Zheng Shuang was exposed to twins, Diamond "ran with the ball" and had a daughter, Zhang Yujian called Dzhanis his mother, and Olivia confessed that "I have a child".
For a time, star children have mushroomed, which makes people feel that star children just like playing, suddenly appeared.
But this is not the case.
The entertainment circle is exposed to "casually" having children, and how many people are trying to "seek children" behind it?
The relationship between Chen Songling, 50, and her mother-in-law, has become the focus in the recent hit variety show "Mother-in-law".
When she first came, her mother-in-law brought her husband a delicious table, but she brought Chen Songling garlic that she didn't like.
Chen Songling's earnest jiaozi was rejected. Zhang Duo shot, and her mother-in-law immediately shouted "good";
They are both outside. Zhang Duo picked up Chen Songling first, and her mother-in-law asked Chen Songling why she robbed her son.
When practicing boxing, her mother-in-law even ignored Chen Songling's soaking wet, and directly tore off the towel from her, just to wipe her son's sweat.
Wait, wait, wait ......
Passers-by saw this series of operations, and they couldn't help but want to pick up the keyboard and knock hard to express their anger at Chen Songling and spit on her mother-in-law until Chen Songling was exposed in the program.
Chen Songling confessed that when she married Zhang Duo, she was 40 years old. As a female, her physical function declined and she could not bear children, which could not satisfy Zhang Duo's mother's desire to enjoy family happiness and deprived her of this right.
For this reason, she made a solemn apology to Zhang Duo's mother in the program.
Although she said afterwards that she never felt that the meaning of a woman's life was to have children, apologizing for not having children was enough to reflect her sorrow as a woman and herself.
At this point, it suddenly dawned on everyone. It turns out that the "dispute" between the mother-in-law and the daughter-in-law between the two stems from the birth problem.
In the traditional concept, most people understand women's self-worth in the family as running a family and having children, and put their social value and social status behind.
But often the more such a person, the more difficult it is to get real happiness in marriage.
This is the case with Chen Songling, who expressed her regret for her husband and helplessness to her mother-in-law, but ignored that she was suffering from fertility problems.
Coincidentally, actress Ariel Lin is also in a state of tension because of the birth problem.
In everyone's mind, Ariel Lin is full of sunshine, self-confidence, girlhood and transparency in dealing with people.
Not long ago, Ariel Lin touched her nose four times in 30 seconds during the interview, and her condition was also very poor. Everyone thinks she has changed.
The goddess of beauty, money and talent suddenly fell from the altar. Like ordinary people, she is also in marriage, wronged and seeking perfection.
She will be moved by her husband's "coming home at any time"; Will refuse invitations worth several buildings to the family; I'll do anything to have a baby.
I put all my efforts in my career on my married life, as if I must win a "grand prize" in it.
In addition to the above two, there are many stars in the entertainment circle who have gone through the difficult road of seeking children.
Andy Lau took his wife Zhu Liqian to see gynecology and burned incense for her children; Zhang Ting has tried IVF nine times and injected more than 1000 needles. 50-year-old Christy Chung still insists on daily exercise, acupuncture, medication, conditioning and so on.
"There are three kinds of unfilial, and nothing is bigger." They all seem to think that marriage is complete with children.
It is natural to let nature take its course, but if it persists, it is the source of women's marital pain.
A woman struggling to get a child will gradually become sensitive, suspicious and neurotic if she can't get it for a long time.
I have a friend who has lived with her boyfriend for two years. When preparing to get married, both parents invited people to read the eight characters. As a result, the news is that it is difficult to have children.
My friend was a little worried and decided to get pregnant before getting married.
At the beginning of pregnancy, she loved to drink milk tea and eat barbecue. She gave up everything, and went out of the "home" and signed up for a fitness class to improve her sub-health condition.
A month, two months, three months, nothing happened.
She thought about it, maybe she was too nervous and too concerned, so it backfired and began to learn to adjust herself. The first thing she says when she sees me every day is: I'm going with the flow now.
But the evasive eyes are full of anxiety.
Then one day, she dragged me to the drugstore and told me that my menstruation was delayed for two days, and she might win the lottery!
Happy to buy a pregnancy test stick, afraid of uncertainty, went to the door and bought another one.
But as a result, she was disappointed.
From then on, she rarely mentioned pregnancy, and she didn't insist on getting pregnant before getting married. They got a drinking license and became legal husband and wife.
But the word "child" has long been her demon. She wants to prove her love for her husband with her children, and also wants to test whether her husband is completely in love with herself through her children.
While quietly inquiring about the secret recipe of rapid pregnancy, I asked my husband if he would be good to himself if he didn't have children. ......
Satisfied with the answer, she was happy but sorry, thinking of giving birth to her husband as soon as possible.
When she got an unsatisfactory answer, she was sad but wanted to fight, thinking of having a baby quickly.
When patients with obsessive-compulsive disorder do problems, they must work out the answers in order before entering the next problem. ?
If Stephy were present, she might roll her eyes and say to my friend, "No need!" !
Stephy's concept of fertility is very clear. Women don't have to have children to be complete, and they live for a long time. Big S also said that having children is not for the sake of carrying on the family line, raising children to prevent old age and the like, and it is not for the sake of having children.
Giving birth to children should be a free and happy thing. You thought you could, so you were born. Not that he thinks you can, so you have to be born.
Don't try to please anyone, overdraw your body, kidnap the uterus, and you must spell out a child.
As the online saying goes, "Even if you are beautiful, gentle and virtuous; Even if you are tolerant and patient, have children; Even if you are superior to others, as long as you let go of yourself, you will never be able to stand on the same level as men. "
It's not that you are not good enough, but that you blindly give up the bottom line, lose yourself and lose the equal status in this relationship.
So girls, live or not, follow fate, don't force it, don't be a "doll" wife.
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