Method 1: Create a safe space.
1. Find a place where you can get rid of your parents completely, maybe in a corner of the bedroom, garden or backyard. You can even go to a friend's house or other places where you can feel safe and separated from your parents. Whenever the situation becomes difficult, immediately hide in your safe space and let yourself be clean. Try to choose a place that will not be disturbed or harassed by your parents. Living room or other public areas are not suitable as safe spaces.
Method 2: Stay away from your parents when things get worse.
1. Hide in your own safe space and don't argue with your parents. When the conversation between you becomes fierce and hurtful, don't try to fight back, turn around and leave this place. You don't have to put up with their hurtful remarks silently. If things get worse, you can even go to the home of a friend or relative.
Method 3: Clear boundaries.
Setting boundaries can create a safe distance between you and your parents. Remember, you don't have to put up with hurtful remarks, especially when your parents always belittle you. Tell them calmly which behaviors are allowed, which behaviors are excessive and which ones you can't stand. Setting clear expectations for your parents may prevent them from bullying you in the future. You can say, "I know you don't agree with all my decisions, but you can't treat me like this." I will try to reduce the time I stay at home until you stop hurting me with words. "
Method 4: Don't tell your parents everything.
1. Parents have no right to know all the thoughts in your head. Think of it this way: if someone bullies you at school or at work, you won't tell them your biggest secret and worry, will you? This principle also applies to parents. You don't have to let your parents know your thoughts, worries, hopes and dreams, especially when they always humiliate you. This doesn't mean that you have to keep all your thoughts and feelings in your heart. You can share your thoughts with your trusted friends, relatives or adults.
Method 5: Imagine that parents have a "limit" on their foreheads.
1, the word "limited" means "limited". It's easy for you to take your parents' cruel words to heart, especially when you still live together. However, you should know that their ideas and opinions are very limited and cannot represent all your values or abilities. Imagine that they have a "limit" engraved on their foreheads, and it will be easier for you to keep your distance from your parents who bully you and remind yourself that their words are not the law.
Method 6: Don't try to please them.
1, your emotional health is the most important. There is nothing wrong with trying to please your parents, but you can never please your parents who always humiliate and hurt you. Instead of worrying about parents' opinions, it is better to insist on making decisions that will make you happy and satisfied. Even if your parents force you to take part in sports, you still insist on choosing your favorite activities or clubs.
Even if your parents humiliate your clothes, keep wearing the clothes you like.
Method 7: Think twice before talking to your parents.
1, impulsive response can't bring effective communication. When your parents hurt you, it is understandable that you want to say something mean to fight back. However, an impulsive reaction may aggravate the dispute, which will only worsen the situation in the long run. It is best to respond to each other in a polite, neutral and non-degrading way. You can respond to the other person in a polite and respectful way, such as "this is very interesting", "you have the right to express your opinion" or "let me think about what you said".
Method 8: Deal with painful childhood memories.
1. Try to trace back the reason why you feel insecure. Parents' hurtful words will seriously affect your sense of self-worth, especially the harsh words they said when you were a child. Remind yourself that your self-worth is not determined by your parents' opinions. No matter what your grades are or what activities you like to do in your spare time, you are a beautiful and valuable person. If your parents have been calling you "stupid" or "irresponsible" because of your poor grades since childhood, you can say to yourself: "My personal value is not defined by grades. Even if I am not good enough for my parents, I am good enough for myself. This is the most important thing. "
Method 9: Take care of yourself.
1, domestic bullying will affect your physical and mental health. Try to get enough sleep every night and eat enough healthy food and snacks every day. Take time out for exercise, such as running, going to the gym or taking part in a sport. Spend more time with friends and relatives who can help you build confidence in your spare time, and less time with people who slander you. For example, instead of staying at home with parents at night, it is better to go out to the movies with some friends.
Try to stay refreshed, in order to better deal with parents in daily life.
Methods 10: Ask other relatives and friends for help.
1, you don't have to face all this alone. Spend more time with friends or relatives you trust. Build yourself a huge and healthy support network to remind yourself that you are not alone. You can call your close uncle or aunt, or spend more time with friends who work together.
Methods 1 1: consult the adults in the school.
1. Most high schools and universities have well-trained resident counselors. Go to your school counselor's office to make an appointment. They can guide you with some useful coping skills and methods to make your home life easier. You can talk to any adult you trust, such as nurses, teachers or school administrators.
Method 12: Call the hotline for help.
1. If there is no trustworthy person around, the hotline is a good channel for help. Bullying is terrible and makes you feel helpless, especially from your parents. Fortunately, now you can find someone to talk to by phone and get the necessary support. If you live in Chinese mainland, you can call 12338 for counseling or asylum services.
If you live in Hong Kong, you can call the hotline of the Society for the Prevention of Child Abuse at 2755 1 122.
If you live in Taiwan Province province, you can call the protection hotline 1 13.
If you live in Malaysia, you can call the 24-hour hotline 15999 for help.
If you live in Singapore, you can call the community care hotline 1800-2220000.