What should I do? Look at this article for your reference! About learning 1. Never forget that your main task is to study. Although there are many temptations in college, some people fail to go to college successfully, some people go to college for nothing, and some university courses may not match the future work, but your main task is to study. If you are sorry for the title of college student for four years, you will be sorry for your whole life. Failing a course will affect a person's self-confidence, so you can't ignore your grades. Achievement can't tell everything, but at least it shows your efforts and strengthens your self-confidence. Achievement is not your only wealth, but your indispensable wealth, because it marks that you can complete tasks and be responsible for yourself when you are young. You don't have to pursue high scores, but you can't passively fail the exam. 3. "If you choose to avoid compulsory courses, you will avoid elective courses"-Wrong! Even the "active" things such as "skipping classes" are passive. What will happen in the future? Elective courses include self-selection, why should we avoid self-selection? Listening to such "proverbs" is a kind of stupidity that you can't even understand the meaning of stupidity. The two proverbs about sending you to class should be: "Don't skip class, don't attend class for nothing"! Remember, no matter why you skip class or not, active learning is the last word. 4. self-study, plain is the right way, otherwise you will fall into the ditch. There are ditches on both sides of the road to university study, and the ditches on one side can only instill learning like primary and secondary schools; On the other side of the ditch is: give me the freedom to take the initiative, and I will have the freedom not to study. These two kinds of people are people who have entered the university, but their hearts are still outside the university. The transformation from middle school students to college students is mainly reflected in what to learn. Learn from who? How to learn? I understand three questions myself. It is normal for a semester to pass, but it is not normal for a "wandering corridor" to last for one or two academic years. Whether you let the teacher lead you or the score lead you, you are all going the wrong way. Even if you don't need what you have learned in the future, your understanding ability, the ability to draw inferences from others, will benefit you for life. 5. Do you often go to the library? Not all the books you read are useful, but how do you know what is useful? You are neither weather-beaten nor well-read, so Open Book is very suitable for college students to have a way to read, but you will never master it without reading. Besides, reading is a kind of edification, and seemingly useless knowledge is subtly integrated into your quality structure. If you are unfamiliar with the library for four years, you may quietly become a spiritual beggar, while others become rich. 6. Check, are martial arts, romance and online games still your interest centers? Or is it still a high proportion of your interest? If the answer is yes, then you need to change. Didn't realize it was childish; Realizing this is depravity. Girls' computers are DVD players and boys' computers are game machines. Such boys and girls not only waste computers, but also waste their youth. 7. A foreign language is not an enemy, nor is CET-4 or CET-6. Complaining is your enemy. People who are not enemies may become good friends to help you, but enemies are always enemies. 8. What did you study in college? First of all, to learn a major well is to have a core competitiveness, which is the minimum. Without this, it is not a talent. With this, you are a talent. However, there are abundant talents and fierce competition. If there is only one major, you may not be able to compete with technical secondary school graduates. Then why go to college? Remember: the first professional skill; Second knowledge structure; The third lateral ability; Fourth, theoretical literacy; The fifth way of thinking. This is the "five levels" that college students need to learn. On the basis of the first level, you gain an advantage in each level. 9. The forgetting curve tells us that it is the fastest time to forget when you just "remember". Therefore, it is the most unwise way to study before the exam, which not only makes you very tired, but also makes you bear the pressure of the exam and makes you forget because of relaxation after the exam. -This is a "learning method" that violates the laws of memory and distorts the purpose of learning. If you preview before class and review after class, you will get twice the result with half the effort, and you will have the feeling of mastering learning. Four years, be the master of study, not the slave of examination! 10. Do experiments, write test reports, do social surveys, write research reports, do homework and write papers. Are these things annoying? But these exercise a person's ability and creativity to apply what he has learned. If these are willing to "learn from others" and make their originality as little as possible, it is equivalent to saying: the more rubbish in society, the better! About love 1 1. Is college a failure without love? Are you "behind the times" when others fall in love? Am I ashamed that no one is chasing me? ..... Answer: No! These so-called "standards" are secular. Treating love with these "standards" means that you don't respect your feelings from the beginning. Love is in the hearts of both lovers, not in the eyes of others. Treating love out of face, conformity and fashion is weightless and unbearable lightness of life. 12. When you don't say "I love you", of course you can seek, communicate, understand and communicate, but it's best to say this sentence to only one person. Because these three words are beautiful and valuable, because she is not only full of passion, but also full of responsibility and the dignity of a college student. 13. Willfulness, vanity and jealousy are the "three killers" of college students' love. If you let them lurk for a long time, if you indulge them intentionally or unintentionally, your relationship will be seriously hurt sooner or later. 