Through the previous sharing, you may have made up your mind, I want to change, I want to rediscover my passion for work, I want to enhance my psychological immunity, I want to establish my own social support system, and I want to realize my lofty goals and ideals. In this section, I'll pour some cold water on you first, so let's be quiet.
When Wang Jianlin, the richest man in China, mentioned the date between Lu and Yu, he immediately took his personal experience as an example to talk about his advice to young people. "The first sentence of many students I met was' I want to be the richest man'. I told him that it was right to have this idea. I wanted to be the first in the world and the richest man. But the direction of struggle, it is best to set a small goal that can be achieved first. For example, I made 100 million yuan from the beginning. Do you think you can make 100 million yuan in a few years? Are you going to be five years or three years? After earning 100 million yuan, let's talk about the next goal and strive for 65.438+0 billion yuan and 65.438+0 billion yuan.
We are often inspired by some great goals and often think that great success requires large-scale changes. Whether it's reading, fitness, starting a business, buying a house, promotion and salary increase, or interpersonal relationships, we want to make changes immediately when we think of these goals, and we are determined to turn them into reality and make ourselves different through our own efforts.
However, simple determination and vows often have no effect. Our predictions about the future are often greater than our actual level. Without new power, the power will gradually decay. It is said that every year from June 5438- 10, the gym will be crowded with people with New Year's goals, and the flow of people will return to normal from March.
In the process of achieving a big goal, you will encounter difficulties, physical, psychological and spiritual. At this time, you need willpower to persist, and willpower is limited. When willpower weakens, burnout will appear until you give up this goal. You may start to regret why you set such a big goal, start to ask yourself why you can't stick to it, and start to complain that you always do.
Another problem brought by big goals is that there is usually no proper and timely feedback in the process of implementation, which we will share in the next section.
Therefore, to break down big goals, set small goals first. The realization of small goals represents "qualitative change", and the big goal is achieved by continuously realizing small goals, that is, the final "qualitative change" is achieved through the accumulation of "quantitative change".
When it comes to small goals, many people will feel dismissive.
I don't know if you have calculated that if you increase 1% every day compared with the previous day, how much can you increase in one year? The answer is 37 times.
Einstein said that compound interest is the eighth wonder of mankind, which is worse than the atomic bomb.
Lao Tzu said, the wood of folded arms is born in a milli; Nine-story platform, starting with tired soil; A journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step.
We know that persistence is the most important thing. Small goals require little effort and are the easiest to stick to, but small goals will eventually bring you great changes.
What kind of small goals are appropriate? Find yourself a suitable small goal, it must be in the study area. What is a learning area?
American Noel Tichy divides people's perception of the outside world into comfort zone, stretching zone and panic zone. Corresponding to the knowledge that has been mastered skillfully, there are certain challenging knowledge and knowledge that cannot be learned for the time being.
The comfort zone thing is easy for you. They are not difficult to learn or things you are used to. You are in a comfortable psychological state and feel very comfortable. In this state, you often perform well. Being in a familiar environment every day, doing what you are good at, interacting with familiar people, even experts in this field, are very comfortable with people and things in this field. But I learned very little and made slow progress. For example, riding a bike, you can ride easily without deliberately controlling your balance when you learn, but you practice cycling like this every day and repeat it, and finally you master the skills of cycling. It may be easier for you to ride a bike, but you won't get anything else, because from the training point of view, it's meaningless and "training for nothing".
Being in the comfort zone for a long time is harmful. "Born in sorrow and died in happiness" and "People die in habit", best-selling author Walsh bluntly said, "If you don't step out of your comfort zone, it is tantamount to wasting your life." Life begins at the end of your comfort zone. To some extent, Donald Walsh is telling us the danger of staying in the comfort zone for a long time.
