Have your own life. This is especially important if you want to enter each other's "circle of friends". Real girls (girls with strong sense of purpose and self-esteem) don't like men who don't have their own lives or stick to people like plastic wrap. Some girls really like this type of boys, but it's all for the wrong reasons-they may be insecure and need attention, or they may be control freaks and need to control men. Unless you want to be with such a girl, you should spend your time on friends, hobbies and life goals. This will give you a chance to do something interesting with you without dating. 2 Neat. Dress yourself up. If you want a woman to like you, basic cleanliness and appearance are very important. Girls are more likely to notice bad breath, obesity, sweat and greasy head before they notice attractive personality. Your good first impression will show them your excellent qualities. Stay healthy. Regular exercise: running, doing push-ups, building six-pack abdominal muscles and so on. You should know that figure is very important, but don't overdo it; Too much muscle will also make people think that you care more about fitness than cultivating meaningful feelings. On the other hand, some girls don't like taking a man as strong as the Hulk as their boyfriend. Too strong makes you look a little heavy. So, you know, you need to be in good shape, but not too strong. In other words, don't be too addicted or exercise yourself into a living biceps while keeping in shape. Maintain personal hygiene. Brush your teeth, shave and so on. If you can't brush your teeth anytime, anywhere, bring mints. When you take good care of yourself, you will be more attractive and have a positive impact on your confidence. Always make sure that you smell good and look neat, so you need to take a bath regularly. There is nothing worse than the bad smell after fitness. You can use deodorant after fitness. 3 Talk to her. If you don't exist for a girl, then she can't be interested in you. Try to talk to her even if you are nervous when you approach her at first. The possibility of developing a friend relationship with her at first: you can talk about your hobbies. Be her friend; If she is not a friend, it is difficult for her to get close to you. Find your hobbies, such as sports, academics and so on. If you all like hockey, invite her to the game. If you all like video games, let's play together. Every girl's likes and dislikes are different. If your conversation skills need to be improved, you can read: how to master the art of conversation, how to find a topic, how to start a conversation when there is nothing to say, and how to make her laugh. Telling interesting stories is the most typical way to make people laugh, but it is not the only way. Think boldly about something that will make her laugh, just like fooling around. Find out her favorite animation, interesting movie or sitcom. Watch it with her. Tell her to bet you to do something and then do it (as long as it's not illegal, of course). If you are both relaxed and enjoy each other's company, it is natural to laugh. The more she laughs, the more she wants-she always wants more. Be her friend. Girls don't fall in love with someone casually. Of course there will be, but this relationship won't go far! Be friendly to her without aggression. Get to know her slowly and start to be with her as a friend. If you are in the same classroom or class, find out her name. Every time she came in, she smiled and waved to her. Sometimes you just need to do this to get girls' attention. But at the same time, don't do it too often, it will make you look too infatuated with her. If you are worried, you can also say hello to your other female friends. If she doesn't seem to see you, she can say "hi-"in a friendly way when she passes by, but don't interfere with class or interrupt her ongoing conversation. If she is shy, she may just smile back. Don't think this means that she doesn't like you. If you want your relationship to develop faster, don't keep falling into the quicksand zone-the so-called "circle of friends". Sometimes girls don't want to date you because they are afraid of bad relationships and losing your friends! In order to prevent this, you should flirt with her; A woman will only be close to men she knows, trusts and contacts, and this can only be achieved through friendly conversation with her. However, don't go too fast-the interesting part of a relationship is chasing-and "patience". Girls don't like being forced, especially before a relationship begins. Method 2 Flirting away from friends 1 Flirting can help you stay away from your "friends" because it reminds girls that you are attractive and can be good friends. When you meet a girl you like, you can make eye contact first and smile briefly. Start a casual and frivolous conversation and see how she reacts. If you avoid her eyes and act nervous, she will try her best to understand what you mean. Girls mainly respond through body language and feelings. If you make them happy, they will find you interesting and considerate. If you scare them, they will be nervous-they will choose to escape between facing and escaping. Just relax。 