I remember a player named Ran Gaoming who was interrupted by his tutor Gao at a wonderful meeting. There was a lot of discussion on the internet at that time, but I wanted to calm down and talk about this topic which is far more complicated than it looks.
To put it simply, Ran Gaoming tried to enter the story of Chipa for the second time. Two years ago, Xu refused because he was still young and immature. Now that he has been practicing for a long time, he wants to attack this shortcut of fame and fortune.
The core view of Ran Gaoming is how hard it is to live as a poor X who pursues the quality of life. He gave two examples. I had to apply for a cheap fitness card because I had no money. But in this gym, there are many grandfathers who rub their baths hard, and there are also middle-aged men who blow their hair with hair dryers. This made him feel very responsive.
Another example is tourism. Two men and two women were forced to live in a big bed room in 80 yuan for one night because they could only travel on a poor trip. His original words were: "It turned out that living in poverty was nothing."
Hearing this, ring the bell to interrupt Gao. He said that he was very uncomfortable and thought that Ran Gaoming "as a poor person, he was insulting this class and insulting their lives." Most ordinary people are like this, and the high expectation is to "find beauty from such an ordinary life."
There is a heated debate about these two views on the Internet.
People with high support believe that the poverty described by Ran Gaoming has not reached the end of its tether. It is understandable for individuals to pursue a higher quality of life, but it is unfair and even offensive to describe material embarrassment with contempt for those who are content with poverty or struggle hard.
Opponents say that Gao, including other teachers on the stage, may not understand the utilitarianism and impatience of young people now. Gao was born in a scholarly family. Of course, he can talk about poetry and distance. But today, the situation of young people is far from easy.
The netizen "Schrodinger's Fat Cat" said quite representatively: "In fact, we young people are all in a hurry, eager to get ahead, eager to earn money and be independent, thinking about being able to honor their parents, but often life will not be so satisfactory. When we go home to see our elderly parents, our hearts are more anxious, which makes us fall into an increasingly urgent infinite cycle. "
Ran Gaoming complained about poverty. But poverty is only a sign, not the essence. The key is that the channel for the rise of the class is getting narrower and narrower.
This is also the saddest place: perhaps both Gao and Ran Gaoming are right, but it doesn't help solve the problem at all.
Nowadays, young people in their early twenties mostly get an intuitive feeling of class from around them.
Studying in the same school, others can get in and out of luxury restaurants by living expenses at home. Go downtown by yourself and endure the crowded subway. When you are looking for a job, you can get the interview opportunity you crave by making a phone call from someone else's home.
Even if you enter the workplace, the same position, others rely on family support, you can buy a new bag every month, travel abroad five times a year, the boss is still very kind. You scrimp and save on clothes, worry about annual leave, and you may be scolded by colleagues who are jealous of your boss.
What is even more irritating is that these people with better backgrounds may be more beautiful, harder and better than you. At this time, you will inevitably scream at the sky and be born a human being. Why is it so difficult? Why are things in the world so unfair?
I'm sorry, it's too early for you to lament. Compared with the visible gap, what is more terrible is the unimaginable part.
I don't know if you have the experience of seeing a house in a first-tier city.
I thought I had worked hard. I worked hard for promotion, and finally saved some money, so I can settle down in a small home in a bustling city far from my hometown. The savings of the original ten years, plus the loan interest in the next twenty or thirty years, may only be 80 square meters in the urban-rural fringe. If you take the school district or the subway next door, if you don't make a quick decision, it will be the difference of 1 10,000. And those high-quality communities and decent houses advertised and dreamed of are just rental houses or even vacant houses where the rich earn pocket money.
When you start to enter the housing market, you will be surprised to find that some investors who exchange cash for mortgaged houses to buy and sell real estate have achieved millions of income every year. And the word "demolition" on the doorstep of some people is worth your decades of hard work. In the game of accumulating wealth and making money, you think that counting 24 points is a skill, and others have already reprimanded Fang Qiu in the field of German robots.
But honey, what can you do? Cry, make trouble, hang yourself? Blame parents for not being able to do it? Go back to reincarnation?
It's not that serious. Kicking around to tell you seriously that real life begins after realizing the differences between people.
Mature people know best that it is impossible to want everything. You can't choose to come from a family, you can't choose the environment where you grew up, but even under the same conditions, everyone will burst out with completely different energy. Blaming all failures on external factors is precisely the performance of weak chickens. Strong people know how to stick to their teeth, even if the slope is steep, they should try their best to find a way out.
As for material wealth, you can earn it if you have the ability. Enter high-income industries, such as finance. Choose a high-return way, such as starting a business. Of course, these are not easy, but only high risks can bring high returns.
More importantly, don't take money as the only value in life, pay attention to some useless uses, learn something to cultivate your temperament, and solve some ultimate anxiety in life, which will get more profound fun than consumption and comparison.
How many people are in their thirties and forties and haven't figured out what they want? They can only determine their position by comparing with others all day. Running ahead is a short-term comfort. Being backward is also a deep pain. If we continue to evolve, our mentality will be unbalanced, which will be bad for others and waste time.
It is reasonable for young people to be in a hurry. But I'd like to quote He Jiong, whose EQ is super high, as Rangaoming. He said: "I see a sense of panic in your expression, including your plan for your life." You turn a particularly positive and ambitious sense of urgency into a sad sense of panic. You have shown special dissatisfaction in the past two years. It seems that Teacher Ma won't accept you now, and it will really disappoint you in the past two years. "
In fact, Ran Gaoming really doesn't have to worry. He tried to prove himself on various stages, some of which performed well. However, now he is still a long way from the success he wants. Then keep trying.
There is a typical description of Downton Abbey: "For them, the etiquette that we must follow wholeheartedly is an innate temperament." Class mobility is inherently difficult to complete in a generation's life cycle.
In a rapidly transforming society, the greater the temptation, the more traps. Compared with the chaos on the road ahead, what is more terrible is your anger when you are greedy for others and the weeds after giving up for no reason.
Maybe you can't cross the class all your life, but as long as you go, you won't live up to the scenery along the way, and you will eventually reach your destination.
These words are addressed to every young person who is troubled by class background. Don't only see the darkness of the times, but also cherish the light on yourself.
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