Write "Shake it three times, I love you"

201014 I got a call from my friend Wang Mei, and the first thing she said was:

"Qiong precious jade elder sister, this morning, we did gas cutting surgery for Liu Jie! My heart thumped and I exclaimed, "Cut! " 」

Sister Liu, in the movie circle, everyone calls her that, just like I call her sister. But she called me Qiong Yao because she insisted that I was younger than her. She is my old friend, working partner and director. In my life and hers, we both occupy a considerable position. Her name is Liu Lili.

The first time I met Sister Liu was 1976. I made the film I am a Cloud, and she is the assistant director of that film. I have never seen a "woman" with such a loud voice, so energetic and so strong working ability. She left a deep impression on me. When I arrived at 1978, I said to her, "You can help me as a director, you can!" She has no confidence in herself at all, and I insist that she can do it! So, she directed my "A Red Bean" and started her directing career. So she often says to me, "You are my noble, and you have changed my destiny!"! 」

In this way, Liu Jie and I became working partners. I used Qiao Ye as my pen name, and made up many screenplays, all of which were directed by her. We exchange each other's emotional life, exchange each other's spiritual secrets, and share the joy of doing drama. In the heyday of the film, every time the box office broke the record, we would open champagne at my house to celebrate. At that time, the staff, actors and her other half, Dong Ge, all arrived, and the laughter was earth-shattering. When I finished the film company, she entered the TV circle and dragged me into it. We also filmed a series of TV series, such as Sunset Red, Misty Rain, Deep Courtyard, On the Water Side and so on. She and I, in this way, became lifelong bosom friends.

Sister Liu's love life is incredible. When she was young, she was a striking figure, a "beauty queen". Dong Ge is her senior, and both of them are students in the drama department of the Political Work Cadre School (now the Political War College of National Defense University). Sister Liu is very strong, and many seniors pursue her. Everyone competed to write love letters to her and bet who could catch up. Brother Dong is one of them. However, until Dong Ge graduated, these seniors didn't catch up with her.

Soon, Dong Ge got married and married Wang Mei. When Liu Jie graduated and entered the film and television circle, Dong Ge also entered the film and television circle. They all started with "field records". After many twists and turns, they actually fell into an earth-shattering love. However, at this time, Dong Ge was "married" and they had to rent a house outside to live together. Dong Ge, with his brilliant talent and superior ability, is a "veritable director assistant" that all parties are vying for. This relationship with Liu Jie is full of drama. Sister Liu has a fierce temper. In order to quarrel with Brother Dong, she once cut her arm with a knife, and suddenly she was bleeding profusely, and almost didn't cut off her hand. It's a voluminous book, so it's impossible to elaborate.

At that time, Wang Mei had given birth to a daughter, but she was still performing in the art troupe. When Wang Mei knew that Dong Ge was having an affair, she didn't make any noise and silently endured her dissatisfaction. On one occasion, Dong Ge went to work in the south, and Wang Mei also went to perform in other places. Yazhuang, a daughter only over one year old, is taken care of by her grandparents. Unexpectedly, my daughter had a high fever in the middle of the night and persisted. Grandparents couldn't find Wang Mei and Dong Ge, but they found Sister Liu. As soon as Liu Jie heard that Dong Ge's daughter was ill, she was anxious to go straight to her grandparents' house, picked up Yazhuang and flew to the best "Children's Hospital" in Taipei at that time. At that time, there was no medical insurance, the children's hospital charged extremely high fees, and they had to be hospitalized after diagnosis. Sister Liu had no money, so she pawned all the rice cookers and thermos bottles ... all kinds of things that could be used as chess pieces, and then took her quilt to the hospital to take care of Yazhuang. When I returned to Taipei, I was shocked to learn that my daughter was ill and rushed to the hospital. I saw only one picture: Yazhuang fell asleep under Liu Jie's quilt. Liu Jie moved a small bench to sit in front of the hospital bed, holding Yazhuang in her arms, and fell asleep on the edge of the bed. Wang Mei watched in surprise, tears rolling down his face. A mother's heart and a wife's heart instantly merge into a "great love".

