If you have an affair, I advise you to hurry up and break up when it's time to break up.
There is no cat that doesn't cheat. Similarly, men and women are a little careful. It's normal to see a very good person and feel a little good. However, if your love for each other is far from the novelty and impulse you imagined, can it still be love? At best, I like it, or even dislike it. So what are we going to do together? Want to gather enough people to fight the landlord? Funny!
Love is restraint. Can you restrain yourself for each other and resist the temptation of love from outside? If you can, then you are lovers, and jack shall have Jill, and you are models. If not, then you are scum, scum.
Cheating once is the same as countless times, because a leopard cannot change his spots. With the first time, there will be a second time. Maybe the first time, I was a little scared, a little excited and a little guilty, but if you forgive him/her, then the second time, he/she won't feel guilty, and will swear that I love you and just play with him/her, believe me. If you forgive each other naively because of "love", it will be over, and you will definitely be hurt twice in the future. Why bother? Why not take a natural and unrestrained walk, let the other person have a memory, and maybe save an unknown person who will get hurt!
Especially the kind of affair with his girlfriend's best friend and his boyfriend's brother, is simply incomprehensible. What do you think when everyone looks down? Rabbits don't eat grass beside their nests yet! Just for a moment's pleasure, and I don't want to think about how to mix in the future. Is it embarrassing?
What is clear here is that cheating and finding another one after breaking up are not a concept. It is normal for two people to break up. At most, the incumbent will become the predecessor, because if it is not appropriate, then a peaceful breakup is also the best choice. It's really normal to find the right one after breaking up.
But if you eat what's in the bowl and look at what's in the pot, it's a bit too much.
Yes, cheating is like this, hurting two people at the same time.
However, there is another saying, seamless integration. Is it cheating?
What is seamless integration? I just broke up with you this morning and found someone else this afternoon, almost at the same time. Personally, I think that seamless integration is actually an ambiguous relationship, and you obviously fell in love with another person before breaking up, which is also the kind of "congenial" between the two sides. Do you dare to say that there was no ambiguity before breaking up? Do not believe! Just break up before the other party finds out or do more harm to the other party, that's all. But it will still hurt the other half, and there will be a feeling that you are too stupid and have long been cuckolded, which is super uncomfortable.
Here, I want to ask, are you at ease with someone who once cheated on you? Aren't you afraid that he will do it again?
So, please don't connect seamlessly or derail directly! Please be loyal to the other half! If you don't love, please break up first and find a more suitable next one. In this way, it is a kind of respect for others, for yourself and for yourself.
However, if you really encounter such a thing as cheating, please be clean and tidy. If it is broken, it will be broken!