Wang Qiuyu and Zhu Yaqiong met during the cooling-off period of divorce 19 years, got married for one year, and had a child of just 18 months.
More particularly, Wei Wei and Tong Chenjie are still husband and wife. Vivian wants children, but Tong Chenjie doesn't. I want to see if I will continue to participate in this project.
So far, this program has been played seven times.
In fact, at first, everyone thought that the biggest problem was Zhang He and Guo Keyu, Wang Qiuyu and Zhu Yaqiong, because their contradictions were very deep-rooted.
Z Ryan and Guo Keyu got married by flash marriage, and they got the license before they fell in love and got to know each other well. So after a loveless marriage of 10 years, they are very different in personality, work and rest, hobbies and cognition. Slowly, their patience ran out and they finally chose to break up peacefully.
At the beginning of this trip, Z Ryan said, "If I had known I had left early, would it be ten years?" ? There is a child in the middle. "
With the coldest words and the calmest attitude, the two men gave a total denial of this nearly ten-year marriage.
Wang Qiuyu and Zhu Yaqiong are in a hot state together. Later, the heat of feelings passed. Wang Qiuyu no longer pursues romance and ceremony, and his response to Zhu Yaqiong is very weak, even the most basic social interaction is not available; Zhu Yaqiong was born romantic, and Wang Qiuyu never satisfied her sense of ceremony, even without a wedding dress.
So at the beginning of the program, Zhu Yaqiong held a "My Wedding" for herself. On a cold night, there was no groom but herself.
On the other hand, Vivian and Tong Chenjie are either snuggling together or holding hands. When they needed help, Tong Chenjie jokingly called him a little friend.
Vivian always asks Tong Chenjie half-jokingly when he is caught off guard. "Do you want to have children?" Tong Chenjie Gherardini also didn't respond.
At that time, when the other two couples saw their little bickering and teasing, they all thought they were flirting and giving dog food to others.
As everyone knows, marriage is often like this. Behind the seemingly calm, in fact, everything is already undercurrent, just waiting for the explosion point.
In the recent new program, Weiwei's mother came to visit them to see how they get along and whether Tong Chenjie is not so opposed to having children.
One thing moved Tong Chenjie very much, that is, Vivian's mother said, if Vivian divorced just because she gave birth to a child, she found another woman and gave birth to a child, and then they quarreled all day about the child, what do I want? Who will be as good as Tong Chenjie?
At this time, when talking about having children, Tong Chenjie said that before coming to this program, 90% of her decision was that she didn't want to have children, but now she is a little hesitant and still considering it. It can be seen that Weiwei's mother's assistance has played a great role.
When Wei Wei saw this scene, he also said that there were some changes in Tong Chenjie's heart now. Although I don't know if the baby will be born in the end, at least this good seed will take root and sprout slowly, indicating that everything is still hopeful.
But later, a god in Wei Weili's operation made all his mother's hard work go to waste, and the "good seeds" he said were also irrigated long ago ...
After mom left, Vivian and Tong Chenjie lived in the same room. Vivian began to get upset and wanted to go out with Z Ryan and Wang Qiuyu, but it was already past ten o'clock in the evening. Everyone was tired and lay down. So Vivian has been tossing and turning in bed, unable to sleep.
At that time, Weiwei got up at 10:40 in the evening. Everyone thought he was going to visit Z Ryan or Wang Qiuyu, or go out for a walk alone, but Vivian's operation was really amazing.
He said to himself that he wanted to find a place to have a drink. I thought he just went out to buy a few cans of beer and drank it for an hour or two like everyone usually eats.
If we really think so, it means that we don't know much about the psychology of an alcoholic.
Vivian told Tong Chenjie that he had gone out for a walk alone, leaving Tong Chenjie alone to wait for him in the room. It was 1 1 p.m. Then Vivian went straight to the supermarket, and God's operation officially kicked off.
As soon as she arrived at the supermarket, Vivian frantically took the wine in the freezer and kept taking it out. White beer was changed from one cabinet to another, and the cashier next to it helped him fill it for a long time.
I was a little scared at the time. I made a rough count. There are at least 30 bottles.
The last person walked back to the hotel, and on the way back, there were three bags. After walking for a few minutes, Wei Wei said it was too heavy to carry, so I was thinking, what kind of thing is drinking wine? This is simply alcoholism, and it is still a very serious one.
At that time, when Wei Wei was taking wine, everyone in the observation room, including the supermarket door, was shocked. Sun mentioned that Weiwei's mother just said that Weiwei should drink less wine, and both Wei Jia lamented "buying so much". Even Tiger Hu couldn't help teasing that it was used for fitness, while others kept shaking their heads and sighing.
Most importantly, Wei Wei said in front of her mother and Tong Chenjie, "I will definitely control the wine." I slapped him in less than two or three hours …
At the end of the restaurant area of the hotel, Weiwei's operation is even more amazing. Not only did he drink it himself, but he also planned to let the staff accompany him. Persuade him to drink is really not something that ordinary people can perform, which shows how familiar Wei Wei is with this scene at ordinary times.
After several staff members sat down with him, he found that a little brother had been sitting on the far side and wanted to invite him over for a drink. The person next to her told Wei Wei that the younger brother was pregnant and could not drink.
