The road to success is lonely. Example 1
In Japan, there are two first-class swordsmen, Musashi Miyamoto and Yagyu Youshoulang. They have a mentoring relationship. Disciples yagyu and Shoulang had this conversation when they learned sword from Musashi Miyamoto:
The apprentice asked:? I want to be an excellent swordsman. How long do I need to study hard?
The master replied:? A lifetime. ?
The apprentice asked:? How long does it take to be your faithful servant? As long as you teach me, I will eat no matter how bitter it is. ?
The master replied:? Ten years. ?
The apprentice asked:? My old father is old, and I will have to take care of him soon. How long will it take if I study harder?
The master replied:? Thirty years. ?
The apprentice asked:? Say ten years for a while and thirty years for a while. Why? I am determined to master fencing in the shortest time. ?
The master replied:? Haste makes waste. That's what people do for quick success and instant benefit. If you have such a mentality, you will need 70 years. ?
As an apprentice, You Shoulang finally realized that he was too impatient, so he settled down to learn from the teacher. The training began, but the master's requirements for the apprentice were unexpected: let him cook, wash clothes and clean up, and forbid him to mention fencing. In this way, three years later, You Shoulang is still doing these seemingly meaningless things, and he is worried about his future.
One day, while the apprentice was not paying attention, Master and wood blade quietly hit him hard in the back. The next day, he attacked while people were unprepared. From then on, disciple Youshoulang must always be on high alert to guard against Master's sudden attack. Day after day, year after year, Youshoulang finally became the best swordsman in Japan.
It can be seen that if you want to achieve something, you can only succeed if you can endure loneliness and practice hard.
Loneliness is on the road to success Ex. 2: Loneliness is for stunning bloom.
He was lonely when he was a child, because no one played with him. He likes painting and often doodles at home alone. When he was a little older, he used chalk to draw people, trains and houses on gray walls. Since primary school, he has felt that he is different from others. ? Others say that the child is lofty. In fact, when I play with others, I always feel that there are two me, one is playing and the other is watching calmly. ? He likes painting and reading, and wants to be a famous painter when he grows up.
After the college entrance examination, his parents resolutely opposed his artistic dream. He didn't argue, leaving his parents a sentence: if science and engineering can draw, he will study. It was just a deliberate escape. I never thought that my parents really found a major that can draw. Architecture department? .
What does an architect do? At that time, don't say he didn't know, and few people in China knew. Restoration of architecture department 1977. When he went to Nanjing Institute of Technology (Southeast University), it was 198 1 year, not just the architecture department. ""? After the university resumed classes, the society was in a hungry adolescent atmosphere. He said that the principal at that time was Qian Zhongshu's cousin Qian Hanzhong. He studied in Europe for six or seven years, transferred to four or five schools, and came back without a degree. Money once said to him? Don't be superstitious about teachers, learn by yourself. If you study hard for three days in a row, you will find that the teacher has not prepared lessons at all. Just asking a few questions can embarrass the teacher. ?
So when he was a sophomore, he began to skip classes and study. He often read books in the library to kill time and read Chinese and Western philosophy, art theory, history and humanities in a daze. Recalling that time, he said:? At the beginning of reform and opening up, everyone has a strong thirst for knowledge about the outside world. ?
After graduation, he entered Zhejiang Academy of Fine Arts. He wanted to do something like architectural education, but found that the art world knew nothing about architecture. In order to make a living, he worked in a subsidiary company of Zhejiang Academy of Fine Arts, got married at the age of 27 or 28, and lived a quiet life. However, he always feels that he is not free, and the other party is watching coldly. A few years later, he finally chose to resign.
In the next ten years, the architects around him became rich, but he seemed to be isolated from architectural design and lived in seclusion, doing manual labor with craftsmen on the construction site all day, hanging around the West Lake, drinking tea, reading books and visiting friends.
Lonely, he didn't give up thinking about architecture. Do not encourage demolition, must be in the old house? Repair the old as new? He doesn't like landmark buildings and hardly does commercial projects. In China, where the rural areas are rapidly urbanized and the architectural design is industrialized, he always keeps a certain distance from the trend, which makes him controversial, unique and great.