When Dong Ge returned to Taipei from the south, he was surprised to find that Wang Mei not only became best friends with Liu Jie, but also brought Liu Jie home. These two women said they would like to share a husband! Brother Dong couldn't believe it, but he was overjoyed to accept the fact.

From then on, they lived a threesome life. Wang Mei gave birth to two children in succession. They all regard Sister Liu as their mother and call her a "good mother". Sister Liu especially likes these three children. My youngest son, in particular, was almost brought up by Sister Liu, who loved him so much that even people who looked at me were amazed. Sister Liu is also distressed by this. In order to respect, she will not have children for life, so as not to have problems between children.

What is love in the world? I really don't understand. When they were young, no one thought highly of their relationship, and they always thought that they would fall out at any time and get out of hand. However, they have lived with kindness and love for decades. At that time, I also asked Sister Liu privately, "Are you sure that Dong Ge will live for life? You don't know the future, will you meet others again? She answered me categorically: "Impossible! I have recognized him! 」

Sister Liu's income as a director is definitely much better than when she was an assistant director. Brother Dong also became a director, but he was not as diligent as Liu Jie and took fewer plays. Sister Liu spent the money earned by the director on Dong's family, except for a few for her parents and her own use. Brother Dong is full of anger. Every time Sister Liu receives the script, Brother Dong helps to read it first, then discusses it with Sister Liu, and then helps Sister Liu divide the lens. Therefore, their work is inseparable. Wang Mei devoted himself to taking care of his family and children, and the three of them worked together to raise the children one by one. Their family has become a wonderful "unity of life". What moved me the most was Wang Mei's selfless, generous and tolerant heart that remained unchanged for decades. She is not only tolerant, but also deeply in love with Sister Liu. Once she even sincerely said to me:

"I don't know much, and I don't know much about movies. Seeing the two of them working together, I always think they should be a couple. I seem to be in their way! The implication is still very sorry.

As time goes by, Sister Liu is old and can't help me film any more. My friendship with her has not changed. Every year before the Chinese New Year, we should meet and talk about each other's lives. In 2007, Sister Liu and Brother Dong came to my house. I found that Sister Liu was a little inarticulate and walked askew. Brother Dong just told me that Sister Liu had a rare hereditary disease, cerebellar atrophy. I was dumbfounded at once. I have seen a Japanese film called "A liter of tears", which recorded how a girl with this disease walked towards death step by step. Sister Liu comforted me when I was frightened. She said, "My mother has this disease, which will gradually make people lose their ability to move, paralyzed and unable to speak. However, it will not affect wisdom and life. After my mother got sick, she lived for twenty years! " Dong Ge said, "Twenty years is enough. Wang Mei and I will take care of her for these twenty years! 」

That day, I watched Dong Ge help Liu Jie leave my house, and my tears swirled in my eyes. I immediately rushed to the computer to search for information about "cerebellar atrophy" and found that, as Sister Liu said, if the elderly get this disease, it will not affect their intelligence, but they will gradually lose all their ability to live. I thought, how can an energetic person like Sister Liu stand the fact that she is gradually paralyzed? It doesn't matter if you lose your mind, you don't know anyway! If your thoughts are always clear, but you don't even have the ability to express them, aren't you imprisoned in your own body? Will Dong Ge and Wang Mei have the patience and ability to take care of her by then? After all, Dong Ge and Wang Mei are old, and Dong Ge himself is in poor health.

Since then, Wang Mei and I have often talked about Sister Liu's illness on the phone. Sister Liu was not as optimistic as she said, and her condition deteriorated rapidly. From onset to inability to walk, to inability to speak clearly at all, it took three years. Wang Mei puts her in a wheelchair, goes to bed, bathes her, feeds her, pushes her out for a walk every day ... There is a new grandson in the family, so you can imagine how hard life is. I advised her to find a foreign nurse to share the hard work. If Wang Mei falls, who will support this family? She listened to me and hired a good Indonesian nurse.

