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Modern life is like a river.

You need to try to resist the natural downward flow of the river; It takes a hard struggle to paddle and move a little upstream.

This is called the hardship of life. If you don't advance, you will retreat.

However, when rowing, you are surprised to find that several people are not swimming, but driving the boat upstream!

You can't help thinking: Why are boats so important, but most people are not?

Procrastination, failure, anxiety, timidity ... are all undercurrents of this river, and they are all potential energy that you and everyone have to make great efforts to get rid of.

You need a boat, too

This article is an article to help you build a ship.

PS: Because it is a Pro version, the article is a bit long, but if you really take the time to read it, you will find that it is probably the most valuable 15 minutes you spent today ~

Superpower one

The ability to control your mind with your body.

The logic of most people's work is nothing more than: I set a goal first, then find out what resources I have, and then follow what plan, plus a little self-supervision, and give myself a little reward and punishment according to the results.

For example, reading, our goal this year is 50 books, we can make a list of books, a timetable, allocate a month, a week, a day to study, and then, conquer one book at a time!

For example, to lose weight, we can set a minimum weight-loss goal, 10 kg, then set up a fitness card, control our diet every day, then record our weight changes, set the minimum number of exercises per week, and so on.

What is the final result? It's simple-most people can't do it.

Why? It is also very simple, because these methods are essentially "manipulating the body with ideas" and are doomed to failure.

You must learn to manipulate your mind with your body.

For example, reading, no matter how reluctant you are or what excuse you have, you can choose to let your body sit down first, take out the book, open it, and then start reading. After watching it for a minute or two, you will be surprised to find that you have been learning slowly by yourself!

For example, exercise, windy and rainy, working overtime in the company, stomach upset ... a lot of strange reasons will "stop" you from exercising. What should I do? It's simple. Force your body to move, stand on the equipment unconsciously, and then start practicing. Then, you will be surprised to find that lying in the trough is actually very easy to exercise!

What the hell is going on?

This is actually a biological and psychological principle, that is, there is often a deep "mutual traction" between human body and mind, but it is difficult for us to realize it ourselves.

In our potential ideas, we always think that "self" is independent, spirit and body are binary, and body is inert and needs spirit to pull ... The final result is of course-it can't move at all!

In fact, the spirit has a strong "self-adaptability".

You put your body in a scene. What about your spirit? Hehe, it will naturally accept this scene, follow the trend and "continue", and even turn the "pain" of doing this thing into "happiness".

Some friends also said that there is something wrong with your statement! If you "force" yourself to sit at your desk and "force" yourself to the fitness equipment, don't you also manipulate your body with "spirit" first?

This statement makes sense. If you really want to explain, you may have to go around philosophy.

But you can simply understand this: at the beginning, everything must exist in your mind in the form of ideas-you can regard this idea as a "flame", and then you should quickly give your body action, drag it over and let it burn!

We might as well think about it, why can't we do such a good thing as reading and losing weight? Why do we have all kinds of procrastination? In fact, when the idea of doing something was just ignited as a "flame", it was doused by various "assumptions" of the spirit-"Oh, this thing is so difficult" "I will go later" and "this thing is really boring to do"!

Daniel Kahneman, a psychologist who won the Nobel Prize in Economics, mentioned in his masterpiece Judgment under Uncertainty that people tend to distort their judgments about the future. For example, they are always used to overestimating the difficulty and underestimating their tolerance for simple things.

So, don't scare yourself psychologically, let your body drive you!

Meta-ability 2

Flexible self-monitoring ability

There is a famous question called: why do I know a lot of truth, but I still can't live this life?

For example, I have a friend who also writes articles. He took several writing classes and learned a lot, but when he wrote it, he found something was wrong-he always felt the need to adjust and revise it. As a result, it was so difficult to write that he couldn't write any more. ...

Everyone knows the story of "Walking in Handan". The Yan man who tried to learn from others finally forgot how to go his own way. ...

What is the reason?

In fact, the reason for doing this is very simple, that is, I want to use new knowledge too much in my mind, which leads to strong self-monitoring. I am always thinking about whether my work can meet the standard of "good work" and whether I can use new knowledge properly.

I call it the paradox of knowledge-the more you know, the worse you do.

By extension, newcomers in the workplace also have a lot of knowledge, rules and routines learned from books, but when they really use them, they are always tied behind their hands. The end result is that they have to make many mistakes when they don't want to make mistakes.

