness, and we will not be tempted by beautiful things that have been easily whitewashed, nor will we blindly follow other people's lifestyles. We will try our best to avoid paying time and cost for imaginary happiness. We will no longer be dissatisfied with the ordinary moment because of the beauty of imagination, will not give up the real dullness because of the disturbance we can't get, and will try our best not to indulge in the network. The happiness and beauty there have also been selected and whitewashed.
After recognizing all kinds of things, I still live and love wholeheartedly, enjoying the little happiness of the moment, but at the same time I am no longer anxious because of the ordinary smallness, because I accept that this may be the truth of life.