According to the traditional thinking of China people, it seems natural for women to get married and have children. Especially in some conservative families, if you make a plan not to get married, it is simply a big violation. Rather than saying that such an idea is feudal and conservative, women should have a protected natural quality. Regardless of feminism or male chauvinism, women are generally weaker than men in physical structure and psychological endurance. Of course, nowadays, we have already walked out of the era of small feet, independent lifestyle (including diet, fitness, etc. ) has given women a lot of room for self-improvement, so it is not that all women are weaker than men, but most of them are common. So the general idea is that it is more appropriate for women to find a partner who can take care of themselves when they reach a certain age.
I don't think this kind of cognition should be opposed, what's more, women, even men, also have the right to find a mentally reliable partner. Everyone lives alone in this world. Even with more and closer relatives and friends, among the three relationships of family, friendship and love, no friendship can be overlapped or replaced. Back to the topic, intimacy in love and whether a woman wants to get married are not the same concept. What people need after all is companionship, not a paper engagement. Although many cases have proved that the emotional relationship of paperless engagement is complex, changeable and disturbing, don't forget that there are many cases that are divided precisely because of a paper engagement.
Before I got married myself, I was a staunch unmarried person. The premise of this aspect is naturally that I become neutral on this issue, and I am no longer as impulsive and extreme as before. Because of the unpleasantness of family background; Psychological shadow caused by life experience; And the setting of life goals, three views ..... and so on, which made me fear and reject marriage from a very young age. After groping for the first half of more than 30 years, I have long adapted to the single life and become more and more convinced? Women can arrange themselves without getting married? . My unsociable personality, coupled with the fact that each relationship can't last for three months, makes me more and more comfortable on the road of unmarried.
At that time, I deeply felt that when a woman came to my state of life, she knew how to plan her later life without saying much. The increasingly sound social welfare system has also given me a lot of comfort, and I naturally thank myself for this era. It was not until my husband appeared that I slowly softened my stubborn persistence. Everything went against my original intention (slapping me in the face). We got married in less than two months, but to my surprise, from acquaintance to acquaintance; From engagement to license; From parent-teacher conference to preparing for marriage; From wedding photos to back and forth between husband and wife; From house decoration to honeymoon trip ..... We never blushed or quarreled. Our three views are surprisingly consistent, but fortunately I naturally integrate into each other's whole family.
Now, this marriage has lasted for seven years. As an older woman who has worried relatives and friends to the point of collapse, I still find it hard to believe this dreamlike experience. To tell the truth, every time I think about my marriage, I am a little confused, and I haven't learned to adjust my subverted marriage view yet. Even today, when I meet friends who come to me for help because of quarrels, fights, discord and mother-in-law relationship, I will still advise them not to make up. Because, even though I compromised, do you believe it? Women can always find the right marriage and really want to get married? But it still doesn't mean I agree. Women should get married, or they will get married for nothing? .
Whether to enter the marriage relationship should be everyone's decision, not Fan Fanzhi's. Everyone is an independent individual who can be responsible for himself and should be responsible for himself. Whether to get married or not, only you can make a decision, and no one's speech and position can replace others. Many people think that maybe most women are not very happy after marriage, but there is no way, that is the true face of marriage! Daily necessities, short parents, and two families without intersection will be full of various problems, which cannot be solved by idealism.
So women should be realistic. They are just like anyone. They should always follow the rules and go through a journey of getting married and educating their children. It's just that I think women should be realistic, but the reality is that they are good to themselves and responsible for their own lives, instead of getting married hastily and living a life they don't like because they are afraid of living in vain. In fact, things in this world are hard to say. Some people really don't need marriage, while others live for it. Therefore, people have different opinions about the saying that living in vain is not in vain.