My mother-in-law won't help me with my children, and I won't help her with treatment.

On the issue of mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, there has always been a controversial topic: if my mother-in-law doesn't help me with my children, should I help her support the elderly? Some people say yes, others say no, Avon's answer is: "If my mother-in-law doesn't help me with my children, I won't help her support the elderly."

Avon has been married for 3 years, and now she has a 2-year-old child, who was brought up by Avon alone. I wanted my mother-in-law to help me, but she refused because she wanted to work.

To this end, Avon resents that other people's families are helped by their mother-in-law, who is too selfish to care for herself. Now that my mother-in-law is ill, it costs tens of thousands of dollars to treat her. Avon is in charge of family finances and refuses to pay the money. Avon's husband Arvin is a coward and afraid of his wife.

Seeing his mother lying ill in the hospital, he also felt helpless and had to borrow money everywhere. When Arvin's sister heard about it, she came to their house to find trouble with Avon and asked her to take out the money.

Avon insisted: "If my mother-in-law doesn't help me with my children, I won't help her!" "

Sister-in-law is not to be outdone: "Mother-in-law has no obligation to help you with your children." "Who said that there is no obligation, whose child is not brought by her mother-in-law."

"Mother-in-law raised your husband, otherwise you wouldn't have a family now." This quarrel, who also don't let who, also didn't make a solution.

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On the issue of mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, human nature is often reflected.

Avon's reluctance to treat her mother-in-law soon spread, and people behind her talked about it, feeling that Avon was too heartless. But Avon still thinks that her mother-in-law is right not to take care of her children first.

It is impossible for Arvin to watch his mother get no treatment and quarrel with Avon: "If you don't treat my mother, I will treat her. Give me my share of the money. " "Your money is not my money? You take money to treat your mother, what about our life? "

"Don't you want to watch my mother die before you are happy?" "I don't want her to die. I just don't want to spend money. She must be rich. You ask her to take out the money. " "That's my mother's own pension money, you have the final say."

"Anyway, I don't care, who told her not to take care of my children." "If you don't take care of our children, it's because you were in debt when you got married. She wanted to help me pay my debts and went to work. "

Avon was a little surprised because she didn't know the debt when she got married. To put it mildly, Avon took out some money to treat her mother-in-law.

People are exposed in the matter that the daughter-in-law supports her mother-in-law. Some daughters-in-law think that my mother-in-law didn't give birth to me to support me, so I won't give her a pension. Some daughter-in-law will love me, love my dog, and think that the husband born should be filial to her husband.

Mother-in-law is not a nanny and has no obligation to take care of your children. Whether she takes it or not is her freedom of choice, and whether you raise it or not is a legal and moral constraint.

People can't be so selfish. If you marry your husband, you will become a whole with him. He has to support the elderly, and so do you. To say the least, even if you don't support the elderly, you shouldn't stop your husband from being filial.

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Mother-in-law has no obligation to help you with your children.

On the issue of supporting her mother-in-law, Zhang Ling's idea is completely different from Avon's. Zhang Ling also takes care of her children alone. My mother-in-law is in the country, and she is not suitable for city life. She was also worried about her mother-in-law, so she took it herself.

Zhang Ling's mother-in-law is a very natural and unrestrained person. Although she doesn't know a few words, she travels and dresses herself every day. At that time, she was asked to help with the children. She said that she wanted to dance square dance and didn't want to come to the city.

Zhang Ling didn't say anything. She thinks it is not easy for her mother-in-law to raise her husband alone. Now that I am old, I finally enjoy a little freedom, and my burden is light, so I have no obligation to help myself.

On the matter that her mother-in-law helped her not to take care of the children, Zhang Ling was very clear and didn't complain. If her mother-in-law can help her, she will naturally be grateful. If she can't, she can't blame anything. Last year, her mother-in-law broke, and Zhang Ling took her children back to take care of them for half a month.

Mother-in-law asked her, "Will you blame me for not helping you with your children?" Zhang Ling replied, "Stop complaining. You have your life, too. There is no need to sacrifice for us."

After this incident, her mother-in-law felt that Zhang Ling was a sensible daughter-in-law and became more and more intimate with her.

If there were more understanding and consideration between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, there would not be so many contradictions.

Nowadays, many people think that if you don't help me with my children, I won't help you support the elderly. But you and your mother-in-law are independent individuals, and you have the obligation to take care of the children, but your mother-in-law does not have this responsibility.

If she helped you, it was out of family, not legal responsibility. Most of my mother-in-law is old, and she can finally enjoy life. It is unfair to her to be kidnapped by you.

As children, everyone has the obligation to support the elderly. Your husband wants to support your mother-in-law. Where can you escape?

I don't expect you to treat your mother-in-law as your own mother, but at least you can't go too far. People should have a minimum conscience in this life.

When you marry your husband, you should share all the responsibilities with him.