We seem to be young, but in fact, we have long been surrounded by unavoidable heavy pressure and mediate in it.
Wilde once said, I don't want to make a living, I want to live.
But now we have to make a living, not live.
At the age of 30, we are old and young, and there is more than one family behind us;
In the workplace, there is pressure from above and pressure from below. Listen to the command of the veteran, but also be wary of being surpassed by young people everywhere.
We dare not spend money at will or invest in our own happiness. Every hard-earned money has its mission.
Life has become the last thing we dare to think about at present.
So worry and anxiety have become a daily routine. Slowly, in the imprisonment we set for ourselves, we become our most annoying appearance day by day.
You helped many people, but you just lost yourself.
However, it is not easy for people to come to this world. Do you really want to live like this all your life?
In fact, there is no crisis in middle age, but you set limits on your life. Sometimes you can see more possibilities of life just from another angle.
Today, Mi Zhi has selected five good books for you here, hoping to help you find yourself full of enthusiasm and hope and successfully start the journey of reshaping your life.
The Moon And Sixpence
Douban score: 8.8
Someone once said, "You once told me that life is not just now, but until now, I haven't seen poetry or the distance."
In fact, poetry and distance have always been there, but you dare not take the steps of pursuit.
This is a story about dreams and pursuits, in which everyone can find his own shadow.
How many times have we even dared not forget to look at the beautiful and distant moon in order to hold the vulgar but indispensable sixpence in our hands?
Life is long but fleeting. Some people are content with the triviality of daily necessities, while others are pursuing their ideals alone.
Charles, the hero of the story, is a desperate dreamer: "There are sixpence everywhere, but he looks up and sees the moon."
There is a deep metaphor behind his story, which may be extreme, but it happens in every corner of the world.
He will shake your numb heart and remind you of the most precious thing in your heart, called "dream"
He will show you another possibility of life. If you don't like my life, you will live my life.
He will also tell you that the most important thing in life is the eternal present.
Every day is the first day of the rest of your life. Age, family and work should never be a reason to limit your pursuit of life.
Strange life
Douban score: 8.3
This is a wonderful biography about the magical Soviet "slash youth" Lyubyshev, how to use a magical time management skill to make his 1 life better than others' 5 lives and 10 lives.
After reading it, you will be surprised at the fruitful results of Lyubyshev's 56-year-old habit:
He is not only a biologist and an expert in the history of science, but also a philosopher and writer. His research achievements and works span many disciplines, including more than 70 works, involving analytical mathematics, taxonomy, entomology and other fields.
As an entomologist, just look at his work on the classification of ground fleas. A * * * has made thirteen thousand ground fleas, each of which has to be identified, measured, sliced and made into specimens, and the materials collected are five times more than those collected by the Institute of Zoology.
He has written more than 500 papers and monographs, which is equivalent to nearly 13000 typed manuscripts, which is quite a huge number even for professional writers;
He is the director of the university teaching and research section and the head of the institute. He also wrote memoirs and recalled many scientists. ...
You might say that he must have done so many things at the expense of his family and health.
But in fact, he has a regular schedule, sleeping 10 hours every day, walking and swimming and other sports activities.
He is also keen on spiritual entertainment and enjoys watching plays, movies, concerts and exhibitions.
How can he do so many things? !
Everyone has 24 hours a day, and the time is equal, and everyone is no exception. But every day, the use effect of these 24 hours is very different.
There is a famous saying that a real great man and a strange man is not because he knows what others don't know, but because he has done what everyone knows to the extreme, and no one can do it.
So, how to apply a simple time management gadget to the extreme and live a strange life like Lyubyshev? In this book, you will find the answer you want.
Self - control
Douban score: 8.3
Self-control, also known as willpower, is the ability of people to control their attention, emotions and desires.
Does it sound difficult? Let's take a look at the following scenario:
I decided to lose weight, but I was invited by my friend. After struggling for 3 seconds, I silently made a good wish to "lose weight after eating this meal", and then I ate without burden;
I couldn't resist the temptation of delicious food, so I decided to find another way. I decisively paid for an expensive fitness card, but I only went there two or three times, and I don't even remember the coach's appearance.
I plan to go to bed early and get up early to form a good routine, but as soon as I go to bed, I can't help touching my mobile phone and playing until two o'clock in the morning under the self-comfort of "just want to see who has something to find me";
I made up my mind to put down my mobile phone and continue my studies, so I bought a cabinet of books. Finally, I didn't read a few pages, and the dust didn't fall.
