Two men were divorced, and the divorce was also very painful. Fortunately, they each used a very suitable way to cheer themselves up, but the days after that got better and better.
Mr. Wang:
After the divorce, I felt very lonely. The child was awarded to my ex-wife, and I didn't see it much. I miss my children very much, and I miss the happy days of my family.
At that time, it felt dark around, and there was no one to talk to. I have so many words to hold in my heart that I feel like I'm about to explode.
So I started to keep a diary. At first, my original intention was just to pour out those words in my heart. If I don't pour them out, I will collapse.
If you can't find someone to talk to, just talk to the diary. No one else will see it anyway, and I don't care. I can write whatever I want. Whenever I feel depressed, I keep a diary. When I finished it, I felt much more comfortable and released.
I started writing a diary just to vent my emotions. Later, slowly, my emotions were almost exhausted, but keeping a diary became a habit, a kind of self-comfort and encouragement, which made me feel that even if the whole world didn't want to listen to me, at least I could write to myself.
In my most depressed days, diary is my friend. Looking back now, I am really glad that I dug out a notebook, picked up a pen and wrote the first word at that moment.
As an experienced person, I want to tell all divorced male compatriots that all kinds of irritability and depression after divorce must be vented, no matter by what means. In addition, during this period, I must find myself a spiritual pillar and support. Men also need security and support. My pillar at that time was keeping a diary.
Mr. Li:
The method I use is fitness. I can't say it and I'm not afraid of jokes. Weight before divorce 180 kg, height 175.
After the divorce, I was depressed for a while. I can't sleep well and eat irregularly. After drinking and eating junk food, I became fat and obviously felt weak. I had to sweat when climbing the third floor, and I had to rest for a long time to recover.
One day I saw a news that a single middle-aged man died suddenly at home, and it took others several days to find him dead at home. I was scared when I saw it. I'm afraid I'm so fat and live alone. If I keep getting fat and weak at this rate, I will be on the news like this person one day.
Although my life after divorce is a mess, I also cherish my life. I thought about losing weight. Anyway, I'm divorced and I have nothing to do at home after work.
I was too fat to go to the gym and run in the community, so I bought a treadmill for fear of being pointed at. At first, I ran very slowly, which was tantamount to walking fast. As long as you walk for more than ten minutes, your face is covered with sweat, just like taking a bath.
At first, I was not used to it. I haven't exercised for so many years, and sudden exercise makes me uncomfortable. However, I cherish my life, and this idea kept me going for a week, two weeks and three weeks.
A month later, a miracle happened. Running on the treadmill for half an hour every day is what I look forward to most all day. On the one hand, it may be a habit, on the other hand, it is also very cool to watch the sweat dripping from running.
Slowly, I accelerated my running speed and extended my running time. I found relaxation and happiness in running.
A few months later, I lost to 140 Jin, and others saw me shine and said that I looked better. The whole person was different. People may just like to listen to nice words, so the more I listen, the more confident I am.
Before, I was fat, divorced and in a bad mental state. Even if others don't speak ill of me to my face, I still doubt that they speak ill of me behind my back. At that time, my self-esteem was particularly strong. In fact, to put it bluntly, it is inferiority.
Later, I was in good health, confident, relaxed and looked more open. Slowly, my popularity has also improved, and my social circle has become wider than before the divorce.
Conclusion: After the divorce, Mr. Wang found a pillar and support by writing a diary to help him vent his depressed negative emotions. And Mr. Li lost weight by running and improved his physical and mental health bit by bit.
You can't get rid of divorce overnight. You can try to keep a diary, try to keep fit and find some other forms. What you do is not the key. The key is to find a way that you like and can stick to it, so that you can enrich yourself bit by bit and get better bit by bit. Maybe a few months later, maybe a year or two later, stick to it. When you look back at yourself at that time, you will find yourself making progress and getting better.
Even if you didn't meet your expectations at that time, at least you were full of hope, because you knew you were on a spiral road.