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Some time ago, there was a female colleague who bought an SUV without saying anything after 90.
Speaking of this female colleague, she is not a person with a house and a deposit. She rents a house now, with a monthly rent plus a car loan of several thousand yuan, and often complains that the burden is too heavy.
Other older colleagues asked, "Since the burden is heavy, why buy a car? You bought a good car? It is better to save money to buy a house first? "
The female colleague said: "The house will come slowly, but the car should be available now, because it is too painful to squeeze the bus every day without a car."
Later, I heard from other colleagues that this female colleague bought a car, probably because she really felt that it was too hard to squeeze the bus, and more was to package herself as a rich and powerful beauty with good conditions. As for the purpose, it goes without saying.
We post-80s aunts can only admit awkwardly that we really don't understand the world of young people.
Not only do we not understand young people, but some young people also don't understand their peers.
A Qing, a friend, said something recently. She met a blind date of her peers with impure motives.
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Things still have to start from the beginning.
A Qing is 27 years old, not too old, but she has reached marriageable age, so her parents began to look for a suitable partner for her.
A Qing is engaged in education and training, and his daily work is busy. She doesn't have high demands on life and looks simple.
A Qing has kissed several times before and after, but she is in line with the mentality of young people. She said, "blind date is just an excuse to see how the peers are doing, and then see if the other party has a fate with themselves. They are all young people, so why put love and love first in life? Who hasn't thought that single life has a taste! "
With this optimistic attitude, although the previous blind date was not successful, it also expanded social interaction and became good friends with one of the boys.
But not long ago, A Qing, a blind date, was speechless.
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This blind date man called him Acheng, who is also 27 years old. He is an employee of a foreign trade company and is good at business at ordinary times.
When Acheng first met Ah Qing, he did well. His clothes look carefully matched, his hair is energetic and his manners are decent.
At that time, Ah Qing had a good impression of Ah Cheng. As Kan Kan talked about Ah Cheng, the two gradually talked about more and more topics.
After meeting for the first time, the two left each other a WeChat, and then chatted on WeChat from time to time.
Objectively speaking, A Qing had a good impression on Acheng at first, but gradually found that Acheng seemed to be different from himself.
Why do you say that? A Qing told me that Acheng likes to bask in his life in a circle of friends, but they are all "tall".
Sun your watch, your brand-name clothes and bags, your five-star hotel and expensive afternoon tea, and even photos of you working out in the gym.
But A Qing is not a little girl who knows nothing, but also a person with social experience. Mao Mao in her heart thinks that Cheng is not reliable and not as beautiful as he looks.
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Sure enough, after a while, Acheng began to send famous brands to A Qing.
Acheng is also very skilled in popular science. At first, he didn't say anything. He just showed pictures to Ah Qing, and then waited for Ah Qing to ask. Ah Qing gradually learned that the wallet is LV, the briefcase is LV, and there are key bags, mobile phone bags and so on.
After Acheng asked A Qing for a famous brand of popular science, he kept saying that he lacked a business package, but he wouldn't buy it himself and asked his girlfriend to give it to him later.
After a long time, A Qing felt that Acheng was not only hypocritical, but also good at brainwashing girls.
For example, first build your own young elite, so that girls of the same age feel that his conditions are very good, and communication with girls is the high point of girls.
Then create your own personal design that is not short of money. It's full of famous brands, but there's a special one you won't buy yourself, waiting for your future girlfriend to give it to you.
Girls may be fooled if they don't have a certain ability to distinguish.
A Qing asked some of her friends, "My blind date has been giving me a famous science package and suggested that I buy it for him. What should I do? "
Several male friends said in unison: "Pull him black. Eating soft rice is also a bone monster. Want to take advantage, don't look at yourself. "
A Qing wanted to think, and began to look for Acheng to cry for poverty, saying that he accidentally borrowed online loans and owed tens of thousands of dollars. A Qing sincerely asked Acheng if he could turn around and pay back the money later, but Acheng hacked him.
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It is often said that girls like to take advantage. When you are in love, you can either invite your boyfriend to dinner or buy yourself clothes and bags. So many girls would rather cry on a BMW than laugh on a bicycle.
Is that really the case? Is it true that only women are realistic, and men are unrealistic and don't care?
In fact, when you think about it carefully, it is definitely not only women who intend to get material benefits when falling in love, but many men also think so.
But it is undeniable that such an idea is not desirable.
The most fundamental purpose of love between men and women is to find the other half in the future and choose a lover who will grow old together, rather than materialization. However, a group of people fall in love not to find a lover, but to meet their material requirements for nothing.
Fortunately, when Ah Qing didn't feel cheated and felt something was wrong, she immediately consulted a friend of the opposite sex.
Sure enough, when A Qing said that he was in an economic crisis and needed to borrow money, Acheng immediately blacked him out. Through this incident, A Qing felt that she really needed to polish her eyes before she could fall in love. If you can't do it well, you have money and people.
When Qing talked to me about it, her words showed fear of love. But in fact, Qing need not be afraid. After all, there are always a few people in this world, both men and women, who are eager to cheat each other's material and money through love. The vast majority of boys are still straightforward: it is a natural mission to make money to support the family without spending women's money.
But it is also a reminder to girls that falling in love is falling in love. Don't think about letting your boyfriend spend money for you, but on the other hand, don't think about giving all your money to your boyfriend.
Spend your own money and talk about a love without emotional burden and economic disputes, which is the love that young people should have.