You may not have those residual thoughts when you are in love, but you need to think more after you get married. Do you want to have children, what kind of education you should give him if you have children, and whether the baby's milk powder should be made in China or abroad. These are all issues to be considered after marriage. Even if you don't want to think so far, you need money in your daily life, such as shelter, transportation instead of walking, clothes and trousers, and daily necessities. Without material foundation, love is delusion, because we can't just live in imagination.
We have friends, relatives, classmates and colleagues. We need to socialize, communicate, get together and go out to play. These also need money. Without money, you refuse the invitation of your colleagues, and once or twice, you will invisibly distance yourself from them. These are all extremely unfavorable things for future development.
If there is no material basis, two people quarrel over daily necessities and buy a high-grade dress, the beauty that originated from the beginning of love will gradually fade away, will be consumed by the fireworks of life, and finally they can only dream of love.
Love maintenance, eating, watching movies, shopping, which is not expensive?
We can't abandon everything but live for the pursuit of love. You have parents to support. When they are old, you need to support the elderly and die, and do your duty as a child.
So we should know that marriage is to make two people gradually transition from love to affection. Passion cannot last long, and many practical problems will come with the arrival of marriage. This is inevitable for everyone.
So I think the real material life is better as the basis of marriage.