Then one day, Wang Mei told me that Sister Liu was admitted to the intensive care unit because of a lung infection, and now she is being intubated for treatment, so she may not make it. I am so sad that I can't help choking when I talk about my sadness. At that time, I asked Wang Mei not to "snuff out" Liu Jie at the last minute, because "snuffing out" would prolong her life, but it could not cure the disease. Let her go. I, myself, have written the words to give up first aid and tell my son not to die and go into shock. Then, let me leave safely.

Therefore, I was shocked when I heard Wang Mei say that she helped Liu Jie break off relations. I asked, why do you have to die? Wang Mei choked up and said, don't give up! The cannula pierced her throat. The doctor said that someone was saved after being cut at the age of 80. Besides, Sister Liu is conscious and will blink to express her opinion. When they asked her if she wanted to be cut off, she frowned and said no. But Wang Mei asked her, "Don't you want to go home?" ? Don't you want to see your two grandchildren? Sister Liu blinks again and again! Wang Mei said:

"She still has the will to live, and she can still love! We can't part with her! 」

Speaking of which, Wang Mei suddenly said to me, "I divorced Dong Ge! 」

"What?" I asked in surprise. "At this point, you still divorce Dong Ge? 」

"I dare not tell you," Wang Mei said apologetically. "After our divorce,10.3, Dong Ge was in the hospital and married Liu Jie! She must be a justified Mrs. Dong! In case she leaves, my son can help her be a dutiful son and hold her spiritual position! 」

I held the microphone and couldn't say a word for a long time. Tears swirled in my eyes and my voice got stuck in my throat. Wang Mei on the other end of the phone is hoarse. Brother Dong took the phone and continued to tell me. Tell me that the whole proposal of divorce and marriage was put forward by my son Hayes. Because he wants to be Liu Jie's adopted son and Liu Jie's "dutiful son".

Before they got married, they showed Sister Liu a divorce certificate in front of her hospital bed. Dong Ge said:

"I can marry you! Do you want to marry me? " Sister Liu's eyes were moist and she blinked. Express one's wishes

So, 10 3, doctors and nurses decorated the ward into a new house, hung a sign and a bunch of balloons. The staff of the district office was invited to witness (because marriage registration is required). Everyone sang TV theme songs such as "Deep Courtyard" around the hospital bed. Liu Jie smiled. She hasn't laughed for a long time, but she did ... Brother Dong has married a bride who has been in love for more than 40 years, and now he is lying in a hospital bed and can't move!

I cried when I listened. I said:

"Dong Ge, in your life, there are two great women, you didn't live in vain! Should I say congratulations? " I was speechless, and my heart was full of emotion and excitement. Wang Mei took the phone again and said to me:

"Although we didn't do what you mean, we helped her cut off the gas. The doctor said that she could live for many years after gas cutting. We don't know how long Sister Liu will live. If her condition is stable, she can be discharged from the hospital in two weeks. I will take her home and be surrounded by my children and grandchildren. She will be happier! Today, I went to the hospital to see her. I held her hand, you know? I can't believe she shook me a few times as if it were saying something to me! " I was shocked and thought of telling Liu Jie, "Knock three times, I love you! I wanted to make a movie at that time. That story is included in My Days Never Died, and Sister Liu likes it very much. I immediately knew that Sister Liu was saying to Wang Mei, "Shake it for me, I love you!" ! 」

This is the story around me, the most true story. I have been very excited after hearing this story. I remembered the wedding in the hospital where everyone sang "Deep Courtyard" and my good friend Liu Jie and her family. I can't do anything. My eyes have never been dry, so I want to cry. However, it must be a great comfort to think that Sister Liu will attend such a wedding at the end of her life! She paid so much love in her life, and Dong Ge and Wang Mei repaid her with such deep love! She deserves it! If, in our society, we don't have to look at all kinds of love critically, but can appreciate and tolerate such love, how good it would be! Besides, even comrades are going to get married by law now!

