0 1: My mother-in-law doesn't want to pick me up with my wife by motorcycle and tricycle.
My mother-in-law's home is in a small village in the mountains. It takes 14 km to get from town to her home. After getting off the bus in town, my wife and I bought two boxes of milk, ten kilograms of pork and a box of fruit, and were going to visit her mother-in-law's house. Because the mountain road is far away, no driver is willing to pull a few cars. The most important thing is that the mountain road is a bit steep, and the driver is unwilling to take risks. As a last resort, my wife called my mother-in-law, hoping that she could pick us up with a three-wheeled motorcycle. As a result, my wife called my mother-in-law twice in succession to pick you up. My mother-in-law said, "I grow vegetables in the field and have no time to pick you up." My wife and I were standing awkwardly at the intersection. When you see a car entering the mountain, ask someone to make a way. Remember 10 km mountain road, four tricycles together.
There are still four kilometers of mountain roads to my mother-in-law's house. At this time, I waited for a long time, but I didn't see a tricycle driving forward, so I had to walk. My wife is carrying two boxes of milk, and I am carrying more than ten kilograms of pork and a box of fruit to my mother-in-law's house. When I went to my mother-in-law's house, my wife and I were exhausted and saw my mother-in-law sitting at the door drinking tea. She quickly took the things in her hand and said, "Oh, I was so busy working in the field that I forgot to pick you up when I came back." When I put pork on my shoulder, my tired waist couldn't stand up. My mother-in-law took her wife and chatted happily, as if she completely ignored my existence. I had to go to the kitchen, pick up a bowl, pour some hot water and sit by the fire to drink.
02: My mother-in-law criticized me for breaking the handle of my hoe while digging bamboo shoots.
After lunch, my mother-in-law threw me a hoe and asked me to dig some bamboo shoots on the mountain in the afternoon and stew them. I was just about to lie down and have a rest. I took the bus all night last night and walked a few kilometers of mountain roads in the morning. I was really tired. Just as I hesitated, my mother-in-law pointed to the mountain in front and said, "It's in that bamboo forest. I put my hoe here." I can't say how bitter I am. I can only pick up a hoe and walk into the bamboo forest, wondering how to dig bamboo shoots and how much to dig back. Because it was the first time to dig bamboo shoots, I didn't see sharp bamboo shoots exposed in the bamboo forest for a long time, so I picked up a hoe and dug around the ground and found a big bamboo shoot. At that time, I was so excited that I waved my hoe with all my strength and found that it was stuck on the ground and could not move.
In desperation, I shook the hoe hard and accidentally broke the handle in half, but the hoe still didn't come out of the ground. I had to go back to my mother-in-law's house with my broken handle. My mind was mixed all the way, thinking about buying another hoe. My mother-in-law should not criticize me. Who knows, my mother-in-law said, "My hoe didn't break for three years, and you broke it once. I really can't do anything ... "My mother-in-law burned my face when I was criticized. She was just embarrassed to find a crack in the door. I was obviously hungry when I was eating, but I couldn't eat a bite.
03: My mother-in-law is very picky about my lunch.
The next day, my mother-in-law and wife went to the mountains to dig bamboo shoots. When I am idle at home, I take the initiative to cook. I thought my cooking was ok. I spent two hours cooking four dishes for my mother-in-law, trying to leave a good impression on her. Unexpectedly, my mother-in-law saw that I hadn't tasted two bites of my cooking, so she said directly, "Isn't it a waste to put so much oil?" The oil is too big for people to watch, "I can only say by the side," Put less oil next time, this time it's my fault. "
When my mother-in-law eats, she either dislikes the bland taste of the food or dislikes me for not putting pepper. There is no smell that she can't eat at all. I tasted it and it tasted the same as before. I didn't put more salt or less salt, because my wife can't eat spicy food, so I didn't put pepper in my cooking, but my mother-in-law was unhappy. Mother-in-law went back to the kitchen and cut a piece of meat, took out some peppers and put them on the cooking. She put the plate aside and ate it without looking up. My wife and I looked at each other without talking, and bowed our heads and ate all the fried dishes.
04: My mother-in-law only gave me three bamboo shoots when I went back.
The day before I left my mother-in-law's house, my mother-in-law gave half of the pork I brought to her brother-in-law's house, and took out several boxes of milk to send to her. I didn't think much at that time. It is also reasonable for her to give it to her brother-in-law When my wife and I went back, my mother-in-law gave me a bag of three bamboo shoots and then sent us seven kilometers by motorcycle and tricycle. My mother-in-law said that there were many cars going to town on this road, and she had to sprinkle fertilizer for my brother-in-law, so she didn't send us much.
