A letter to my niece Fan
Dear child:
You have been growing up beside me since you were four years old! Accompany you along the way, bring more beautiful memories to my aunt! Images of the past flashed through my mind like a mirror in a kaleidoscope.
First, early childhood
I still clearly remember that when you were three years old, you followed your mother back to your grandmother's house from distant Guangdong, holding a platinum ring in your hand and angrily saying to your aunt, Aunt, this is your twentieth birthday, and it's for you! ? Auntie is surprised by your understanding, cleverness and aura. This is not only an innate affection, but also a love for you, just like cherishing you! That winter, the school was on duty, and I took you to my school. When a teacher jokes with you: How old are you, little man? No, I'm not a villain, I'm a child! ? The childish sound of hitting the floor is really cute. At that time, my aunt worked in Dongzaogang Central Primary School. The former site of that school is now adult education. There is a table tennis table next to the headmaster's office. I'll take you there to play. You run up and down, like a little angel, bringing happiness to your aunt! You quickly adapted to the days without your mother around, and you grew into a chubby little girl in just over a month. I'll take you to take pictures and send them to your mother. You know how much your parents in Guangdong miss you, but they have to leave you at home for their own careers. When my mother saw the photo, she called back and said that when she saw you gain weight, they were much more stable! In fact, mom and dad are also comforting grandparents. They are working hard in a foreign land, and people who have not experienced ups and downs are unimaginable!
At that time, I liked to braid your hair and buy you beautiful but cheap floral skirts. I like to take you to my friend's house, aunt Xue Mei's house, aunt Meiling's house and aunt Jiang Lihua's house. Oh, by the way, did you use a stroller when you were born, or did they accompany me to Haimen to buy it in hot summer, and then help me carry it home from Haimen together? You know, kid, everyone will grow up.
Second, childhood.
Aunt taught you to recite poems before primary school. You have a very good memory. I can recite twenty or thirty poems in a summer vacation. Once my uncle and grandfather came, I asked you to show them. Are you generous? You remembered a very difficult tongue twister in one breath. At that time, my uncle and grandfather said: children, as long as they are willing to learn, they can learn everything well. ? What a philosophical sentence!
You are in the first grade of Youai Primary School. I still remember that in the first year, you had a 7-day National Day holiday, and you forgot to write the homework assigned by the teacher. There was a teacher named Lu who taught you at that time. The teacher's evaluation of you is forgetfulness, but it is often fatal to be popular and forgetful. You have forgotten your vows, your ideals and the ardent expectations of your teachers and classmates. You just started writing at that time. At first, your handwriting was crooked. I always scold you angrily. Even in the middle of the night, I will let you erase it all and write it again. You made me cry, but you will write well! You are much better than the younger brother who drives. He's not as obedient as you!
Aunt admitted that my brother's arrival really reduced my attention to you. From now on, you will sleep alone, because you used to sleep with your aunt. Even if you pee on menstruation three times and five times, you still like the feeling of holding you to sleep. Your little body has an unspeakable smell. You sleep next door to your aunt alone, and sometimes you push the quilt. Maybe it's our neglect. You must be very upset, but your careless aunt didn't communicate with you well, so you gradually changed from a cheerful person to an introverted person, and you didn't take the initiative to tell your aunt what troubles you had. If time can go back, I will definitely have a happier childhood with you!
Third, adolescence.
Since the fourth grade, you have been in an experimental school, and your vision has been broadened. You are virtuous and never compare with others. Aunt sometimes makes a little surprise for you to send to KFC, and you know how to share it with others. You joined a chorus club and sang loudly in the spotlight in a white chorus suit. I was also lucky enough to get a ticket from your music teacher Zhao and watch the performance at the People's Grand Theatre!
When I was in the sixth grade, your teacher Wu Yong fasted and asked you to recite an ancient poem every day. At that time, you felt so stressed and tired, but didn't you survive? Now sometimes you still think of what Mr. Wu said? Struggle? Such inspirational words? I remember teacher Wu Yong said: Education in China is a candidate. When you can't change it, get used to it. You can make yourself strong. ? Your Teacher Wu is an inspirational book. He came from Yancheng to teach in Haimen. In just a few years, he developed into a headmaster, published many books and set up his own? Naive? Studio, what are you taking? Struggle? Faith! You can often think of his words, which shows that you subconsciously want to be a man with the same pursuit as him!
Fourth, girlhood.
