From acquaintance to acquaintance, from love to love, the gradual deepening of feelings often makes some men and women who have entered the period of love "take it lightly", their minds begin to get hot, and they begin to ignore each other's feelings when they speak. This is a very "dangerous" signal-men and women who are madly in love, inappropriate words can easily cast a shadow over hard-won feelings, and may even lead to a tragic ending of parting ways. Do not believe, look at the following couple:

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Chen Hua and Du Jun have been in love for more than a year, and they used to have a good life. I don't know what happened recently, but they began to find fault with Du Jun's family: "Look at your mother, she has been doing housework all her life, and she is still at that level. The rice she cooked is worse than the cauldron cooked by the school canteen master. She washes dishes and chopsticks without gloves, and digging oil in the pool with her fingernails is not too dirty! And your dad, drink every day, a drink also like to sing a little song, whining all day, also not too tired ... "

At first, Du Jun said nothing. However, Chen Yizhi nagged, and Du Jun was inevitably disgusted: "My mother still can't do housework well?" My mother is not a cook. Cooking is almost enough. If you don't brush the pool, of course there won't be oil stains! What are the reasons why people who don't work start work? My father worked hard all his life, and now he is retired. Relax, have some wine and hum a little song. Can't you stand it? As far as you are concerned, you are not married. In this way, if you get married, how can you find fault in the egg? "

Chen Hua has never seen Du so angry. It was hard to accept, and he slammed the door. She thought Du Jun would chase her, but she miscalculated. Chen Hua's disrespect for Du Jun's parents made Du Jun, who wanted to propose to her, back down.

Lesson 65438 +0: Don't blame his (her) parents in front of your lover, it can only prove that your heart is not kind enough!

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Tang Min and Xu Jie are lovers. Tang Min works in a foreign company, and he is under great pressure. Her way to relieve stress is to go to the gym to exercise and go shopping. However, Jeff is very opposed to these two hobbies. When they talked for the first time, Xu Jie was still "forbearing", but he didn't send it. After getting along for half a year, Xu Jie couldn't help but start * * *: "Since you say that going to work is very hard, why don't you take a rest after work and treat yourself? Is it interesting to sweat every day? People exercise to lose weight, you are not fat, and your figure is just right. There's really nothing to find. There is also shopping. If you really go shopping, you can go shopping. The key is that you don't buy anything. Running around the street is simply ADHD! "

Tang Min became angry when he heard this, and refused to fight: "Does the fitness lamp have a weight loss effect? It also has two other benefits. First, it can make people energetic, and second, it can relieve mental stress. Are there still fewer people suffering from depression in the workplace now? In addition, shopping is a normal rest, that is, distraction. How can it be called ADHD? You often waste time eating and playing cards with your friends. I haven't talked about you yet. You like watching football games. What's the use? China Men's Football Team won't improve just because you watch it! However, since these can make you happy, I think it's worth it! Have I ever been sarcastic? Has it ever stopped you? I think you are male chauvinist and like to interfere with my normal hobbies. I don't think I will be happy when I marry you in the future, just because I often quarrel! "

The two broke up in discord. Although Xu Jie later apologized, his words deeply hurt Tang Min's heart.

Lesson 2: Don't always interfere with his or her normal preferences, it will only be the fuse of your quarrel!

Lena's love affair with Gao Bo once made her friends very envious. Gao Bo's family conditions are very good. He works in the IRS, is a national civil servant, his mother is a university professor, his father is the director of the local railway bureau, and Lena's parents are ordinary workers. At first, Gao Bo was afraid of Lena's sensitivity, and her words were still very low-key. With the deepening of their love affair, Gao Bo gradually spoke frankly: "You will enjoy endless blessings when you marry into our family. You see, my mother is a university professor and my father is a director, with a good income. This kind of lantern-holding family is hard to find. " Say that finish, also satisfiedly looking at Lena, as if Lena has climbed to him. Lena felt bad, but she didn't have an attack. Who knows that Gao Bo is a little embarrassed: "Your old house is only over 60 square meters. How can you live?" Look how spacious and comfortable our four-bedroom and two-bedroom house is. "

Lena finally burst out: "Gao Bo, don't you think you are shallow?" Your father is only a director of the railway, not a minister of the Ministry of Railways, and he is going to retire soon! Yes, your mother is a university professor, and you are an intellectual from a family background. You should be more cultured than the average person. Why are you so superficial? You still think your family is a giant? You think your dad is Li Ka-shing? Don't give me that! "Then he left angrily. Ren Gaobo shouted behind her and never looked back.

Lesson 3: Don't always show off your family background in front of your lover, which will only make him (her) think you are shallow and ignorant!

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Before knowing Du Peng, Ye Hong, who was tall and naturally beautiful, refused the courtship of many outstanding young people. Her view at that time was that "there is no best, only better", which can also be said to be a common problem of some excellent girls. However, as she grew older, she finally became a reality and fell in love with Du Peng, an engineer in our company.

After falling in love, Ye Hong occasionally deliberately mentioned the excellence of young men who had pursued themselves before: "The Xiao Li I told you about is the one who pursued me. She used to get along well. She is a sales manager of a company, and now she is even more powerful. She started her own organization and invited me to dinner the other day, but I refused. Now I follow you wholeheartedly. You must be nice to me! " "When I was in college, the boy named Zhang in my class was the one in my hometown of Zhejiang. His father took a back seat. He is now the head of the family business. Some time ago, he asked me to work in their company. His position is manager of human resources department. If it weren't for you, I would have passed, with an annual salary of 200,000. " Ye Hong said this just to tell Du Peng that she has done a lot for him, and hoped that Du Peng would cherish her more and treat her well.

However, when Du Peng heard these words, he was particularly sad. He felt that Ye Hong always put pressure on him with these stories that he didn't know were true or false. It seems that if he can't make a name for himself in his career, he doesn't deserve her at all, which ruined her happiness all her life. Finally one day, Du Peng got angry: "Well, I won't stop you. Go find someone who you think is happy in life. The pressure in the workplace itself is great, and I don't want to hear you say these love curses anymore. " Ye Hong, who wanted to urge her boyfriend to love her more, was dumbfounded. After several days of cold war, she finally made an apology call. Although they made up, Du Peng felt that she would never find the good feeling she had before.

Lesson 4: Don't use the excellent pursuers in the past to "motivate" him or her to love you more, which will only be self-defeating!

Young men and women who are in love need to cherish the hard-won fate, cherish the feelings cultivated with painstaking efforts, and never ruin their painstaking love because of an unintentional word. Learn the above lesson, don't say things you shouldn't say, it will hurt your lover's heart. In the end, I can only swallow the bitter fruit I planted. ?