Calm down. Don't put pressure on yourself or her because you think she is your dream girl. If you play a bad joke or make a mistake, don't think about what will happen next with pressure. She may be as nervous as you are, and small mistakes may not be noticed or simply ignored. Don't worry about flirting at first. It seems difficult. The more you talk to girls, the more comfortable you will become. Girls are usually the most jumping, because they have thousands of different reactions to every word in their minds. In order to choose the right words, they will be so nervous that they will hardly notice those bad jokes. Try to release your embarrassment. Enjoy the process of communicating with her, the charming woman who has an intersection with your life-you come and go. You don't want pressure to crush you, remember that the ultimate goal is to make her like you. Don't say anything that makes her resist. Under normal circumstances, she would like you. Praise her. If you really like someone, you may appreciate her very much. Why don't you let her know? If she is different (her hair, nail color, shirt, etc. ), praise her. The more unique your compliment is, the better the effect will be. Many girls like to listen to unique compliments, rather than the characteristics shared by all. If you praise her appearance, try to be creative or point out its uniqueness. You can admire her personality or specialty. If you are not sure whether your praise is good or bad, you can read wikiHow's article How to Praise a Girl. Don't always say that she is beautiful. If she is really beautiful, many people may have told her that these words look ordinary. If you are ready to praise her, you can stand up and praise her personality, what she is good at and the way she does things. Praising her appearance too often will make her think that you are superficial, and you may just want to sleep with her. You don't want to leave such an impression. Make a good impression on her. There is no uniform practice here. The way to leave a good impression on one girl may make another girl disdain. The best way is to be yourself. Show your unique skills, talents or difficult things that you are proud of, things that make you stand out. This will not only make her feel good about you, but also enhance your self-confidence. Be careful not to be too proud. Make an impression on her, but don't brag too much about your achievements and plans. Self-confidence is an attractive trait, but excessive pride will disgust most girls. 4. Break the contact barrier. There are several ways to get in touch with girls, but at the same time, they should be "not dirty" Hold it for her when she takes off her coat; When she steps on an uneven road, give her your hand; Reach out when you walk past people; If she falls, hold her steady; Hug her or give her a high five when she is happy; If she is worried about something, gently touch her shoulder to comfort her. These are polite ways to get closer to her without being abnormal. Women are more sensitive to touch than men, even in the face of difficulties, so make sure your touch is gentle For example, don't pat her back, but pat her shoulder. If you think she is uncomfortable, stop at once! 5 temptation. After some mutual attraction, you can start throwing low-level "bait"-suggestive jokes-to see if she takes the bait. Good bait should be light and interesting, usually vague. "Bait" is also a way for girls to flirt. Therefore, observing her "joking" may have a second meaning. If you observe accurately, the girl will have a certain expression (provided that she is the right person). Like you gave her a secret. She will look back at you in a few seconds, wondering if you understand her, or if you just accidentally said the right thing. When she does this, she keeps eye contact and half smiles without reaction. It's like standing on top of the world: this is the most vulnerable moment in your previous lives. When she says the next sentence, pray to hear the answer you want! Be patient and give her some time. Don't be too eager or thirsty. Good girls usually need more time to develop deep feelings than boys. Follow the above steps and continue to pursue her, but don't be too anxious. If you succeed in the end, she will always remember how you made her feel when they first met. Make her feel appreciated, not invisible or suffocating. Slow and gentle (but firm) pursuit, reduce sexual fear (if any) in advance, don't make people too hungry, and let her get used to one more boy in life. Don't force this relationship; Look carefully for some hints about when and where to meet her. Method 3 Date her 1 Invite her. When you feel comfortable, invite her to do something somewhere. Make sure these things are of interest to all of you. Show her your world if you like. Take her to a place where you feel comfortable and loving, where you are related by blood, or where you are proud. Similarly, you can express your desire to know her world. She's a musician? Ask her if she can watch her performance. She's a mathematician? Ask her to show you her report or theory. If you are not ready to share your personal life, simply invite her to dinner or do something to get to know her better. Make her feel important. Chivalry is not out of date. Follow the chivalry, open the door for her, open an umbrella, help her with things when her hands are not empty, put on her coat, and take care of her most basically. A real gentleman will make a lady feel that she is really a lady. Girls want to feel their importance and value. When talking to her. Talk as much as possible, talk more about personal things, and don't generalize. She needs to know that you are ready to take a step, not timid. 3 Be romantic. Romantic things are so old-fashioned, they (roses, candlelight, chocolate, etc. ) won't help you go further on the romantic road. Think about how to really light up your girl. You should learn to discover what makes her unique and what only she appreciates. Romance is to admit that a person is special. Romance means that you know her better than anyone else in the world. She is different. Pay attention to what she says! Make a list of what she likes in her mind to make her different. What is her special (or secret) interest; What occupied her and what appeared in her day-to-day daydreams; What makes her eyes sparkle with excitement when she is shopping, chatting and watching movies? If you remember what they told you a long time ago, girls will soon notice. Have confidence in each other. Tell her how you enjoy life, what excites you and find out what excites her. Be positive. If you have a bad day, greet her with a smile. More importantly, listen carefully to every word she says. No matter what she says about herself, her family or her interests, pay attention. Some information is useful or important for future relationships. Nodding your head indicates that you are listening, and at the same time, you should react and let her know that you are "really" listening. When a boy is really interested in listening to her, the girl will be grateful. 