Since junior high school, the pressure is getting bigger and bigger. You seem a different person. I am always silent and unhappy when I come back from school, and I am not open enough to communicate with you. Sometimes I'm tough and you cry. Girls' feelings are long, sensitive and fragile. My aunt came from that era and was sensitive, but I was never fragile. You are like grass swaying in the wind. Although you have roots, you have no position, and your thoughts are easily influenced and tempted by others. Even now, I believe you have been upset, crying and regretting for failing in the senior high school entrance examination, because your QQ personality signature says: QQ, my last login. At that time, my aunt was very excited when she saw this mood signature. I said to my uncle: our dear knows the rise! ? However, in menstruation's busy days, you still watch TV and chat online in front of the computer, but menstruation doesn't say anything, which is really disappointing. Dude, how is that possible? It is always good to read books, write reading notes, even contribute to your favorite Youth Digest, or even start a blog to record your growth process. It's superficial to pursue hierarchy and satisfy watching TV and eating well!
Thinking that you are going to Guangdong soon, just like your beloved daughter is getting married, my heart is full of melancholy and sadness. Fortunately, our family took a group of family photos last year. I will look at you in the picture when I miss you in the future. After we are thousands of miles apart, you will come back less and less often. After all, the journey is too long. I once thought about leaving you with my aunt. We will go shopping together and eat a KFC or something when we are tired. I'm afraid these wishes can only come true. Although I really want to keep you around, it's for your future. I have to send you away to your parents' high school. After all, the threshold of Guangdong high school is relatively low. Aunt just wants to watch my dear child walk into the gate of a famous university and raise the ideal sail!
I wish you great success! Remember not to call every day, at least once a week! )
Bless your aunt forever.
20 12-7-3
A letter to my niece Fan
Xxxx:
I'm still used to calling you by your first name. That's what I called you when I was a kid. I'm used to it. Is this the first time I have written to you? This feeling is wonderful.
I remember that winter more than ten years ago, you mistook me for my mother and refused to let her near at night. My mother cried and was laughed at by everyone. It is also such a sunny winter. You are young, ignorant and fleshy, and you persistently treat me as your mother because I arrived two hours earlier than your mother.
How time flies! I always thought you were a child. Suddenly, you have grown up. In recent years, the number of times my aunt went home is limited, so the number of times we met is limited, but I have been looking forward to seeing you. Aunt and your mother are both born after 70, so there should be many so-called generation gaps with you, but I always hope to know you, because I like you, and I think you are a good child, a special child.
In July this year, grandma suddenly called to tell me your good news. You did well in the mid-term exam. I'm in the restaurant, and I'm very excited. Before that, I told your mother, I said it would be fine, and your mother was still worried. I believe you. I always believed you. Usually the results don't mean anything, just hold on at the critical moment!
Since last year, your mother began to complain a lot about you, and I know that you had some contradictions before. I know what you are going through, heavy academic pressure, adolescent confusion, mother's nagging and wordiness. In fact, we all came from your age, and we all had quarrels with our parents more or less. In our youth, we feel that we are omnipotent, disdainful of our parents, want to be free, and want to make our own decisions. It's just that your generation of children have more personality and ideas than we do. Because you are in an era of information explosion and advanced technology, but it is more difficult to distinguish good from bad than many ideological trends. This is the time you live in, and no one can change it. What you pursue, what you admire, and what you want to express are all too fast, which makes our generation of 70 unable to keep up and dazzled.
Just one thing, son, I want to tell you that no matter what era you are in, you must learn to manage yourself, manage your time, manage everything, and learn to be responsible for your life. Because you still need your own feet to set foot on your own path. Maybe you are not satisfied with your present situation. Maybe you think you have good skills. Why do you want to stay at school and learn these boring things? But this is also a part of life, a reality and an unchangeable reality. In China, reading is a relatively easy way, which can make you live a relatively good life. Pass the exam, go to college, find a job. If you can just learn your favorite major and do what you like after graduation, it will certainly be more perfect. At present, we are students. As students, we have the responsibility to do the role of students well. Try to do your best, so that in the future, you can realize your dreams or ideals, if you still have them.
