When I first started living alone, Xiao Li always wanted to do it in one step: get a fitness card, buy a box of books and prepare a set of kitchen utensils. As a result, I went to the gym less than three times, and many books were not even unpacked.
There are even fewer times to enter the kitchen. Later, I finally understood that it was wrong to make a grand self-discipline plan at the beginning, and it would become more degenerate if I didn't do it. ,
Self-discipline should be gradual, starting with small goals, such as memorizing words in the morning, tidying the room regularly, forming habits, making self-discipline instinctive and not bringing great psychological burden. A little self-discipline every day can produce a little self-discipline.
02. occasional violation of discipline is allowed. "
Self-discipline is a long process. The key is not how perfect it is, but how long it will last. In the process of self-discipline, we may slack off. For example, if you want to get up early, it's too cold to sleep for a while today. For example, if you want to lose weight, you can't help eating a big meal today.
These are all human nature. However, many people will feel that if they don't persist for one day, they will fail. It is wrong to simply give up. We can continue to be self-disciplined tomorrow. As long as you persist for one more day, you can gain one more point. Relaxing once or twice occasionally is not a failure, but a complete abandonment.
03. physical isolation, away from temptation
Home is a place full of temptations. When you want to study, there is a game machine next to you. When you want to lose weight, there is a snack box in the cupboard ... In the face of temptation, few people can persist, and fighting against it will consume willpower and make people tired.
No one should overestimate his willpower, especially when he is alone. The cost of degradation is zero and his willpower is weaker. The only effective way is physical isolation! ! For example, give away the game console when you study, and don't buy snacks when you lose weight. Take the initiative to stay away from temptation
04. Find like-minded friends and stick to it.
A person's self-control is limited, so you can find like-minded friends to stick to it and urge each other. For example, if you make an appointment with a friend to run together every day, and sometimes you want to be lazy, but you find that the other person has left, you will choose to go out because you are embarrassed to stand up.
The same is true of reading. You can punch in with your friends every day and share your experience after reading it. You can also ask your peers for help when you encounter difficulties, so it is naturally not easy to give up. One person walks fast, many people walk far.
05. Maintain a good mental state
Have you ever found that when you don't sleep well, the next day, you will be in poor spirits, easily lose your temper, become less efficient at work, and become less enthusiastic about what you plan to do.
Some suggestions on maintaining a good mental state
1. Sleep at least 6 hours at night;
2. Develop the habit of taking a lunch break, 20 minutes is appropriate;
3. Insist on exercising at least 3 times a week;
4. completely put down work and play on weekends to replenish vitality;
5. Listen to music and relax in your spare time.
A good mental state is the basis of maintaining self-discipline.
06. Don't compare with others at will.
Today I buy a car, tomorrow you buy a house, and the day after tomorrow he gets married ... Everyone has a different starting point and a different flowering period, so there is really no need to compare with others, otherwise it will only add trouble.
If you want to make yourself comfortable, you might as well straighten your mind and compare yourself with yesterday.
As long as today's self-discipline is the same as yesterday, or today's self-discipline is a little better than yesterday, that is something to be happy about. People have to die than people, and goods have to be thrown away.