Patty is a French teacher in a university, and Allen is a programmer in an IT company. The acquaintance of two people is as tacky and romantic as a love drama. That day, Patty sat in a coffee shop reading magazines to kill time. Looking up, she found that a neighbor's teacher had left her mobile phone on the table, but she was gone. Kind Patty picked up the phone and chased it out, and found the man who later became her husband-Allen in the corner. At the beginning of marriage, the mobile phone is the password of husband and wife; Every time we quarrel, whoever takes out his mobile phone first calls the other party; Hello, have you lost your mobile phone? Two people can make up.
Time is a killer. Wrinkles climbed into Patty's eyes, and fat accumulated in Allen's waist and abdomen, and indifference and habit covered up the marriage. Allen used to hug Patty from behind when she was washing dishes. Now, he just watches TV in the living room. Two people used to talk quietly before going to bed, and then fell asleep as soon as they hugged each other. Now, they just ask each other about their work status and sleep on their backs. In the past, Allen liked to wake Patty up with a kiss on the weekend morning, slowly take off her clothes and let the sunshine see each other's tenderness. Slowly, the lives of two people are becoming more and more strange. They haven't had sex for a long time since they had children four years ago.
In 2008, Patty and Allen entered the first 10 year of their marriage. They are afraid of future variables and hope to restore intimacy again. I interviewed several marriage experts and made a change plan for Patty and Allen, hoping to revive their marriage within a week.
FrankPittman, a famous American marriage counselor, not only dressed the old couple beautifully, but also advocated strengthening the charm between husband and wife by increasing psychological changes and satisfaction.
The easiest way is to add heterosexual features.
According to the expert's guidance, Patty bought a very beautiful new dress, which was newly ironed, with a small pink face and a brand-new look. After meeting Allen, she felt her eyes lit up, and the swallow she really met came back. Allen put on a straight suit, shaved his chin, and was refreshed. Actually, Patty and Allen are the same, but their hearts are fresh. This novelty is an attraction.
My love is different from mother-child affection, friend affection and other feelings. Based on sexual intention, it is also called attraction to the opposite sex. Increasing the opposite sex characteristics of both husband and wife will naturally enhance the charm of love. In addition, men are visual animals, and all kinds of information received by their eyes can easily cause sexual excitement. Therefore, nothing can move a man more than seeing a delicate and beautiful wife. When middle-aged women reach middle age, their breasts droop and gradually lose their former fullness and beauty. However, regular participation in fitness exercises and attention to decoration will help improve the charm of the opposite sex, especially beautify the image of the husband.
A couple's new clothes not only changed their heads or makeup, but also changed their temperament. If the wife is rude at ordinary times, occasionally the bird will lean on others and speak softly to Wu Nong. A husband who brings freshness to his husband, if he is careless at ordinary times and doesn't care much about his wife's mood, pulls his wife, rubs her shoulder and says that you have worked hard, this is the touching place.
Some people think that lovers need to attract each other. In fact, after forming a family, consciously strengthen the charm between husband and wife and make your family life more enjoyable.
Pay attention to technology in daily communication.
Marriage is holding tea in both hands. The woman married in one hand, and the man held tea in one hand and hot water in the other. The hand that adds water must know the cold and warm order of adding water. People who drink tea must know the quality of tea varieties. Only through the default cooperation of both hands can we extract a good tea with cigarette fragrance.
I touched it. At this time, love is still there.
Someone painted a historical picture for marriage, which is divided into four stages. The first stage is the burning years of passion, and the exuberant love makes them invincible in the journey. In the second stage, you start to feel at a loss, trying to figure out what your spouse is thinking and saying. In the third stage, I found that I still had a long way to go, but I was easy to quarrel and always dissatisfied with each other's performance. In the fourth stage, the two finally got used to it, and the guideposts in their hearts became clearer, more inclusive and more tacit. They walked hand in hand side by side. Patty and Allen admit that they are at the intersection of the second and third stages, confused about the future and always hide their disappointment with their partners.
There are 168 hours in a week. 3, 4 hours, communicate with your partner and become your exclusive time. When communicating, you must be honest with each other, but you must not be emotional or complain that the other party has not done enough. Try to analyze what you lack and why these problems occur. If you feel embarrassed to say or don't know what you mean, you'd better write it down. One is to facilitate conversation, and the other is to avoid embarrassment.
Men need trust and women need care. Husbands must remember that when their wives pour out their feelings, they should correctly understand their thoughts and intentions and give them timely and appropriate support and help. When faced with pressure, women often feel confused, nervous and emotional. At this time, she must stand up and vent her problems. At this time, her husband should listen quietly and give comfort and encouragement in time, which can benefit her a lot. For the wife, when the husband is silent, he must understand his illness and mood. In addition, men are strong in appearance, but because there are many weaknesses in their hearts, wives should know their husbands better, don't preach and reform each other. Sometimes, they should tell him that you have done a good job and I am proud. Such encouragement will make the husband full of confidence and gratitude to his wife.