5 be yourself. You are unique. Be yourself. Give her your best side. Let her know that you are you. Highlight yourself with your talent, talent and strength. If you have a good sense of humor, share it with her. If you like science, music, poetry, politics or sports, let her know your hobbies. The right person will like you and love you for who you are. Tip: Don't always talk about yourself. People tend to talk too much about themselves, especially when they are nervous. If you think you need to say something, ask a question first. Remember to listen as much as you say. Honesty. Never cheat a girl to impress her. Don't compare her with other girls you've dated, even in your head. Politeness can make her notice you. For example, open the door for her, open the stool before she does it (or hang the coat on the hanger). If you get to know her, small moves will help you more. If she doesn't know you very well, then don't pull her stool in the cafe to scare her. When you do this, don't just stand and smile and wait for her to say thank you. Pull out the stool, let her sit down, and then sit down by herself. Open the door for her, keep listening while she is talking, and follow her in. Don't be afraid to smile. Even if you don't laugh much, it will make you look friendly. A calm smile makes you more approachable, especially when you don't know much. Girls like boys who are sincere to themselves. If she sees his hypocrisy, she will think that he is just playing with her. Pretend something to impress her. If she finds out, it will be hard to trust you again. This kind of thing will happen eventually. Remember, the girl you like is not a trophy or a target. You will find that a relationship can stay in your life. If you all want this relationship, the best will happen to you. Don't talk about former lovers, especially first love. You can find a better and more appropriate topic to talk about You know, men are not bad, and the saying that women don't love is just a legend. Many girls like considerate boys, not just their appearance. If you try to be a good boy instead of a bad guy, you will have a more stable and lasting relationship. Remember, if she doesn't like you, it's not failure. You'll know yourself better, and eventually you'll find the right person. There is no perfect way to make every girl like you. But as long as you become a better self, you will be more attractive. If you know her birthday, you can send her a gift card in her favorite shop (it doesn't cost much, she will appreciate it), or you can hear her talking with her friends about a new scarf. Just: 1) Remember her birthday. 2) Giving her a gift will make her feel that you are with a good boy. If you want to show what she means to you, you really need to spend time preparing for the date. A complete date is not only smart, but also shows her that you really spent the afternoon preparing for this date. Take the initiative when pursuing. For example, propose a date, decide what to do during the date and when to end the date. This can reduce the failure of the relationship or subsequent rejection. Don't lean close to her when you are near, she will think you are too hungry. To pick up girls online, you need to publish some high school education courses and useful personal interest information, or write three or four personal interests in your own words. In order to get a girl to come to you, you need to improve your job and property, and have your own career or career. A warning about hygiene. You have no idea how much this will help you! Smell and unsanitary are bad everywhere. This includes bad breath, burping and smelly feet. Take a shower and brush your teeth every day (preferably before meeting her), trim your nails, wash clothes and shoes regularly. Some girls also dislike the smell of cigarettes or strong cologne. Too much is too late. Paying too much attention to her, seizing every opportunity to contact her, praising her too much, and always telling jokes like a comedian will ruin your chances of being with her. Try to be casual at first. Don't be too frivolous when flirting. This will make people think that you only want her body, not her. Many girls don't like boys being too disgusting and only talking about body parts. Some girls (rarely) like perverted boys, but most of them don't! Don't try to be perfect and don't expect the girl you like to be perfect. No one is perfect. Accept that the other person has shortcomings, makes mistakes, and sometimes life will be rough. Never try to make her jealous. People who do this will hurt themselves. If you want to know whether she likes you, ask her friends. Or compare her performance with other boys. If she treats you differently, there is a problem. Trust your instincts. If you think you have a good chemistry with her, be patient and let it develop. Don't tell her, and don't show her your old lover, even if she asks you again and again. If you show loyalty to her, your relationship will progress more smoothly. Girls may be very serious. If you directly show concern for other beautiful women in the restaurant, she will think you are inconsiderate. So focus your attention on this date and date. Don't tell her dirty jokes, it's vulgar. 99% girls won't appreciate you joking about body parts and things like that. They will only think that you are disgusting, immature and will stay away from you. But there are also 1% girls who will like it. If possible, try to pursue, confess or ask personal questions face to face. You should show your courage, confidence and politeness. If you have her and you live in the same city, never ask personal questions by email. Don't use things that you can't touch. Do not follow her. If she doesn't want to keep an appointment, she doesn't want anyone to follow her. Go after another girl.