Before the Double Eleven, tell yourself never to hoard goods, just buy what you need, and then chop your hand on impulse! As a result, when I pushed the shopping cart to pull the courier, I found myself Guanyin with a thousand hands.
This is the normal state of our life, and we have to admit that it is not easy to control ourselves successfully.
Have you ever been confused because of poor self-control?
What's the difference between ordinary people and people with strong self-control? Can self-control be improved through training? How to improve?
You know, only by understanding the origin of the problem can we solve it effectively.
Since its launch, this book has sold millions of copies, firmly occupying the first place in Amazon's "Emotional Intelligence and Emotion" category.
The author, Professor Kelly, is a widely acclaimed psychologist at Stanford University. Her course is the most popular psychology course in Stanford University, and everyone who has participated in it says that it can "change life".
Regardless of whether this course or this book can really change your life temporarily, good self-control can really bring you new changes.
You can continue to rely on brute force to fight procrastination, lazy cancer, hoarding, and small waistlines. Of course, you can also live the life you have long wanted from the beginning of this book.
energy management
Douban score: 7.7
Through the above books, you have found your initial heart, learned time management and effectively controlled yourself. But in this internet plus era, we are busy racing against time every day, but we can't resist mental fatigue and break through the limits of our bodies.
Man is not a machine, everyone's energy is limited, and we need rest and recovery to be used back and forth.
Have you ever experienced that a tense nerve suddenly broke, and when you worked hard against time, you couldn't help falling ill, and finally watched the opportunity slip away?
Have you ever experienced, in the repetitive work day after day, you have no passion, but you can't lift your spirits when you want to improve, and your mind and body are exhausted and your attention drops sharply?
Have you ever felt that you obviously want to be kind and patient to your children and considerate and tolerant to your lover, but you are upset because of busyness and fatigue, and finally turn them into an outlet, but your regrets are getting numb?
The total amount of time per day is constant and we can't change it, but we can change the efficiency of unit time by adjusting the energy reserve and quality.
Energy Management is a super best seller in The New York Times. After reading it, you will understand that it is not lack of time, but energy management needs to be optimized. Recognizing this will give you the power to subvert your previous lifestyle.
Starting from the four dimensions of physical fitness, emotion, thinking and will, and combining with a large number of life examples, the author comprehensively expounds how this magical "whole-hearted energy management training system" will keep you enthusiastic and energetic in your life and work, and achieve satisfactory performance.
Following the energy management system, you will be able to mobilize the four energy sources of physical fitness, emotion, thinking and will at will, and improve them like training muscles, establish an efficient and perfect energy management habit system, and run your own rhythm in life and work.
You just need to make some simple changes: for example, adjust your work and rest and diet, learn to accept and adjust your emotions, practice concentration and optimism, define your life goals, face up to and embrace yourself, manage the rhythm of work and rest and exercise, and gain a new and positive life experience by establishing the power of positive ritual habits.
Mom, who will make money?
Douban score: 7.5
This is a guide to wealth freedom tailored for modern women.
Crystal, the author of this book, is a best-selling author, speaker, founder of a mom's money-saving blog and mother of three children.
She is at home full-time because of her physical condition, but she doesn't want to indulge in daily necessities. With only a high school education, she tried every means to make money, made a lot of efforts and attempts, finally realized financial freedom and started charity.
Whether you are a professional woman juggling between family and work, or an overworked and anxious stay-at-home mother, whether you want to contribute to the family's economic situation or take care of your dignity and dreams while you are busy, you will be inspired by this book.
The book records a large number of real cases of stay-at-home mothers starting businesses, and you will see how many ordinary people have successfully counterattacked from scratch without funds, resources and contacts.
Crystal also shared many practical tips and valuable experiences in the book, which helped you to open the limitations of thinking and find your own position from the perspectives of money, career planning and specific action guidance, so as to start your own overtaking journey in corners.
Best of all, the author also provides great suggestions on how to balance family life and career development in the process of starting a business or sideline, and how to achieve a positive impact on children through words and deeds in this process.
It is not so much a guide book to guide women to make money and start a business as a golden key to enlighten their thinking. No one's success can be completely replicated, but the thinking behind success is the same. As long as we establish correct values and master appropriate methods, the financial freedom of ordinary people will no longer be an unreachable dream.