Actually, I am very dissatisfied with the education in China. In fact, I know you have many hobbies, such as basketball and football (I wonder what your hobby is now? Could you tell me? ), but these hobbies are likely to be killed in students' lives because they feel that they are not important. But when you work in the future, you will find that everyone has his own hobbies and specialties. This is a great thing. I found a way. While you are working, you can continue your hobby. At that time, no one would persecute your hobbies with their studies. Continue that topic, why do you want to do your own study? Only by doing your own study well will your future road be smooth, and many of your ideas will not be utopia, and you will be one step closer to your ideal. ? Bitter first, then sweet? This principle still applies now. You may want to say, I think I'm fine now. I don't need to change anything. But what should you do after your student days? If you are just 18 years old and about to enter the society, what will you do to gain a foothold in this society? Where is your life? You can't lie on your parents all your life, and no one can escape from birth, illness and death. How long can you depend on them? I have a living example around me. When I graduated from junior high school, I admired those who went out to work to make money, and there was no academic pressure. I envy it. Giving up high school to go out to work, the novelty has passed, and working in the factory for 12 hours a day feels very tired. Who can I cry to at this time? But graduating from college is different. Graduation from college shows that you have received higher education. In fact, it is a kind of general education, a kind of broadening of horizons, which is equivalent to getting an admission ticket and will take you to a new world. In this new world, the choices can be very wide. As long as you are talented, it will shine wherever you put it. It's time for you to show your talents and let go of your youth. You also have more freedom, and you can choose the life you want relatively freely.
As for your mother, your mother and I are sisters. She used to bully me when I was young. As for me, I am weak and lazy, and I often make your mother angry. When I was a child, I cried with runny nose and tears, and said in my heart countless times: Hum, I will never talk to you again. You wait and see that I am a man without ambition, and then I will disappear. But when we grow up, our sisters become very close, and I know your mother better. You can imagine the sisterhood between your mother and me, right? Your mother is the most capable and filial among our brothers and sisters. I used to like poetry, influenced by your mother. I love and respect your mother from the bottom of my heart. Your mother used to be a young artist and wrote many poems, not to mention a diary. Only then did I know that your mother went to a technical school because her family was nearsighted.
To be honest, do you sometimes despise your parents? I know that children will have it now, because you are well-fed and take everything for granted. At that time, to be honest, our children were concerned about the hard work of their parents. Many times, it is really unbearable. When we were young, we all had a hard time. But although the times are different now and the people of the country are rich, parents are still working hard. Parents' hearts are on their children, from conception to birth in October, from stumbling to learning English, from childhood to adolescence to middle age. The longer a child grows, the farther away he may be from his parents' sight, but he will always be his own child in the eyes of his parents, and he will always have endless words. But this world is so contradictory. On the one hand, it is parents' worry and concern, on the other hand, children are increasingly trying to get rid of their hands and begin to hate and dislike their parents. As the old saying goes, children are debts of the past. Wait until one day, when you become a mother, you may feel the hardship of your parents, but it will be a little late then. So my aunt tells you now, and you may not listen. It doesn't matter, you can't hear or see. One day, you will definitely recall this passage I told you.
What I want to tell you is, try to be considerate of your parents' hearts, because if they are wrong, it is because they love you. That heart is right. Because you love your heart, the things you do may be different for each parent's level and method, so the effect is different, but the heart is the same. I ask a little too much of you, because I know you are a very kind and pure child. Besides, why do I ask so much of you? Because your mother is a stubborn person, I can only expect something from you. Feel your hardness, yours doesn't matter, it's completely fake. Play cool, right? I know you have a soft heart, and this heart longs for love and affirmation, but sometimes your mother may not be able to give you these longings, because your mother is like you, and she is also a person with a cold appearance and a soft heart. Our "regular" family has a problem, that is, it is not good at emotional expression, alas. I also want to say that this bond between parents and children, this relationship, is actually very difficult to break. Your mother hates you sometimes, but it's actually her own fault. Problems with mothers you hate or disagree with may also take root in you. Be considerate, Xiao Yan. I believe you can handle these problems better!
Life is actually very short. ? I advise you not to cherish noble Yi, and I advise you to cherish youth. When the flowers should be folded, we should fold them quickly, and don't wait for the flowers to wither before folding one. ? How well this poem is written. Cherish your present student days. The happiest thing in a person's life is his own school days. One is that the older you get, the more complicated your responsibilities will become, and the other is that your student days are the simplest, so you don't have to worry about financial resources.
Aunt wants you to stay away from things that have nothing to do with your study for a while, and calm down and concentrate on your study. Because other things can be made up later, but students can't get their time back. Once an opportunity is missed, it is difficult to seize it again. I heard that you went to bed very late. Starting today, you can try to focus on what you want to do, then play what you want to play, and then you will find different. Have fun! In addition, don't stay up too late at night, it will hurt your health, and the classroom efficiency is not high the next day. Go to bed early and make good use of class time, so you can save time to play again.
Hey, hey, aunt, finally I said something wordy. What I told you was good advice. I won't tell anyone who wants me to. (I just slipped away and made faces, haha)
aunt
A letter to my niece Fan Wensan
Kangping:
Big JIU has no other meaning, just wants to tell you some truth and heartfelt wishes. Ever since I saw you getting thinner and haggard, my uncle's heart has not been put down, and I have been whispering to your mother secretly. Your mother is worried about something, but there is nothing she can do. She is always afraid of hurting your sensitive and fragile heart, and even forbids everyone to mention thin words in front of you. Every time I see you talking, she always stops me with her eyes.