What should we do?

To put it simply, we should let go of ourselves and regard what we know as a "filter" rather than an "engine" for doing things.

For example, you can write an article according to your own nature until it is finished. When writing, you should not consider any "rules" or "routines" at all, and then take these things out as "inspection standards" to analyze whether your article meets the standards.

For example, what to do at work, a function, a model, you have to make a Demo first, and then improve and adjust it bit by bit according to the requirements.

The core of this way of doing things is essentially "flexible self-monitoring"-putting yourself down at the right time, focusing on production, and then testing.

If your work is creative, or you want to make something creative, or you are entering a new field to start your work, then you must believe in yourself, do it first, and then change.

In fact, most things in this world are "optimized".

Self-censorship while doing it is tantamount to self-discipline-that's why "you can't live a good life after listening to a lot of big truths."

Meta-ability three

Ability to train the senses

Ask you some very strange questions.

Have you ever trained your ears to listen more carefully and clearly?

Have you trained your tongue to distinguish the ingredients and taste of food?

Have you ever trained your eyes to distinguish the colors of pictures and scenes, and to split and combine arranged structures?

I don't think most people will.

You may also think, what's the use? It doesn't seem to work at all Wow!

Of course not. If you persist for a long time and train some senses, you will find that those seemingly unreachable things-concentration and analysis-will automatically improve!

Why? Because the human brain always tends to feel and evaluate things with a "whole intention", including listening, eating and watching.

Because things are holistic, many times our way of thinking is to give them an overall evaluation, such as "good-bad", "high-low", "good-evil", "far-near" and "beautiful-ugly".

In the long run, it is naturally difficult for us to get rid of these "overall impressions" and go deep into the details and structure of things.

For example, if a dish is delicious, can a "delicious" be summarized? What kind of taste, what kind of taste level, and what kind of taste combination are delicious?

For example, if a person looks good, what is a good opinion? Is it the shape of the eyes, the symmetry of the face or the distance and arrangement of the five senses?

For example, how good is a well-written article? How did it start? How does its argument advance? What example does it give? What is its entry point?

For example, a game is fun, why is it fun? What is its core element? What elements give people a sense of accomplishment and satisfaction? What did I hear and see in the game? How do these things combine to arouse my various comfortable feelings?

In the era of apes, the most important and basic ability of the senses is of course to distinguish between "edible" (good things) and "dangerous" (bad things), which is nature.

However, in the Internet age, we have become "apes" again, driven by "overall perception"-especially the concise and endless content, so that we can move our fingers and decide whether to go straight to the subject in just one or two seconds.

There are also many addictive games, which are obviously a bunch of simple addictive audio-visual elements, but they are still very attractive on the whole.

So, the question is, how to train your senses?

In fact, you only need to do one thing well, and that is-decomposition.

Aristotle once wrote an article called Category, which discussed how to classify things from the most basic level. In his article, he put forward ten categories, such as entity, quantity, nature, relationship, place, time, posture, state, action and orientation.

What our senses feel is also concrete, and naturally it has its own category.

The simplest ones are size, distance, state and quantity; A little more complicated is the pattern it presents; The most complicated thing is that you can think about how this thing is made from the producer's point of view.

Simple observation can rely directly on the senses without any reference, just like the sound coming from afar at the moment. You listen to its details quietly and guess what it is. This is the beginning of "decomposition".

Complex analysis, I think the best way is to read a few articles related to this thing and listen to the analysis of this thing by relevant people.

People are actually beautiful.

Once you know a lot of information related to things, such as the meaning behind the dog's gestures, the way the Buddha jumped over the wall, the chord-weave-routine of a song, the design idea of a game, and the psychological inertia of an ordinary person, you will find that you can't regard it as a whole and it doesn't matter as before.

Your observation is more profound.

Super power four

Ability to locate risks

Some people, once they miss it, stop.

If you are given a time machine, do you want to go back to the original time, tell your heart to the person you secretly love, and confess to him/her?

If you are a very rational person, your answer should be: Yes.

Why? Because from the most basic principle of finance-the "risk-return" model, confessing to a person is always a "steady profit without loss"-taking a little risk, you can get huge benefits!

You may be a little confused at first, but if you think about it carefully and confess it, you may succeed or fail. If you succeed, being a couple will bring you great spiritual ecstasy, especially those who were young. If you fail, what can you lose?

You may say that once you fail, it will be particularly embarrassing to meet.