Things in the panic zone are too difficult for you. They are things or knowledge beyond your ability. You will feel worried, scared and at a loss, which may lead to collapse or even give up studying. For example, riding a tightrope directly, you may not even have the courage to try. If your goal falls in the panic zone, you may not want to practice at all, or you may try to give up several times because the gap is too big. Maybe you were brave enough to go up and practice, and you fell down and your car broke down. This practice is usually "blind practice"
If you are in a panic zone now, the first thing to do is to build self-confidence and overcome fears and worries. Mark Twain said that I have lived in fear for a long time, but in fact, most of my worries have not happened. Many things are actually very simple, but we make it complicated and difficult ideologically.
The study area is in between. This is an area that we seldom touch or even set foot in. Here is full of novelty, where we can fully exercise ourselves and challenge ourselves. In life, change a route to work; When studying, contact with books of another major; Go to work, change jobs. For example, you can't ride a bike with one hand at present, but you can't either. With some practice, you can master it in a short time. If your goal falls in the study area, then the difficulty of this goal is just right for you. You can certainly achieve this goal through the four-step method we introduced earlier, which is what we usually call "deliberate practice".
Ben Shachar believes that the comfort zone is like frozen water, the learning zone is flowing water, and the panic zone is boiling water, which is very restless, but difficult to control and very dangerous. It is generally best to stay in the study area. So when you set a goal, you must measure its difficulty according to your own situation. It can't be too high or too low, and it must just fall into the study area. It keeps us trying things that are beyond our ability.
For example, do exercise.
In fact, because everyone has different personality preferences and different situations at different stages, the boundaries between different regions are not absolute. For example, the ten-ring roller coaster in Chimelong belongs to the fear zone for some children, but it may be located in the comfort zone for some people. When children have experienced some relatively soothing roller coasters, the Ten Ring Roller Coaster will be in the study area.
In the comfort zone, we often don't feel any pressure, and we don't have a strong desire to change, ignoring the changes in the environment and relaxing our requirements. I believe everyone understands the experiment of boiling frogs in warm water. The results of psychological research show that people will make progress only in the field of learning. Trying new things and exploring unknown areas can broaden thinking and horizons and stimulate potential.
Well, what we are sharing today is that you should set a small goal in the field of study first. When you achieve small goals, your comfort zone will gradually expand. Slowly, things that scare you will enter the scope of your study area and eventually become part of your comfort zone.
After class today, please think about where you need to get out of your comfort zone. Try to set a small goal for yourself and let your comfort zone expand slowly.
See you next time.
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Rekindle work passion and get out of job burnout
"Job burnout", also known as "job burnout", is a kind of psychological fatigue caused by work, and it is the feeling that office workers are physically and mentally exhausted and exhausted under work pressure. It is different from physical fatigue, but comes from psychological fatigue. How to overcome this sense of job burnout? The passion to find a job again? Meet new challenges and opportunities in the best condition?
In this micro-lesson, we invite Shi Quan, an expert of positive psychology in the workplace, to take us to scientifically recognize job burnout, master effective methods to actively respond and rekindle the passion of life and work. Through online teaching and offline communication, it is carried out from three levels: seeking support, self-improvement and self-transcendence, aiming to help employees know themselves, understand the environment and live in harmony with them, and finally provide support and help for the development of enterprise production and operation.
Topic 1: Understanding "Job Burnout"
The first day: a scientific interpretation of job burnout. Are you a tired bird in the workplace?
Theme 2: Self-improvement and "sense of participation" in work.
The second day: professional intermission introspection helps you get out of the mindset (self-awareness).
Day 3: How to measure the distance to reach the goal and move from idea to reality? (management by objectives)
Day 4: Where did the time go? Realistic Coping of "Busy" People (Time Management)
Day 5: Mindfulness decompression, away from negative emotional sources (emotional management)
? Theme 3: The workplace is not lonely, build first-class interpersonal relationships.
Day 6: Pay attention to people's existence and manage emotional accounts (interpersonal relationships) with trust.
Day 7: Pay attention to the needs of the group and establish a social support system (support system)
Theme 4: rekindle passion and work happily.
Day 8: Set a small goal first to achieve the impossible (comfort zone).
Day 9: Never lose heart, never give up, highly enthusiastic and self-motivated.
Day 10: Re-cultivate professional habits, and all good things will happen naturally (form habits).