14. You can refuse others, but you have to respect or look down on others. 15. Don't look down on yourself if you are rejected. Since you have the courage to pursue it, you must have a responsible heart. 16. "A person with 10000 yuan spent 100 yuan for you, and you only accounted for his1%; And a person who only has 10 yuan spends 10 yuan for you, and you become his whole. " There is some truth in this statement, but there are still serious defects. A man with only 10 yuan spent 10 yuan for you, and you won all for the time being; A person with 10000 yuan spent 100 yuan for you, but you haven't even got all of it for the time being. Love can only be accumulated with money, that is, building a house on the beach. 17. Money can be a catalyst or a corrosive agent for love. Remember: love needs very little money, and it needs to be shared by two people; Marriage needs more money and should be created by two people. This is the money to create happiness. 18. The pain of lovelorn is normal. The deeper you get, the more painful it is. But lovelorn can only prove that you have got rid of the love that doesn't belong to you. Sinking in pain proves that you are not worthy of love. Overcoming pain means that you have hope for true love. 19. What is love? It is a spiritual collision and emotional exchange between two independent personalities, men and women, aiming at marriage. If you don't want to get married at all, it's the Dance Academy. If you hurt others, you will hurt yourself. Moreover, you will be hurt by feelings, personality and reputation. 20. When you are in love, you will completely rely on each other and lose your personality independence; When you are in love, you must completely transform each other, which forces each other to lose their personality independence. The "loss" of either party will make love unbalanced. Do you expect unbalanced love to be happy? This idea is naive and unbalanced. 100 Unpleasant advice from psychology professor to college students (about communication) III. About communication 2 1. In college, those students who are alienated from you, have misunderstandings, have bad feelings and are awkward may be your best "sparring partners". Practice what? Practice communication and communication skills, and also practice your open mind. Being able to "turn an enemy into a friend" can raise your heart, chest and ability to a higher level. 22. Can you find fault with yourself first, and then find fault with others? Can you make some self-criticism before criticizing others? Can you find the advantages of others before you look down on them? 23. "There is no fish in clear water, and there is no disciple in human observation." Don't be so sensitive to the classmates around you, and don't always tighten the string of "class struggle". Treating others is more tolerant than treating yourself, trusting others is more suspicious and more vigilant. This is not only the essence of communication, but also the artistic conception of life. 24. College classmates are extremely important human resources in your life, so you should cherish them. If there are not many friends and many "enemies", college life will be a bit of a failure, and even indicates that life will be a failure in the future. However, we can't treat communication with the mentality of "pragmatism" and "one-handed delivery". Otherwise, you will be lonely. Sincerity, generosity, understanding and tolerance are not only beautiful words, but also the internal composition of your personality and behavior. 25. Losing a friend in a skirmish means being unable to communicate. Friend-style communication is to treat each other with sincerity and mutual affinity. Discover and praise the advantages of others, and examine and criticize your own shortcomings. On this basis, you can openly point out each other's problems and, of course, eliminate misunderstandings. In short, resolve resentment and contradictions in communication. Remember, the friendship established and consolidated in communication is more reliable than the "friendship" formed by eating, drinking, using, loyalty in Jianghu, having fun or sharing similar interests. Learning to communicate is itself an important preparation for going to society. 26. Why let others do things like fetching water, sweeping the floor and taking out the garbage? Why do others do more and you do less? Think you don't do small things when you do big things, do you? "If you don't sweep a house, why sweep the world?" A young college student has not learned to do these small things, and he will not be able to do big things in the future, and he will not do small things-a real mediocrity! 27. Are you jealous of others? Explain that you are seriously inferior! It's great to see others. One is to learn from others, and the other is to try to catch up with others. These are the manifestations of confident people. It's better to retreat and form a net. It's normal to be jealous occasionally. Jealousy for a long time is likely to "refine" a despicable shrinking villain! 28. Respecting others means respecting yourself. While respecting others, I fully demonstrated my self-esteem, self-confidence, self-improvement and self-respect. I am arrogant to others, and I have no confidence in my heart. 29. Maybe there will be trouble in communication, and maybe it is difficult for you to adapt to a group. So I closed myself up and avoided others, dreaming of becoming Robinson on an isolated island, a modern society. Is it possible? Exercising communication in college is a necessary topic for your growth. It is very expensive to avoid the first and fifteenth grades and make up lessons after graduation. 30. Do you like complaining very much? Even if you got a "confidant" and an "alliance" at that time, you were actually quietly destroying your image. Anger and grumbling convey a negative emotion. People who often "infect" others with this emotion will not have affinity and cohesion. 