When the staff put the words to this point, Wei Wei was completely indifferent, so she completely ignored the little brother's business and continued to drink with others, which really gave people a hopeless feeling.
It is clearly that he wants children so much, and it is clearly that he was so unique at the beginning. When Tong Chenjie asked him, "If we really don't have children, will we be okay?" He replied firmly, "no, we can't have children forever!" " Since alcoholism is on the show, what's there to argue about? Good seeds should be soaked in alcohol before falling into the soil. ...
At this time, Tong Chenjie had been sitting on the sofa in the hotel room waiting for him to come back, but he didn't realize how late it was. He had a good drink with the staff, and the more he drank, the more energetic he became. He giggled and laughed from time to time. The stars in the observation room look silly. I guess he's thinking, "I'll go. Who's this?"
Finally, Tong Chenjie was worried about him and went down to find Vivian.
Tong Chenjie didn't fly into a rage when he saw Wei Wei drinking with a large group of staff. Instead, I walked over and took a look and left. In a short time, he brought some dried intestines to help Weiwei entertain everyone, which was enough for Weiwei.
When Tong Chenjie shared sausages with everyone, she told Wei Wei "I'm going to bed" and wanted to turn around and leave. Vivian took Tong Chenjie and asked her to propose a toast to your eldest brother on her behalf. Despite all her reluctance, Tong Chenjie made a toast to everyone with dignity. This kind of wife is really good and has nothing to say.
In this way, Tong Chenjie accompanied him to drink until half past two in the morning, and what happened next was really jaw-dropping.
Wei Wei said to leave at half past two, but when the time came, he didn't mean to leave. He also kept talking about drinking with Z Ryan until three o'clock in the morning, and his hand was pointing there.
At this moment, Tong Chenjie subconsciously wanted to pull Vivian's hand down, fearing that she was more and more unsure. But who would have thought that Vivian suddenly shook off Tong Chenjie's hand and looked at Tong Chenjie and said "why", not to mention how horrible the expression was, which was like a prelude to hitting people.
Li and he looked at them with their mouths wide open. They couldn't believe their eyes.
Sun couldn't stand it any longer. He just said, "This is definitely not the first time."
But in front of outsiders, Tong Chenjie remained calm and even not angry. He looked at Wei Wei with disappointment and thought, "I don't think (he) will change, and he will not change."
Finally, Tong Chenjie took Vivian, a rickety and drunk big boy, into the door of the room ...
There is a saying that "I would rather be sad than die!" It is estimated that only this sentence can represent Tong Chenjie's mood and situation at that time.
At dinner, Tong Chenjie just said that he didn't like Vivian to drink or lose her temper, because both of them grew up in single-parent families, and their father's love was extremely lacking. Tong Chenjie doesn't want the "widowed child-rearing" scene to happen to her children again. What she wants is for her parents and Qi Xin to raise their children together.
Wei Wei, who has always wanted children, has never had a firm heart. It is always looking for a way out for itself, and it has never brought Tong Chenjie a sense of security. This instability is really dangerous for a 40-year-old woman. She doesn't want her children to be born in such a family.
In fact, friends who read the previous issues can find that Wei Wei has never given Tong Chenjie any confidence or commitment in drinking.
In a rock climbing project, when Wei Wei and Tong Chenjie were standing on the heart-shaped bridge hanging high in the sky, Wei Wei didn't shout a confession, much less promised to give up drinking or drink less, but hoped that when he went out to drink, Tong Chenjie would talk less about him and let him drink enough at a time.
The people in the observation room were speechless at that time, and everyone couldn't believe that this was Wei Wei's greatest wish at the moment. "You can't even drink less wine. How can you get pregnant? How can you let your wife have a baby for you? "
Teacher Ni Ping was a guest on a program and learned about this situation in Weiwei and Tong Chenjie. It is said that Wei Wei's drinking does not affect children, but a person is often drunk and easily deformed. If you constantly present this deformed state to your wife, your image in her mind will be greatly reduced, which will directly affect the consolidation of two people's feelings, and will not give her the most basic sense of practicality and stability.
Now Vivian is drinking openly on the show, and Tong Chenjie was thrown out when he tried to hold him. This scene is really terrible. It is conceivable that in normal life, Wei Wei should be more unscrupulous in the wine industry, and the more he drinks, the darker he gets. In the first program, Tong Chenjie mentioned Wei Wei's drunken state slightly, so you can imagine how tired Tong Chenjie was!
On the other hand, we present the situation of a couple's feelings to readers so bluntly. The purpose is not simply to criticize him with a gossip, curiosity or critical attitude, saying that he is a scum and a rotten person, but to review his emotional life from a rational and objective perspective and see if he has made similar mistakes in his usual life.
How should the couple's problems be handled in the program to avoid the same situation and better manage their personal feelings? We can learn some ways for couples or people to get along with each other, so that they can get better and better, grow together and make progress together.
I really like a passage that Wang Xiaobo said:
Embrace this mentality, live a good life, love yourself, and meet the right person in brave enough to love, not to change each other, but because-with you, I will become better and happier, without any additional conditions!