Human love is very complicated. I have a friend who studies science. He told me that there are huge galaxies in the universe, and each galaxy may be bigger than our solar system. When two neutron stars merge, they will produce great power, which is called "gravity wave". "Gravity waves" will produce ripples in time and space, change time and space, and have great influence. He said: "The incredible encounters and feelings between people may be caused by gravity waves. There is no right or wrong, because gravity waves are powerful, doomed and inescapable. Maybe today, you and I met on a planet hundreds of millions of years ago, which is why "deja vu" and "love at first sight" happened. 」

I don't understand science. Today, at the time of writing this article, "gravity wave" has been directly detected and confirmed by human beings at 20 17 10 10/6. However, Einstein predicted it a hundred years ago, and no one believed it at that time. Does this have anything to do with the story of Sister Liu and Brother Dong? My friend who believes in science and love said, "If you believe in gravity waves, you will believe in all the incredible love in the world! 」

I couldn't calm down when I learned that Sister Liu and Brother Dong were married. I want to write this story down at once. There is not only love in this story, but also great love that you and I can't understand! Why do some people still don't believe in "love on earth"? I hope Sister Liu Can will leave the hospital as soon as possible, return to her newly-married home and enjoy the love of her relatives again! Because she still has consciousness, consciousness and love!

Today is 20 17, 101October 30th. It has been seven years since Sister Liu died. I rearranged the article "Shake it three times, I love you!" " "Because in the past seven years, many things have happened to me. Tao Xin lost his mind, and I tried my best to take care of him. After he got angry again, I helped Tao Xin's child and inserted a nasogastric tube against his will. At first, I asked the East Brother and his wife not to help Liu Jie cut gas, but the gas was cut, and the process was similar. In these seven years, Dong Ge and Wang Mei have been taking care of Liu Jie. After repeated pneumonia, I finally stayed in the hospital for a long time. Wang Mei began to run around the hospital and home, helping Liu Jie's gradually deformed body, wiping herself, and telling Liu Jie all kinds of things at home, whether Liu Jie could understand it or not. Sister Liu can no longer express herself and becomes a standard "bedridden old man".

In August of 20 15, Dong Ge was dying of emphysema and said to Wang Mei:

"If my time is up, don't help me plug any pipes. Li's tragedy will not happen twice in our family. I don't want to live like her! 」

Wang Mei agreed. After Dong Ge was hospitalized, he took off his oxygen mask and said to Wang Mei:

"I want to sing! 」

He sang two songs to Wang Mei, one is Curtain of Dreams, and the other is Grateful Heart. He held Wang Mei's hand and told him in Wang Mei that he would continue to take care of Liu Jie, and then passed away with a faint smile.

Usually, the caregiver will leave before the cared-for person. I went to see Tao Xin only two days ago. I checked his hands and feet and told him I was coming! He didn't respond at all. I looked at deformed hands, feet and bent body and knew that even so, he could "live" for a long time under pipes and drugs. I couldn't help whispering to him, "Maybe I can't send you away. Looks like I'm going to walk in front of Sister Liu like Brother Dong! 」

When I went home, I was very sad. I thought about Sister Liu's story, and I told myself that I would reorganize and rewrite Shake Three, I Love You. Sister Liu is still alive for seven years! Tao Xin is still alive and has been hospitalized for 608 days. I remember that I held a symposium on new books when Before Snowflakes Fall was published. At the symposium, I talked with several doctors about "the elderly in bed" and "the problem of intubation". After the symposium, I walked off the platform and hugged the guests. Unexpectedly, Wang Mei is here. She hugged me and cried and said in my ear:

"Qiong precious jade elder sister, read your book, more understand! We shouldn't have disobeyed you! I shouldn't have helped Sister Liu! 」

I held back my tears and hugged her tightly. Great women are often hidden in small corners of society. But also be criticized by the "moral vision" of this society. I know, she is still taking a bath for Sister Liu and taking care of her husband's woman the next day! Oh, no, she's divorced. Is to take care of the wife of her dead ex-husband!

The true story has been playing around me.

Tomorrow, I want to go to the hospital and shake hands with Tao Xin three times!

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Precious jade

20 17. 10.30, written in keyuan