100 Unpleasant advice from psychology professor to college students (about life) IV. About life 3 1. As a college student, what should I compare? You are rich, handsome, famous and generous, but is it useful? It only shows that you are a playboy, don't appreciate your parents' hard-earned money, and have no ambition. The "winner" in these aspects probably means that you are a terrible loser in the real comparison! 32. Under the temptation of wine table food, computer games, shopping world, flowers, and bedspreads, as long as you can't extricate yourself from one of them, it is enough to destroy yourself. Wake up, the beautiful campus of colleges and universities not only sets up the steps of growth, but also is full of depraved traps. What do you want to choose? Answer in your own way of life. 33. Often skip breakfast, or fool breakfast, then you look like a dish, tired, insomnia, forgetfulness, distraction, depression, anxiety, and you will find you. Whether food or fruits and vegetables, it is gold in the morning, silver in the afternoon, copper in the evening and lead in the evening. Young people who often indulge in lead and give up gold and silver are really "smart"! 34. Why should the campus allocate a large area of land and funds to build stormy playgrounds, stadiums, gymnasiums, swimming pools, table tennis halls and so on? It would be a waste if it was just physical education class's need. If you can't meet these standards, you can't pass the acceptance and evaluation! Do you know that college students who don't exercise all the year round are panting after taking a physical fitness test? Sick physique and sub-health are devouring your youthful vitality. So, you must exercise. 35.23 to 6: 30 am is the best sleep time. Often going to bed after midnight is both physically and psychologically harmful. Always trying to "catch up" on sleep during the day or even during class can't catch up. If you can't sleep, you will definitely not be admitted to the university, and it will affect your future. 36. With a schedule in college, it is easy to form a regular life. However, many students lead an irregular life. People who can't control their time in college not only mess up their bodies, but also can't form a good "behavioral motivation stereotype" and can't control their future destiny. 37. If the dormitory is messy, you are not the master of life. You need to be clean and tidy, because you need a good image, a healthy body and an independent mind. 38. Do you want to say goodbye to being muddled and lazy? Want to bid farewell to anxiety, depression, fatigue and inefficiency? Please remember the six principles of life: happy mood, good environment, adequate sleep, regular life, moderate exercise and reasonable nutrition. -following the six principles can not only guarantee your college life, but also benefit you for life! 39. Living on a benign track will be "uncomfortable" at first, but you must stick to it. If you follow the six principles for a long time, you will find that this is true happiness. 40. Maybe you are not lazy, but you do seize all the time to study hard. But you also need to search whether your life conforms to the six principles. Because efforts not only depend on time, but also on efficiency. At your age, as long as you are good at adjustment, you can certainly achieve efficient learning. 100 Unpleasant advice from psychology professor to college students (about personality) 5. About personality 4 1. Psychology may be an "elective course" in your school curriculum, but in your life track, psychology is an out-and-out compulsory course! Because personality health is more important than knowledge; EQ is more important than IQ! 42. As you may have seen, corruption in China is serious in the world. However, you should see that China's anti-corruption efforts are also the strongest in the world! Although China still needs to deepen reform and further system construction to completely control and eliminate corruption, in this process, a large number of corrupt officials and swindlers will be severely punished. So you must face up to this problem and find the value support of your personality. Any crooked ways may lead to destruction. 43. Join student unions and mass organizations. It is to exercise your ability and serve your classmates. If you go there to learn to curry favor with others and engage in crooked ways, quit early! The mainstream of the whole society and people is justice, justice, democracy, freedom, equality, harmony and the rule of law. Corruption will have less and less market in China, so it is better to see this clearly. In college, we should position ourselves on the right path of life! 44. Tough and tenacious character is tempered. It's important to concentrate in unit time. Don't use two at a time, use three at a time. Class is class, reading is reading, and playing ball is playing ball. English classes don't look at majors, professional classes don't look at English, and physical education class doesn't recite words. Not only improve efficiency, but also exercise perseverance. People who are not good at concentration and lack patience will accomplish nothing. 45. Cultivate your autonomy. If you can't make up your mind about anything, your views on anything will be foggy, and your personality independence will definitely be poor, which is not enough to support you to go to society. You can listen to other people's opinions and learn more about relevant information, but you must gradually cultivate the ability of independent thinking and decision-making. 46. Speak, speak English, take the initiative to speak in class and take an active part in the speech contest. In short, don't be afraid of failure and embarrassment You don't care about "losing face" now, what you are afraid of is really losing face and losing opportunities in the future. Silence is not necessarily a bad thing, but "silence" because of timidity and incompetence must be a bad thing. You are only twenty years old, and you can't build your personality charm by being passive and conservative. 