One year, my boss and I were caught by a beggar when we went through customs in Zhuhai to Macau.

Beggars are strong and won't let you go without money.

I was 23 years old, young and energetic, and suddenly I was very angry and stubborn with him.

My attitude at that time was:

Are you robbing money or begging? You are still so young, don't you know how to make money? Even if you hold me back, I won't give you money!

The boss found that I didn't catch up with him, so he went back to me.

After he got to know about it, he smiled at the beggar, immediately took out 10 yuan from his wallet and gave it to him, and then left in a hurry with me.

Along the way, I was a little depressed. The boss read my mind and said, are you still being wronged by what happened just now?

I said:

Yes, this kind of person shouldn't spoil him. He doesn't recognize cowardice and feels a little uncomfortable.

The boss hey hey smiled and said to me:

What should we do if we are entangled with him and our customers are still waiting for us in Macau? In the future, you should remember one sentence: people who want to do great things will never dwell on bad things.

I didn't listen to what the boss said. At that time, I only cared about my grievances and discomfort.

02

I remember one graduation season, the company recruited a group of fresh college students in the university.

One of the girls is tall and beautiful, with good eloquence and ability. She has a good relationship with the vice president.

In this group of college students, most of them don't like this girl, especially the girl. There were rumors. Some people say that she hooked up with the vice president in an attempt to get a promotion. Some people even said that once she came out of the vice president's office with a red face, it must be that two people had done something shameful.

Gossip between her and the vice president has become the most important topic for a group of colleagues to get together and chat privately.

Once I went out to chat with her, I couldn't help but give her a click,' Do you know that the company is spreading an anecdote about you and the vice president now? Do you want to avoid it or clarify it?'

She smiled at me and said,' Nothing. I'm not afraid of crooked shadows. I'm really busy now and have no time to say these bad things.'

Later, she went her own way and ignored those gossips.

After contacting her, I found that she was really busy. She did a perfect job and worked very hard for her performance. PPT is as beautiful as a picture scroll, and the data is very informative.

After work, she either goes to an English cram school, takes an exam for a professional title, or goes to the gym. Every day, she lives a full life.

And those who like gossip seem to be tired of being idle. Not only do they do a poor job, but they also like to get together and talk about other people's gossip and privacy when they have nothing to do, as if they spent their carefree and boring days on these things.

A year later, a dramatic scene happened.

The vice president is married, the bride is not her, and she has a new boyfriend. The scandal between her and the vice president was broken, and the rumour maker was slapped in the face.

Two months later, a more dramatic scene happened.

The company promoted the girl's position and became the boss of those gossips. The reason for the promotion is simple and rude, because her performance alone is half that of that group of people combined.

At this time, those who have been gossiping about their roots turned their heads and wanted to kiss her ass. Some brought her special products from home, some gave her snacks from time to time, and some even betrayed their friends and told her who the previous rumors were.

I remember a sentence I heard before: stay away from people who are too idle.

I'm impressed.

If idle people happen to be at leisure, they will also like gossip, otherwise their world will be boring.

She knows this very well, and it doesn't make any sense to ignore these bad things and compete with these idle people. You won a bunch of idlers. What achievements have you made?

There is a saying that is particularly good. Look at a person's value, only at his opponent.

It's not that I don't want to fight with you, but that you are not worth fighting with me, and I despise fighting with you.

Through this incident, I really understand what the boss said: people who want to do great things will never dwell on bad things.

The rotten thing is rotten because the more you care about it, the worse it is, so that you can rot with it and sink in forever. Even if you win in the end, the time, manpower, material resources and financial resources you spent are gone forever, which is very worthless.

Zhou once wrote an article to the effect that successful people are afraid of trivial things.

In fact, it's not that successful people are weak, but because their time is precious, and their efforts in trivial matters have lost many opportunities to make money. They are just the best choices made after rational weighing.

Can people with a monthly income of 1 10,000 earn the same money every minute as those with a monthly income of 1 10,000?

03

It is a philosophy of life not to dwell on bad things, which is also applicable in many aspects.

You take your girlfriend to dinner and whistle for her when you meet a rogue. What you think about every day should not be how to deal with these hooligans. You should work hard to earn money to take her to a fancy restaurant, because there are no hooligans there.

You love your girlfriend deeply, so don't care if others tell you your girlfriend's past love history. There is no need to care about these little things. Who doesn't have a past? What you have to consider is how to live a good life with her in the future.

You are trapped in an unhappy marriage. What you should think about is not how to force love rat, how to get back at him and Xiaosan's bad deeds, but how to leave love rat quickly, improve your quality of life and live a better life in the future.

Your existing circle is full of negative energy and likes to denigrate and attack others. What you have to consider is not how to beat them. You should speed up your steps, leave this circle and move forward to a more advanced circle full of positive energy.

Life is short, and we have a lot to do. If you want to reap a rich and happy life, don't dwell on bad things.