Then please think it over. In front of the person you like, if you have a crush on you, your previous performance will be natural. And once your god/goddess is with someone else, does this sense of remorse with green hair feel like living in an ice house every day?

Even if it really fails, people will not be really embarrassed if they are thicker, and they may even care more about you and observe you. After a while, he/she will probably convince himself silently that he/she likes you, too.

Really, such examples are not uncommon. Many people who are chased will even chase the confessor, because the person who chases him/her "seems to dislike himself" in the end ... can only say that people are people. ...

Think about it. Do you regret it? You could have got it!

In fact, many things in life, from a rational point of view, belong to the business of "low risk/cost, but high profit" and "steady profit without loss", but because we have all kinds of unrealistic speculations in our minds, we have an early deterrent to our actions.

For example, regular physical examination, once a year, a few hundred dollars in a big hospital can save a lot of trouble, but many people just don't want to travel, or buy cosmetics, invite friends to dinner, and spend thousands of dollars for instant happiness;

For example, it is very simple to spend a little time sorting out today's work experience and information, but many a mickle makes a mickle. After a year or two, you will be surprised to find that your understanding of yourself, your work and even a specific field is far higher than that of ordinary people.

For example, ask people who are better than you face to face, and try to use some software that is a bit difficult at first (such as Evernote, reading software Marginnote, brain mapping software, etc.). ), and try to learn some home cooking instead of ordering takeout every day. ...

In short, when making a decision, you should think rationally. The risks and benefits of doing this are actually very small. If it fails, the loss is not big, but the gain is huge.

Meta-ability five

The ability to suddenly become happy.

Most people's mentality often collapses suddenly because of an accidental event.

Then, like snowballing, I feel that this is not smooth and that is not satisfactory. Then, I lost sleep, drank and cried, feeling that my life was too sad.

And once you're in mourning, it's over. You're not interested in anything and don't want to do anything.

What "good ability", what "study" and "lose weight", go to hell, I'm not in the mood!

But have you ever thought that if the mood can "suddenly get worse", can it "suddenly get better"?

Sure!

For example, let's take a look at this smiling Shiba Inu:

For example, I laughed for a long time after watching it.

I don't know if you can suddenly be happy after reading it. Anyway, my heart is radian.

In addition, things that will make me suddenly happy include: brushing the boring picture of the egg roll net for a while; Doby puppies or touch kittens for a while; Watch a comedy or horror movie; Review an emotional "good article" I wrote before (such as hey! Get that fish! Yes, narcissism is actually quite cool ...); Talk to someone you like for a while. ...

Of course, everyone is different from you, me and him.

What you need to do is to recall something very specific that can make you happy-it may not be that easy at first, but if you just think about it, you can definitely find something that can make you happy.

More general, or raise something, flowers, cats and dogs, all into; Or cultivate a specific hobby, and when you are upset, you will temporarily sink into this hobby.

In addition, research shows that the following things can also make people suddenly happy:

1. Concentrate on washing dishes without distractions; (Excerpted from the psychological journal Mindfulness, 20 14)

2. Clean up the house and make it tidy; (Excerpted from Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, 20 10)

3. Let everyone hear you sing; (drexel University, 20 16, Psychology Experiment and Research)

Try it ~

Why do people really need to be "suddenly happy"?

More importantly, many studies show that anxiety and sadness often "lock" a person's work and creation, which makes people fall into an endless cycle-the more anxious, the worse, and then the more anxious.

Make yourself happy, and many things will be solved!

Super power six

The ability to create conflict

In the book Linguistic Invitation, the author introduced a very interesting way to describe things and people, called "double-sided bias method", which is very classic and amazing!

This writing is very simple, that is, "when describing, it is biased towards both good and bad directions, and strives to achieve a balance between the two aspects."

Give an example from a book to see how to describe a person vividly:

If you take a closer look at this man full of conflicts, do you think the role is stereoscopic and attractive, which makes you want to know him better?

What is this? This is the charm!

The more conflicts there are in a person, the more mystery there is, just like an old jar of wine, which makes you want to taste it.

Simple people live absolutely, good is good, evil is evil, good is good, and evil is evil. See through at a glance, there is no story at all.

Really, it's boring!

Of course, human nature is like this. It's never easy to put two conflicting ideas together in your mind, because it's really hard, and you accidentally fight in your mind.

Therefore, there are only a few attractive people.