47. Inferiority is the virus of the mind. Don't run away from pressure, don't run away from setbacks, no one can be smooth sailing. Today, we can overcome the pressure, cheer up from setbacks and accumulate valuable wealth for tomorrow. Remember: the more frustrated, the stronger the Vietnam War! 48. Good temperament does bring personality charm to people, but it is the externalization of internal quality. If your idol is only a singer and movie star, if you care too much about appearance, it only shows that you are immature. It is suggested to learn and understand Maslow's 15 psychological personality characteristics of "self-actualizer". 49. chic online, depressed reality; Online friends are in groups, and in reality they are alone; Swearing online, restraint in reality. Never fall into a "dual personality" and feel intoxicated. You don't need to adopt an ostrich policy towards yourself. After all, it is reality that determines your destiny. You can browse the infinite scenery in the "virtual world", but you must base yourself on the real world. 50. Don't be too vain, don't pursue face too much, it will be very tired, and it won't have a good effect in the end. In college, you have to be aboveboard to feel comfortable. Fiction is ok, but personality is not. 6. About personality 5 1. Sunshine is positive, which is beneficial to your growth. Because it is easier to get exercise opportunities. 52. Personality is by no means immutable. University is a critical period for personality development. "A leopard cannot change his spots"-this sentence is meaningful only in a very specific sense, and it is by no means a philosophy of life worth following. For anyone, character cultivation is a lifelong subject. 53. There are quite a few boys and girls who like this mantra: "This is my character" and "This is my man", which often becomes an excuse, of course, not a good excuse, and it will also cause a vicious psychological hint. The thought represented by this kind of words is not only an obstacle to communication, but also an obstacle to self-awareness and self-cultivation, which easily leads to "being strict with yourself"; In fact, what you need more is "be strict with yourself and be lenient with others." 54. "Don't you need to stick to your own personality?" -Good point! You really need to form, persist and highlight your unique personality. The question is, is your "personality" conducive to your study and growth? Is it good for you to build a harmonious interpersonal relationship? Is it good for you to build your personality charm? Is it good for your physical and mental health? If you can't answer these questions for sure, you'd better not "stereotype" too early. Giving up the examination, adjustment and cultivation of personality is easy to fall into a very unfavorable complacency. 55. Introversion or extroversion has its own advantages and disadvantages, and different temperament types also have their own advantages and disadvantages. We need to learn psychology on the basis of having the necessary knowledge, know ourselves, examine ourselves, and foster strengths and avoid weaknesses. Please remember that it is very important for college students to examine their own personality, foster strengths and avoid weaknesses, and learn from each other's strengths during their growth. 56. Rethink, are you hovering at the extremes of "narcissism" and "inferiority", either narcissism or inferiority. If you care about whether others care about you, if you are extremely unbalanced when being criticized, if you always feel that others don't understand you, if you always feel that you are more wronged than others, if you lack compassion, if you like others to serve you but don't like to help others, these are all narcissistic manifestations. You need to overcome the "self-centeredness" that may have formed at an early age. What you need most at this time is to learn to care about others. 57. If you are criticized, misunderstood or wronged, you will be annoyed and avoid others for a long time; Always afraid of making a fool of yourself, or avoiding public places for a long time after making a fool of yourself; Be alert and alert to any friend. Without a true bosom friend, you may be autistic. You absolutely need to make positive self-psychological hints frequently and repeatedly. You need to stipulate the number of times you contact others every day and gradually increase the frequency of communication with others. Be brave enough to participate in all public places and collective activities. You will feel that it is not easy to do this, but it just shows that you have psychological obstacles to overcome. 58. Sadness, jealousy, suspicion and complaining, the mentality described by these words, if they appear frequently, may lead to attachment to "paranoia". Self-discipline is absolutely necessary. When you encounter something that makes you feel wronged or complaining, when someone's jealousy pops up inexplicably, and when doubt makes you upset, it will be much better to warn yourself with "I want to be tolerant" and then turn your attention to something meaningful, or imagine how a person you admire most will treat this situation. Do this a few times more, and you may really expand your open and inclusive mind. 59. Emotional indulgence will lead to personality deviation. Whether "anger with joy" or "anger without emotion" is not conducive to a good mood. It is a good practice method to consciously try "being happy but not angry". College students should learn to control their emotions rationally, including the reasonable venting of emotions. Exercise is a good way to vent your emotions. 60. "I am depressed" and "I am really annoyed". It doesn't matter occasionally, but it is often a problem. I often feel that everything is boring. I feel depressed, lazy and listless for some small things. I can't get up, I can't get nervous, and I feel that people around me are against me. This is called "depression". The problem of depression shows that people's mood, temper and personality are closely related to values. Psychological guidance has many ways to overcome depression, including eating chocolate. But I just want to tell you here: anyone with lofty ideals, lofty aspirations and clear goals will not be trapped in depression for a long time!