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A few days ago, my college roommate suddenly asked me on WeChat for several years. Have you had a bad few years? I asked her why she said that.

She said that in the circle of friends, I can hardly see any photos of me going out for dinner, singing, attending parties and so on. Ask me what's wrong To tell the truth, I was really surprised by her question. I really didn't expect that she didn't like going out to the so-called party, but it became an abnormal state in her eyes.

I told her that since I am a wife and mother, I don't like excitement. She said that I was so bad and unsociable that I would be eliminated by society. To be honest, I don't agree with her. Maybe it's because I took care of my children at home alone for three years and had little leisure time. So since my children went to school, I like being alone.

I like to drink tea, watch psychology, listen to music, drink coffee, exercise and occasionally improve my cooking, even if I go to the supermarket. I feel very comfortable and comfortable enjoying my leisure time like this.

I like a person more and more. Being alone makes me feel more fulfilled. Nobody bothers me, don't cater to me, don't say hello, don't pretend to please me, be yourself and feel at ease. You said that people with rich spiritual world have no time to be lonely and cold.

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When I was young, I was always afraid of being unsociable, so I went to join in the fun and tirelessly rushed to one party after another. But as I grow older, I realize that the world belongs to me and has nothing to do with others.

Writer Liu Tong once said: "Being unsociable is superficial loneliness, and being gregarious is inner loneliness."

Compared with a person, I am more afraid that pretending to cater to and greet each other in the noise will make me feel at a loss. Being alone allows me to be myself and give up ineffective social interaction. Not only can you have time to experience the beauty of life, but you can also stay away from some useless social activities.

When you are alone, the beauty of tranquility arises spontaneously, followed by clarity, beauty and warmth. A person's sky, a person's world, think about writing, walking and drawing, a beautiful and quiet me thinking alone. Just like a child running and playing on the sunny grass, his heart is so happy, so comfortable and so satisfied.

It is absolutely a kind of happiness for a person to dare to put himself in loneliness and not cater to each other in a way that changes himself. A woman with real aristocratic taste enjoys being alone. They never feel lonely, and they don't complain that they don't have company. What they do is to cultivate their own self-cultivation and improve themselves.

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Everyone's life is short, but unfortunately, many people often spend a lot of energy getting along with others, but they don't learn to be alone. In the so-called gregarious, they are enthusiastic and talkative on the surface, but in fact, most of them just take part in accidental amusement, hypocritically cater to and say hello.

I don't like going to parties, and I don't like joining in the fun. It may seem unsociable to others, but I'm actually very happy.

I often hear people around me complain that a person is boring, and I can't understand it every time I hear this. What's wrong with a person? Don't you feel tired when you meet people you don't want to see, drink wine you don't want to drink, and say things you don't want to say, in order to appear so-called "gregarious"?

Most women with real high taste are different. They have their own self, know what they want, live truly, do not cater to, are not hypocritical, and can enrich themselves in loneliness. This is really meaningful and valuable.

Women with real high taste tend to be unsociable. Being alone is an experience, a cultivation and a realm of life. Therefore, when you know how to be alone, your taste in life will gradually improve.

Solitude is the enrichment of the soul and a kind of spiritual enjoyment. When people reach middle age, it is enough to find a quiet place!

Author: Ling Xiaomai, a woman who longs to wander in the word world all her life, accompanied you to live a poem with the warmest brushstrokes.