Starting today, we might as well try: allowing conflicting characteristics to coexist, both sleek and sophisticated, and innocent; Resolute and indifferent; It is sharp and harmless.

Super power seven

The ability to deliberately fail.

Study, work and life are most afraid of failure.

Once something goes wrong, even if it is sunny, your heart is soaked. Sunshine belongs to others, and you have nothing.

More failures, gradually, I began to doubt myself-"am I suitable for this?" "Why can others do it easily, but I am so difficult to do it?" "Those people are my age, but why do they achieve far more than me? Am I too stupid? "

As a result, life spirals down, and the more depressed it is, the more depressed it is, and there is no improvement.

In this case, how can anyone like to fail? Even "intentional failure"?

In order to explain this problem, it is necessary for me to re-read the story of "Edison invented the light bulb"-this story is not just useless chicken soup.

You must be tired after listening for a long time, which may be the most common inspirational story in primary school students' compositions. In the story, in order to develop a working filament, Edison tried more than 6,000 materials and made more than 7,000 experiments, and finally found a filament that could last for 45 hours.

Are you moved? So, no matter how many times you have failed, keep smiling and cheer.

Wrong.

The real essence of this story is: learn to do things scientifically!

What is "doing things scientifically"? It is very simple, that is, using the information revealed by each "failure", or even squeezing out the value that "failure" brings to you, deliberately creating failure!

Edison used horse hair, human hair and beard as filaments, but of course he failed in the end. However, in scientific archives, these failures reveal useful information-that is, none of these methods work. As researchers, can we draw an abstract inference from these failures that animal hair may not work?

You see, on the surface, it failed, but in fact, it successfully used the exclusion method!

Think about your life. Are there any choices you don't know you can make? It's better to have the courage to try than to wait and die. If you really fail, you can also get a lot of important information from your failure-even so valuable that you will never get it unless you fail several times!

In fact, it is a powerful engineering idea to regard failure as exclusion, and our whole modern industry is based on this idea.

The scientific name of this idea is cybernetics.

The specific application of cybernetics is actually a bit complicated, and the mathematical explanation must have a certain foundation to understand.

But its core idea is very simple, that is: get information from failure and use it to get close to the goal.

How to apply?

You can imagine that you are playing a target shooting game. You may not be very skilled at first, throw it at the wall. Then, you adjust your strength and throw it on the target mat; Then, according to your last experience, you adjust your direction and move closer to the target center; Then, you continue to fine-tune … Over and over again, as time goes by, you get closer and closer … Finally, you hit it!

Before you really reach your goal, all your attempts have failed. But every time it fails, it provides you with the correction information for the next throw, so that you can know which throwing methods are wrong.

This is called "feedback process" in cybernetics.

Although the idea of this process is simple, the research on it has established a higher-level "feedback process"-constantly improving the control theory and expanding the application scope. Finally, on this basis, various awesome automatic control systems and the whole modern automation industrial system are established.

Are robots advanced? If we want to study its lowest design idea, it is actually "cybernetics"!

Therefore, if failure is only failure, then failure is really meaningless; But if you can learn to extract the value of failure, and even deliberately use failure to test, then your failure is also a success!

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Today, we talked about seven "abilities that are important, but most people don't have".

These abilities have a certain "anti-human" color, so for ordinary people, they are also the most difficult to master. However, applying what we call "the ability to locate risks" and mastering these abilities is not a personal investment with small cost but great benefits.

Let's sum up these seven weapons:

1. The ability to manipulate the mind with the body-first the body, then the spirit, let the action drive the thought, and let the thought adapt automatically;

2. Flexible self-monitoring ability-when doing creative work and entering new fields, you should put yourself down first and then correct it, instead of correcting it while working;

3. The ability to train the senses-decompose your feelings, and your analytical ability will be permanently improved;

4. Ability to locate risks-There are many things in life, and the risks/costs are small, but the benefits are huge. If you catch them, invest quickly!

5. The ability to suddenly become happy-find a happy valve and let yourself laugh in the most difficult days;

6. The ability to create conflicts-tolerate conflicts, create conflicts, form contrasts, and become a mysterious person who can't stop;

7. The ability to deliberately fail-drain the value of failure, and even deliberately use failure to test.

I hope it will inspire you ~ ~

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Extended reading

The rise of machines

The lost history of cybernetics

Author: Thomas Rhett

The New York Times's "Wall Street Journal" and so on.

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