There is a saying that marriage is a woman's second reincarnation.
The importance of marriage to women is self-evident, just as God gave women a second chance to shine. The pursuit of happiness is a compulsory course for a woman's life, and marriage is a happy habitat for women. But not every woman can feel at home in marriage. Many women, obviously trying to be a good wife and daughter-in-law, why are they still unhappy?
One of the reasons is that they don't know how to support themselves in marriage.
They spend all their energy on caring for each other and educating their children, managing their families diligently, thinking that they are trying to manage their families. In fact, this mode of operation is not perfect, because they always ignore one person-themselves.
I have a cousin who swept the floor in white gauze when she got married, and her sexy figure set off the bumps. When attending her wedding, many people thought the beauty of the bride was refined. Seeing such a beautiful cousin, I secretly envy myself and imagine that I will be so beautiful when I get married in the future.
Seeing my cousin again now, I never admire her again.
After getting married, my cousin quit her job and began to live as a full-time wife. Before getting married, she also took care of her skin in the morning and evening, had regular physical examinations and went to the gym every week. Therefore, she was elegant and gentle at that time. Now, she jumps at her brother-in-law and children from morning till night.
I went to see her after giving birth to the second child. My cousin dragged her bloated figure to open the door for me, and her cheeks were covered with two thick pregnancy spots. She smiled at me, and the fat around her waist trembled with her chin, which made me shudder.
She complains that life is too hard. Her brother-in-law goes out early and comes back late every day, and goes to bed when he comes back. When I first got married, I often held her to sleep at night. Now he sleeps directly on his side. She felt very wronged. She took care of the two children by herself, and finally the children fell asleep. She also took the opportunity to do housework and observe whether the porridge in the kitchen would overflow while mopping the floor.
The original weight of more than 90 kilograms has now soared to 150 kilograms. Going to the mall to buy clothes has become a problem. The noise at home confused the children's cries and drowned her. She was tired and numb.
If a woman doesn't know how to manage her body, men will stay away from her and even reciprocate. If a woman doesn't know how to keep healthy, she won't have the capital to invest in marriage and get happiness.
Yue Yue is a beautiful white girl. Before marriage, her boyfriend was obedient to her. After her marriage, she was a completely different person. After she was pregnant and resigned, her husband and mother-in-law looked embarrassed and went to the supermarket together. Yue Yue wants to eat plums on the shelf very much. Men don't like it and say they can buy it themselves. Mother-in-law saw it and blamed her. You spent my son's money all day without buying a bag of snacks.
Yue Yue walked out of the supermarket with tears in her eyes.
After the birth of the child, the family added another expense. Her husband frowned, and Yue Yue caught a cold and kept coughing. Her husband not only didn't take her to see a doctor, but also slapped her twice when she asked for money. Yue Yue picked up the 20 yuan money thrown on the ground with a sad face.
She felt the two red marks on her face slightly warm and woke up like a dream.
When the child was two years old, Yue Yue applied to a company as a copywriter with a monthly salary of more than 4,000 yuan. It's not much, but it's more than enough to support yourself. She also bought all the children's daily necessities. She began to get up for an hour every day and run and do exercises with the community morning exercise team. She told me that the gym near her home has a fitness card and goes to the gym every week. When she has nothing to do, she takes her children to travel.
Her dresser is full of skin care products, and the beautiful clothes in the wardrobe are displayed in order. Yue Yue always brings gifts to her mother-in-law on business trips. Even if she is trivial and disagrees with her family, she can argue and speak out, instead of just following Nuo Nuo's advice.
Yue Yue said that she no longer had to live under the fence, because she had never experienced income before, and looking after her face at home became a dispensable person. Now, both her mother-in-law and her husband will ask her for advice on major and minor issues at home. Yue Yue says it feels good to be respected.
If a woman can't achieve economic independence in marriage, then she has no foothold in marriage, not only losing her family status, but also losing the respect of her family.
Huang Lei, a well-known actor, said: What is more important than raising a daughter is raising a wife.
But not every woman can marry a good man like Huang Lei, so we can't entrust the task of enriching ourselves to men. As a woman, we should learn to enrich ourselves in marriage.
How do women enhance their personal charm by enriching themselves in marriage?
