However, those who travel a hundred miles are half-ninety, and many people fall on the road to success, and even give up their efforts when they are about to succeed.

Many people have seen such a cartoon. A diamond digger dug a lot of mines, but he always gave up when he was about to dig diamonds, and then complained that there were no diamonds here.

In fact, success sometimes lies in persistence, and some successful books also shout such a slogan: "Success means persistence when you can't persist." But as for how to persist, they have no effective method.

Winning a successful protracted war requires three skills:

Train "self-made muscles", be rational and confident, and maintain tenacity.

First, train "self-made muscles" to build lasting combat power.

The biggest obstacle to success is not from the external environment, but from ourselves. You know, just like people who lose weight will always see all kinds of sweets, the desires and temptations in life are always with us, testing our execution all the time. Therefore, success requires you to overcome those impulses or desires again and again, which requires strong self-control.

Scientific research has proved that self-control is just like every muscle in your body. If you don't exercise, it will shrink. If you exercise self-control every day, it will become stronger. Scientists have done an experiment of self-control training, allowing participants to become members of the gym for free, and designed aerobics, weightlifting, endurance training and other projects for them. After two months of regular exercise, these participants took a self-control test. The results show that they not only improve their self-control, but also make remarkable progress in all aspects of life that need self-control.

How to exercise self-control?

You can accept some challenges that you are unwilling to accept, such as giving up high-calorie food, doing 100 sit-ups every day, sitting up straight, learning a new skill and so on. It may be a little difficult at first, but as long as you start with a very simple action, you will gradually find yourself stronger and can accept more challenges, and the exercise of self-control will depend on a higher level.

It should be noted that at least part of the energy for self-control comes from blood sugar in the body. The best way to maintain blood sugar in the body for a long time is to ingest protein and complex carbohydrates. In other words, you can eat a snack or drink a sugary drink, which can reach your brain in ten minutes and help your self-control.

If a strong body is the foundation to ensure success, then a strong "self-control" is a powerful guarantee for success. If you make every effort to exercise self-control, you will be one step closer to success.

Second, rational optimism, to achieve happy combat

Although strong self-control can urge us to carry out the plan to the letter, it also means unbearable pain, which is often difficult to last. At this time, we need to maintain a confident and optimistic attitude, fight happily, and let self-control play a greater role.

Of course, for some goals, it is an optimistic spirit to believe that success will bring great motivation. But this optimism is not those unrealistic blind optimism. For example, I think it is easy to succeed, and so on.

There is a talented actor who may become a good actor. But he never auditioned and always "waited for the arrival of a good role". As a result, he never received a film contract.

Therefore, if your optimism comes from reasons beyond your control, such as "I will succeed because I am smarter than others" or "I will succeed because I always do things smoothly", then you will eventually harm yourself. Only when you think you can control the situation through hard work, planning and corresponding strategies can your optimism be based on reality. This optimism brings people energy and motivation.

How to determine whether you are blindly optimistic?

First ask yourself, why are you optimistic?

If you are going to interview for a new job and you feel that you have an advantage over other applicants, then you should think about what advantages you have. You can write it down one by one.

Next, consider whether others have the same advantages as you.

If you think you are smart, or your academic qualifications are excellent, so it is possible to apply successfully, then please think about it. Will other applicants be smart and have the same excellent academic background? Can you really stand out? Finally, you should think about how you should control success or failure. What can be done to improve the chances of admission? How to present your best in an interview? What can be done to make success a reality? Only by considering these problems thoroughly can you have real optimism to help you overcome the test of will.

Similarly, if you do encounter difficulties and setbacks, you need to rebuild your confidence. At this time, you can recall your past successful experience and remind yourself in this way that you have this ability, which will help to enhance your self-confidence. In other words, if you doubt your ability, then don't focus on your ability, but on how hard you work, which is often the key to success. Only by conceiving the steps needed for success in our minds and making full preparations in advance can we truly gain "rational self-confidence" and face challenges more confidently.

Third, maintain resilience.

In addition to optimism and self-confidence, maintaining resilience is also closely related to success. The author believes that toughness can predict a person's highest academic qualifications, and the stronger the toughness, the higher the students' grades. Psychologist Angela Duckworth calls this trait "wear resistance". She said: "A durable person regards achievement as a marathon: his strength is endurance." Wear resistance, that is, toughness, is a mixture of long-term investment and persistence.

Fortunately, the good quality of tenacity, like self-control, can be enhanced through exercise. What methods can enhance our resilience?

First of all, you can choose those goals that will make you more tenacious. As we said in previous courses, we should focus on progress, not performance. Choosing this goal, no matter how far the road ahead is, can bring you a sense of accomplishment and cultivate your optimism.

When a goal can truly reflect your likes and dislikes, values and wishes, no matter how long the goal lasts, you will want it more, enjoy the struggle more and naturally become more tenacious.

Many scholars spend most of their lives indoors, sitting at their desks, facing a mountain of books and papers, and spending years or even decades studying a mathematical or chemical problem. You may think that the problems they study are obscure and terrible, but most of the time the facts are just the opposite. Their enthusiasm for exploring that kind of knowledge is naturally formed, because the topics they have studied all their lives are their own choices.

Another way to enhance toughness is to correctly summarize the reasons for failure. When faced with failure, if you think that the reason for your poor performance is low ability, then you will feel bad, then you will feel anxious and depressed, and finally lose confidence and resilience. On the contrary, if you think that the reason for your poor performance is that you don't try your best, or that there is something wrong with your expression, you are less likely to feel bad, and you are more likely to solve the problem and keep trying, which is precisely the performance of perseverance.

Therefore, failure can only blame you for not working hard, not your stupidity. Diligence, planning, persistence and good strategy are the real keys to achieving the goal. If you think that you can't achieve your goal because you lack the necessary ability, you won't make any effective changes. Realizing this will not only help you see yourself and your goals better, but also enhance your resilience. Only those who are willing to devote themselves to their goals for a long time and never flinch in the face of difficulties are more likely to succeed.

To sum up, we can resist temptation and desire by training "homemade muscles" and taking protein and complex carbohydrates; If you want to put an end to blind optimism, you need to always ask yourself where your strengths are and how to strengthen your strengths and make yourself "rational and optimistic".

Finally, usually pay attention to choose those goals that can make you more tenacious, and pay attention to correctly summarize the reasons for failure.

In this way, we can maintain the ability to fight continuously on the road to success.