Maybe it's because it's been a long time. The first time I saw your face last night, my heart thumped: pale and thin, all out of shape. Look at the hand again, it is obviously a layer of leather bag with a few bones. Except for the color, it is simply the hand of a bony old man, which is really unsightly. It's not hard to see your thin figure through your clothes. When you walk, a gust of wind can blow you down. I I can't help thinking about the slimming photos of online supermodels. It's a tragedy!
I am very sad, thinking of effective methods. I want to ask you for your email address and talk to you calmly. But as soon as I saw you, I was angry, not just angry, but angry: a good girl committed suicide, which is unacceptable!
Maybe the words are a little extreme, but this is my real feeling. Outsiders can see clearly. People, sometimes really need to listen to the opinions of onlookers.
Everyone loves beauty, and girls like slim figure, which is normal and understandable. But there is a limit to everything, especially if it is too late. My uncle and your mother are also beautiful in slimming, and they are often complacent about losing three or two pounds, but our starting point is to exercise first and lose excess fat and fat. Yoga, running, reasonable diet, proper control of dinner intake, and most importantly, balanced nutrition to meet the normal needs of the body. This is our way to lose weight. My uncle has achieved initial results and has the determination and perseverance to stick to it. The day before yesterday, it was reported that a 77-year-old woman in Changchun went to the gym to exercise every day. For ten years, she insisted on running more than 10,000 meters every day without interruption. She is as young as a girl and as strong as a boy. My uncle admires her very much.
When a person comes to this world, he will live for decades, not to say that he is here to enjoy life, but at least to make himself as comfortable as possible when conditions permit. If you want to be comfortable, you must have a healthy body. The king of Chu loved to have a thin waist, and many imperial secretaries starved to death. Those starving harem concubines have no choice. If they can't please the emperor, they can only die alone in the dark harem. Their diet is pitiful. Modern women don't have to live to please anyone, pursue the life they want, and then enjoy the life they pursue. Self-improvement, self-reliance and self-confidence are the characteristics of modern women. Self-confidence is a woman's most charming charm. A confident person can't deliberately change himself for a certain purpose, let alone follow suit. His lifestyle has shaped a unique me.
Yes, beauty varies from person to person. Some people like to be slim, others like to be plump, and now they are talking about being thin. It's just that many people have entered a misunderstanding that thinness is skin and bones, so some girls have started to go on a diet. This case has been reported many times on TV and online, from dieting to anorexia to treatment to overeating, and then dieting formed a vicious circle, resulting in many deaths. It was not until many world famous models (all young girls in their twenties) died of dieting to lose weight that the World Health Organization attached great importance to it, and the weight of models will become a strictly controlled indicator in the future. In my opinion, the beauty of bones should be to transform fat into muscles, giving people a sharp feeling, while skin and bones are the signs of terminally ill and dying people. Beauty should be pleasing to the eye, not shocking. Youth means physical flexibility and spiritual vitality.
Linger, because you have been in poor health since you were a child, your mother broke her heart for you, especially during your high school and college entrance examination. Needless to say, you know better than anyone. Your mother worries about you all day, and her hair falls off in a lock, sometimes several pieces fall off overnight, just like a ghost's antimony head. Your physical condition now affects the hearts of more people. Your grandparents cry for you, your father quarrels with your mother, and your grandparents worry about you. Even your great-uncle asked me about your illness several times, but he never cared about anyone except his closest relatives. Relevant data show that those dieters suffer from malnutrition due to long-term lack of essential nutrients: they are prone to various diseases and anemia due to decreased immunity, gastroptosis due to relaxation of abdominal cavity, mental decline and mental retardation due to insufficient blood supply to the brain, and so on. Not alarmist. To embark on this road is to embark on the road of suicide, and there is only one dead end! Everyone knows, can you not be afraid?
? Love your son and protect your body? This is the writer Lu Xinger's speech after he was seriously ill in hospital and looked at his son who was dragged down day by day. I also want to add that if you love your parents, your family and your friends, please take good care of your health. Don't let your relatives always worry about themselves. Only by protecting yourself can you have extra energy to care about others. People don't just live for themselves.
Linger, don't blame your uncle for being wordy. Uncle is really scared! You are not a fat boy, you are a little thin. At that time, you were really beautiful, and your tall figure was like a symmetrical tree. I can never get enough of it. Uncle, how I hope my smiling niece will appear again in the near future! This is the wish of your parents and people!