In marriage, women are most likely to tie themselves to their families, focus on men and children, and ignore their own health and physical management.
Marriage is important, but a happy woman must know how to manage her figure and pay attention to her health.
The popularity of That Year Full of Flowers made Sun Li angry again. Many people praise Niangniang as a winner in life, with excellent acting skills and a happy marriage.
After Sun Li and Deng Chao got married, their careers mushroomed and their lives were as busy as a bee. Especially with the birth of Kobanawa's younger sister, Sun Li became a woman wandering between work and family.
Although Sun Li is very busy, she never neglects physical management and personal health.
Born as a dancer, she still practiced yoga for 12 years. More than 300 days a year, she always tirelessly follows the 24 solar terms and soaks her feet in wooden barrels. She will practice Pilates hard under the guidance of the coach, and when her body gets wet, she will eat the diaphragm to get rid of it immediately. In order to eat healthily, she grows chicken feathers for her family. ...
Managing marriage is a science, but the most important thing in this science is to manage your own health, healthy body and graceful figure, which is hyaluronic acid that women keep fresh in marriage.
Don't be a full-time nanny, be a healthy and beautiful girl.
Many women have a hard time after marriage and even divorce for it. After all, they quit their jobs after marriage, take care of the family's food, clothing, housing and transportation at home, and pin their daily expenses and personal consumption on men. The man thinks that this woman is unable to support herself, and the mother-in-law thinks that her daughter-in-law is incompetent and a parasite, which invisibly lowers her family status.
Therefore, a woman who can't achieve economic independence in marriage is actually disrespected at home and the least confident in life. A happy marriage must be guaranteed by money.
I hate it when men say "I support you". Many women think it is romantic for men to say this sentence, which is equivalent to reassuring themselves. In fact, this sentence is the biggest poison in marriage.
If you don't go to work, a man will obey you at first, but after a long time, you always ask him for money, and he will think this is an incompetent woman. You eat his food, live with him and spend his money. In his eyes, you are the one who is ignored. You are not equal. Men say they support you. Don't be silly. No man wants to be your long-term meal ticket.
In marriage, both sides should always work hard at the same level in order to be happy for a long time.
When a woman achieves financial independence in marriage, she can not only live confidently, but also help a man solve problems. He'll think you're working together. For the future of a small family, your economic independence will invisibly highlight your personal charm and bring spiritual support to a man.
There is not a man who doesn't like independent, confident and confident women.
In a poem I like very much, it says: If there is a book of poems hidden in my heart, time will never defeat a kind of beauty.
Time can take away a woman's appearance, but it can't take away her inner temperament. Reading is an excellent way to improve her temperament. You can choose your favorite books in a certain field and read them for a long time. The more books you read, the bigger your world will be. On the way to study, your temperament will be gradually infected, your mind will be gradually broadened, and your vision will be expanded.
Therefore, your temperament comes from the books you have read, the roads you have traveled and the people you have loved.
The movie Roman Holiday says that there must always be a body and a soul on the road.
Either study or travel, there must be one on the road.
A friend who traveled abroad came back and told me that before going out, I thought the world in front of me was two points and one line, and I could see the border all my life.
I said, then what?
He said that when he went out, he found that there were more than an acre of fish ponds and half a candle in the world, and there were many unknown experiences.
"A person's walking range is his world", so it makes sense for Kitajima to say so.
On the way to travel, I don't walk around with a camera, but pay attention to every encounter, chat with the flower girl on the street and buy myself a bunch of flowers; Go to a small shop in a deep alley to eat and listen to the boss telling the past. ...
Married women have a busy and trivial life, but they must not be overwhelmed by the life around them. Time is actually water in a sponge. As long as you squeeze it, it will definitely ooze out. If you are in front of you, it is easy to make people distracted and life is inevitably boring. In your spare time, you must explore your interests. Besides taking care of children and cooking, you may also like arranging flowers, painting and dancing.
Sticking to a small interest is a trivial matter, as small as enriching your life. Sticking to a small interest is a big thing, so big that you can discover your own potential.
In marriage, women are not only responsible for beauty, but also for temperament and ideological progress. The best state of a woman in marriage is not to be a full-time nanny for 24 hours, but to know how to support herself. This is a man's favorite woman.