My wife and I stood in the cold wind for 20 minutes before we saw a tricycle enter the city. The driver ignored our meaning and disappeared into my sight. In desperation, my wife and I had to walk to the town and waited for a tricycle for a long time. Fortunately, the driver is willing to give us a ride. While waiting for the bus on the national highway in town, I went to the store to buy some water and bread, and then took the bus to eat on the way. My wife weighed the bamboo shoots and threw them on the side of the road, saying that she had wronged me these days. I didn't answer her directly, but looked down at the time.
05: I take care of my sick mother-in-law in the hospital.
The year before last, my mother-in-law was ill. Because the medical level in a small place was limited, my mother-in-law dialed my wife's phone, hoping to come to our work place to see a doctor so that someone could take care of her. My wife looked at me as if asking for my advice. I answered the phone and said, "Mom, call me when you arrive, and I'll pick you up." I only met my mother-in-law at the station. I said to her, "My brother-in-law didn't accompany you to see a doctor?" Mother-in-law is silent and will say, "It's time to plant rice at home, so I didn't let him come because I was busy." I took the bag from my mother-in-law and took her home by taxi.
My wife seldom cooks at home, but I usually cook when she is not busy. I asked my mother-in-law, "Are you sick? Is the food as spicy as before, or is it light? " Mother-in-law replied thoughtfully, "No Chili, wait until you are well." My wife was busy at work, so I had to ask for annual leave in advance and take my mother-in-law to the hospital. The doctor said that an operation was needed as soon as possible. Before I could communicate with my wife, I paid 40 thousand yuan for hospitalization and surgery, leaving my mother-in-law in the hospital. After this incident, my mother-in-law treated me much better. She often calls to say that my wife and I won't go home to see her. My mother-in-law sent us dried bamboo shoots and bacon from time to time, saying that she would look after the children for us in the future, which made me feel very happy.
06: My Summary and Views
From my own experience, I don't think my mother-in-law's wonderful behavior is dissatisfaction with me, but I think it is a test for me. My analysis is as follows:
First, the reason why my mother-in-law doesn't like me is that she didn't agree with my wife's marriage at first. My mother-in-law hopes that her wife can marry someone close to home, fearing that she will be wronged when she marries abroad, and her family can't help her vent.
Second, my wife married me regardless of her mother-in-law's objection, which made her very angry. So I went to my mother-in-law's house, and her mother-in-law made things difficult for me. I don't feel angry from it, but I think I should do better.
Third, I can let my mother-in-law see my sincere attitude, and naturally I can rest assured that my wife will not be wronged with me. In the face of my mother-in-law's faults, I choose to be patient and correct. If I quarrel with her, it will inevitably attract neighbors to watch the excitement, which will only make my mother-in-law lose face.
07: Write at the end
When my mother-in-law has a problem with me, I first understand that what I have done badly will make my mother-in-law unhappy. Only by finding the problem can we prescribe the right medicine. My method is as follows:
First, I don't remember the unfriendly things my mother-in-law did. When I got off the bus, my mother-in-law didn't want to meet me in town. She learned to understand that her mother-in-law was busy and couldn't spare the time. Even if she deliberately finds an excuse not to pick me up, she should calm down and go back to her mother-in-law's house by other means.
Second, don't fall out with your mother-in-law because of disagreement. My mother-in-law thinks that I am clumsy in chopping bamboo shoots and very picky in cooking. It's really my fault. Don't try to be brave when cutting bamboo shoots. Ask your mother-in-law's advice first, and learn about her experience in cutting bamboo shoots and her taste before cooking.
Third, learn to digest unpleasant things by yourself. Every time my mother-in-law is angry with me, she is really unhappy at that time. On second thought, she really didn't do anything that satisfied her. She takes these unpleasant things as an education and tries not to make the same problem again.
Fourth, show respect for the elderly to your mother-in-law. When my mother-in-law was ill, I took her to the hospital wholeheartedly and took care of her seriously. These things have nothing to do with whether she was kind to me before, but I performed my duties well. My good side can always be seen by my mother-in-law, so leave the rest of the choices to time.
The reason why I write about my mother-in-law's unfriendly attitude towards me is to let me know how to get along with her through these things, instead of hating her blindly. This will only deepen the contradiction. No mother-in-law wants to embarrass her son-in-law As long as we are filial and correct our mistakes, I believe we will get her approval.