Wang Yanbo, a 25-year-old doctoral student, was awarded the 20 19 Shanghai Jiaotong University Student. During his doctoral studies, Wang Yanbo published 16 SCI papers. In addition, he is the champion of the campus song contest and a fitness expert of six-pack abdominal muscles. Speaking of this, many people will think that Wang Yanbo is a senior in the school. Actually, he's a novice, dad.
During the preparation of the thesis, Wang Yanbo and his girlfriend formally got married and had their own small family, and their responsibilities became heavier.
Wang Yanbo got up at 5: 30 to make breakfast, went to school to do experiments at 6: 00, and began to analyze the data at 9: 00. 1 1 went to buy food for lunch, continued the experiment in the afternoon, went out to be a tutor at 7: 00 in the evening, worked three jobs at most, and went home at night 1 1, and then kept busy.
Now Wang Yanbo has another lovely child. Every day after coming home from work, Wang Yanbo will accompany his wife to take care of the baby, taking care of work and family. Wang Yanbo said that after having a family and children, he did not become a burden at work, but encouraged himself to do many things that he thought he could not do. After Wang Yanbo's story was shared online, it attracted the attention of many netizens. Many netizens said that "this is someone else's father, and he can do everything in his work and life."
In the old concept, "men are outside the house and women are inside" is a normal thing. I think everything at home should be left to my wife. I only care about my work and enjoy my life when I get home from work. In fact, this kind of life is still very stressful for the wife, and it is easy to become "widowed parenting" after having children, because the man often throws the burden to his wife through hard work.
In fact, as long as the arrangement is reasonable, career and family can be caught at the same time, and "widowed parenting" can be put an end to, so that children can live better.
How should a father balance his career and family? Refuse to "widowed" parenting
Reasonable allocation of working hours
I believe everyone has heard of single mothers. People think that children will lack fatherly love if they are only taken care of by their mothers. In fact, even if the family is complete, children will lack fatherly love because their father is busy with work. We call this state "widowed" parenting. In fact, many dads could have spent their spare time with their wives and children, playing with their children and playing sports with their children, but many dads took their work home during the break and had no family time.
After a long time, although living in a family, the relationship between the child and the father will become strange. As the father of the child, he has the responsibility and obligation to educate and accompany the child, put down his work, allocate his working time reasonably, and don't bring his working mood into his family after work. Only in this way can family relations be harmonious.
You should be busy with your work, considerate of your wife and take care of your children.
Many fathers think that he works hard to earn money to support his family, but mothers are also tired of taking care of their children. As a husband, he should understand his wife's difficulties, spare some time to do housework every day, spend more time with his children after work, and let them feel the warmth of fatherly love. Only in this atmosphere can children grow up healthily and happily. If there is an empty family, but the children have no father's care, only the mother's "widowed" parenting will have a negative impact on the children's growth.
As husbands and fathers, we should shoulder our due responsibilities and attach importance to family and children's education while doing our job well.