Although his preference for traditional architecture once made him rise and fall, he persisted in his ideal. ? I want to walk silently and see how far I can go. ? Based on this idea, in the past eight years, he has transformed from Wu Sanzhai to Ningbo Museum and the Southern Song Dynasty Imperial Street in Hangzhou. Alternative persistence? ,? My principle is that the rebuilt building will smile at you. ?
His name is Wang Shu and he is 49 years old. He is the Dean of the School of Architectural Art of China Academy of Fine Arts.
20 12 On the afternoon of May 25th, the Pritzker Prize awarding ceremony was held in the Great Hall of the People, with Wang Shu on the podium. This component is equivalent to? Nobel? And then what? Oscar? China people won the International Architecture Award for the first time.
? I have to thank those lonely years. ? Talking about the secret of success, Wang Shu said that when he was young, he had an interest in painting and an ignorant concept of architecture because of loneliness. After graduation, because of loneliness, I was able to calm down and think. Many design inspirations in the future come from that period.
Although Zhang Chu sang in the song:? Lonely people are shameful, life blooms like a flower, and we can't let ourselves wither. ? But we can't forget another sentence: truly excellent people will feel lonely, and they also clearly realize that their Excellence comes from loneliness. ?
Wang Shu is lonely, but the formation of the first brand of China real estate should be attributed to this loneliness; Zhang Haidi is lonely. This writer in a wheelchair has accomplished works unimaginable to ordinary people with amazing concentration and persistence. Forrest Gump and Xu Sanduo are lonely, but they amaze the world with their unique sincerity and tenacity.
The road to success is lonely.
In the eyes of many people, loneliness? Maybe it has nothing to do with Liu Tong: Liu Tong, height1.78m, in his own words? Is it still beautiful? , published a book, 33 years old, served as the vice president of the light media division, and his work was quite successful. Gao Shuai Ritchie? . But like most post-80s generation, he also experienced the confusion of youth and hesitation in choosing a job. Although I have been pretending to be smart for a long time, I always feel that I am out of place in this world.
Talking about high school, Liu Tong said it was a time of insecurity and existence. Male students have ADI and Nike's sportswear and sneakers, but he doesn't. When boys play basketball, he helps buy water and puts it aside. ? At that time, I wanted to join my classmates' discussion and cut in, but no one cared, and I was very lost. ? Liu Tong does the most? 250? In order to make friends, he wrote a small note to the physical education Committee in his class: Hello, can I be your best friend in my life? After reading it, the other party threw it directly into the trash can.
Apart from no friendship, Liu Tong and his father had little communication in high school. To his father, Liu Tong is a person who watches TV all day, but he still watches it when there is no TV program. On the contrary, for Liu Tong, he is a child who finishes his homework at 8: 30 every night and watches TV sleepily until midnight 12 in order to wait for his father to come back and chat with him.
One day, Liu Tong wrote a proposition on a piece of paper: whose 17 years old is worse than me? He also listed them one by one? The worst? A few things: never have pocket money; Always wear the same clothes; Boys don't treat me like a boy; Girls don't treat me like a boy; My parents ignored me; The teacher ignored me.
He looked at these six things and suddenly found a connection. Finally, he came to a conclusion that teachers, parents and classmates ignored him and had no pocket money because of his poor grades. ? At that time, I was really enlightened, as if I had seen through the essence of life. ?
After finding the source of his troubles, Liu Tong began to try to change. I want to feel the feeling of getting good grades. .
Try to change
At that time, Liu Tong was a senior three, and he began to study mathematics that he had not studied since high school. Following the teacher's review rhythm, he bought three sets of problem sets, and each time he reviewed a section, he asked himself to finish all the problems. After a while, Liu Tong ranked in the top three in the math summary exam.
Liu Tong attaches equal importance to Chinese and other subjects. The Chinese score has improved from the original 80 points to the best 137 points, and the worst is not lower than 120 points. When the teacher said to Liu Tong? Come to me if you have any questions in the future. He felt respect. I really don't want to laugh, I want to cry? .
Through such an attempt to change, he understood a truth: a person must rely on ability to do something. If you doubt your ability, everything will be different just by changing your way of thinking a little.
