After reading everyone's comments, it seems that I am not the only one who has been beaten and anxious.
In the adult world, there is no such word as "easy".
It is not easy for us to make a living on the earth, and no one can escape.
If you suppress your emotions blindly, it is not conducive to long-term happiness.
Today, I'm going to introduce 10 ways to release emotions:
I saw a passage on the Internet:
There are really a lot of hard-talking girls in the world. When you asked her what was wrong, she almost cried, but she still said "nothing".
We are all good at being brave, and we are afraid that others will see our vulnerability.
Being strong is true, but we don't have to be so strong every time.
Next time the mood strikes, occasionally allow yourself to be fragile, to collapse and cry, to be less perfect, to be seriously sad and to vent.
After venting and venting emotions, you can go into battle lightly and move forward better.
Su Qin wrote a passage:
"When I am in the worst mood, I will still eat on time, go to bed early and get up early, and be self-disciplined.
Such people are people who can carry things. No matter how messy things are, they won't make you uncomfortable. People don't need so many extraordinary things. It's great to be able to move things. "
There are too many variables in life Insisting on going to bed early and getting up early, this sense of life order, which is still the same as before, can bring us confidence to revive our lives.
Although there are many things that we can't control to make a living on the earth, we can still control some things, for example, we can still sleep well, be healthy and be energetic. These are the most precious things.
Satoshi Ishihara has a classic dialogue in the Japanese drama Unnatural Death.
A male doctor asked Satoshi Ishihara: Won't 30% doctors despair?
Satoshi Ishihara: Despair? If you have time to despair, you might as well eat something delicious and go to bed. Let's go eat meat.
When you are sad, you can eat something you really want, such as meat, hot pot, barbecue and tea, and borrow some strength from them.
At the moment when the stomach is satisfied, the heart can stretch a little, and life is no big deal. With so many delicious things and so many things worth doing, the difficulty becomes less difficult. This is the charm of food and the joy of life.
There is a line in Sifang: Those who have eaten with tears can go on.
When you are full, everything can be solved.
No matter how bad your mood is, take a hot bath and take a shower from beginning to end. While washing away the polluted dust outside, it seems that your troubles have also been washed away.
After taking a shower, put on your favorite comfortable clothes, close the curtains, turn off your cell phone, think nothing, and get into the familiar warm bed to sleep.
After waking up, my stomach is slightly hungry. It is right to feel hungry, and hunger is the beginning of recovery.
The benefits of exercise are understood by those who have really exercised.
You can run or do yoga to kill time when you are bored. After all, sad days are the hardest.
At the same time, in the process of desperately running and self-abuse, they also indirectly vent their dissatisfaction with life, work or interpersonal relationships.
After sweating, you will relax from the inside out. I didn't take a deep breath to the end before. I can take a deep breath after sweating after exercise.
If you go well, you will feel better.
I often think that keeping a diary is a self-help process. It seems that I just record my daily mood, but I write down my thoughts that I can't tell others at ordinary times.
It is also an opportunity for us to be honest with ourselves by writing down what we are encountering now but have no solution.
Without relying on others, in the process of writing a diary, we can analyze the reasons for this mood fluctuation by ourselves, and we can evaluate whether this mood fluctuation is worth it. We will gradually figure out many things and achieve self-reconciliation.
When you are sad but no one tells you, keep a diary and let yourself heal.
The sadder I am, the more I like to make a list of things I have to do every day.
Since you can't afford the spirit and interest of loving life, give yourself some artificial power to love life and make a list of things to do every day:
Keep reading for an hour; Complete the manuscript to be handed in; Finish punching in English today; Go to eat fried chicken that you really want to eat; Go to the gym for an hour after work; Watch a movie.
Whenever you finish something, put a tick after the to-do list.
When you finish all the plans for the day and see that you have put a tick at the back of the to-do list, you will feel a sense of accomplishment.
The sense of accomplishment at that time will cover up our sadness now.
The most effective way to cure sadness is not to eliminate it, but to find another happy thing.
I have read a sentence: the restraint of adults is to knock on the keyboard even when they are sad.
When I was younger, when I saw this sentence, I only felt that adults were really miserable and had to work if they were sad. When I grow up, I will look back and find the wisdom of life behind this sentence.
It is also a blessing to have a job when you are sad.
Most emotional problems in this world can be solved through "efforts".
Especially when you are sad, you will feel that life is more difficult. At this time, if you don't find something specific to do for yourself, it is difficult to adjust your mood immediately.
A full job is a good medicine to cheer us up when our mood breaks down.
Secondly, hard work means that you will have a steady and continuous income, eat delicious food, buy yourself flowers and clothes, and occasionally take a trip.
Things have changed, but I can still work, make money, buy what I want and go where I want to play.
At this thought, it seems that sadness has become less difficult.
Yoko Nakamura wrote in The Value of the World:
"The most important thing is to build relationships. You can expose your weaknesses and confide in each other with peace of mind. This is the key to psychotherapy.
If there is a kind of interpersonal relationship that allows you to expose your weaknesses with peace of mind, then you will be full of energy. "
If the above methods still can't alleviate the sadness, then go and chat with a trusted friend.
Tell them frankly about your current sadness and draw some energy from them to get through this difficulty.
The existence of friends will make us understand that no matter what happens, we are not alone, and we are not alone.
Don't be afraid, there is always someone to accompany us through the long darkness.
It's okay to be hated. After all, we can't be liked by everyone, so we should have the courage to be hated.
When you meet someone or something you don't like, you can hide. Life is so short, get along with the person you like. If you can't live without them for a while, then ignore them first. Learning to play the fool is also a skill that the adult world must learn.
Learn to refuse what you don't want to do, and a good relationship will not get worse because of one refusal;
Most importantly, learn to please yourself, respect your feelings, and occasionally give priority to your feelings.
Make yourself happy, and you can live happily in this life.
I really like a passage by Ninomiya Kazunari:
"Occasionally put your hand on your chest and feel the sound of your heartbeat. Today, 7 tons of blood has traveled 6.5438+10,000 kilometers. "
Our hearts have been beating hard for us. In order to keep us alive, there are 7 tons of blood to walk 6.5438+million kilometers every day, and hundreds of billions of cells in our bodies are working hard for us every day.
So friends, be happy.
Author | Wen Chang, official account of WeChat: Wen Chang (ID: wenchangcha)
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