When he was a freshman, Liu Tong kept a diary every day, and every diary would discuss a question he couldn't figure out. When he writes all the questions in his diary, a conclusion will be formed in the diary, that is, these things will be handled in this way in the future. Solving one problem every day, more than 300 problems a year, four years in college is 1000 problems. Young people don't have that many problems. At most, there are four or five aspects: family, friendship, love and future. Each category may have 100 questions. ? After four years of college, as long as you focus on yourself and solve problems every day, many problems will be solved once or twice after four years of college. When you face many puzzles in life, including the interviewer giving you a hard time, you can answer him quickly. ?
Since then, with the increase of experience, Liu realized that all kinds of loneliness are actually invisible and selfless growth. As written in the new book, loneliness is one of Liu Tong's most recognized emotions. After experiencing loneliness, there will be new strength. He explained:? It feels great to be alone. That's not failure, but the best time to talk to yourself. ?
The charm of writing
The 33 stories told in Your Loneliness cover many sectors of your life, including emotions, although they are still glorious. Not only did I recall tossing and turning on the eve of college commencement, but I pretended to be chic on the day of graduation. Instead, I poured out my emotions at the moment when I picked up my suitcase and turned around, and sincerely told my experience of persistence and compromise in the workplace. Liu Tong said that he wrote books not to show off his privacy, but to give readers another perspective. Only responsible for analysis, not for giving answers? .
In his view, writing a book is more about summing up opinions and telling yourself what to do next. The development of some things may not be clear enough before, but after reaching self-dialogue through writing, you can slowly find a solution. The final conclusion may be? Yeah, why not? When facing the same problem again, I will have a code of conduct and won't waste more time. ?
Writing is of great help to Liu Tong's work. I participated in the program Otawa Entertainment in my early years, and occasionally I was bored. Writing a book is a very important thing for him. Is it cool? Only by writing something every day, finally compiling it into a book, or sending a column, can we know what is left over this year. He concluded:? Doing TV is an art of regret, and writing can leave many precious things behind. ?
The process of naming the new book also took a lot of trouble. ? At first, I thought the current name was very melodramatic. At first, they designed more than 200 names for the book, and the discussion lasted so long that the participants almost collapsed. I want to name it? Alone, are you okay? Feeling up, I wrote some feelings about loneliness in Weibo, which coincided with the World Cup, and almost every game was over. Did anyone mention it? Although defeated, it is still glorious? Four words, and then simply named? Your loneliness, though defeated, is glorious? . ?
In his view, although the book Your Loneliness has failed, it is suitable for reading in a person's state. For example, when you want to talk to yourself, you feel confused or have problems that are difficult to think clearly. Because some sentences in the book easily resonate with readers' emotions? .
a peaceful state of mind
As far as Liu Tong is concerned, the first few years of integration into the new environment are lonely, such as the first two years of college and the first five years of work. At that time, I didn't know if I would fit in or which group you liked. .
? Everyone will face loneliness when they grow up. ? Liu Tong said that his solution to this problem is to devote his energy to what he likes, such as work and writing. These two things can make him settle down quickly. Besides, I will keep fit, listen to music or hang out, and even go on business trips.
? I have been in Guangli 10 years, and I have hardly traveled before. From the age of 30 to 33, it takes three years to control your life and have the opportunity to go out. ? Liu Tong said with a little regret.
Because of her poor English, Liu Tong often does not travel alone, but has also been to countries around China. Therefore, he had to treat every business trip as a trip. After finishing the work at hand, he went to a place for one day and left the next day. During this time, I will walk in the alley and eat food stalls. Where there are many people, he said. Then I'll feel like a local, not a passing tourist. ?
Maybe that's why Liu took this opportunity to relax. When he hears the business trip notice, will he? Very tall? . In order to nourish his spirit, he usually sleeps mainly on the plane. When boarding the plane, he will bring a lot of equipment to sleep on the plane, including earplugs, eye masks, pillows and sometimes a bottle of water. He said that basically putting these four things in place, the journey on the plane can be spent quickly, and then you can write and listen to songs when you wake up.
If he spends more than two hours on the plane, Liu Tong will also use this time to write or revise the manuscript. Every time a book is published, the publishing house will print the first draft into a thick copy for him to revise on the plane. However, Liu Tong said that his writing work was mainly done at home. After 12 pm, you will write for about an hour? .
? I still have some columns to write, but I am too busy to publish books too often. ? Liu Tong is very busy, but he still likes to separate his work from his writing.