Don't say anything until it's ripe. Some boys have only dated people a few times, and then they propose to establish a "further" relationship. In nine cases, the soup will be muddy. The beauty of love is that you don't have to say anything. Clear, clear, but not beautiful. Originally, people were willing to come out and talk to you alone, indicating that girls have a good impression on you. But sometimes you can't even say it yourself, but you are eager to point it out and destroy this hazy beauty, so don't blame others for staying away. Look around at the love that died before it started. Many of them are caused by boys not mastering the temperature.
Put your fist away for a better attack. What if the girl refuses? Some people say that we should pursue hard and persevere. Actually, it is not. Unless you are a person who doesn't care about anything, it is hard for you to bear the dirty eyes of girls and the mocking eyes of peers. Why don't you stop and take a break? This not only protects your dignity, but also leaves a way out, thus creating opportunities for future counterattacks. Let her wander in the crowd. When she hits a wall, go to her again, and she will realize that you are the one who loves her most. Even if you really can't give up, you should pay attention to the ways and means to find her. Don't let her find you annoying. This is usually difficult to do.
Don't be too explicit and learn to care about her silently. Treat her with your honesty and kindness. Only in this way can you get her attention among a large group of boys screaming around her. Remember, only special you will attract her special attention.
Don't enter unless absolutely necessary. A boy who always runs to the girls' dormitory will not attract girls too much affection. Some student union cadres often run to the girls' dormitory under the pretext of work, and then stay there all the time, which brings a lot of inconvenience to others and the effect will only be counterproductive. The root cause of this result is still too explicit.
Strategic contempt ... tactical value ... Sometimes the girl you like will have some contact with you, such as talking, chatting, working together and so on. You'd better look at these things with a normal heart, and don't have a burden, you'd better suffer from loss. For example, don't pay too much attention to what she casually says. Some boys are easy to be romantic, which is the reason. However, we should pay enough attention to every such opportunity. For example, the first conversation should pay attention to discretion, and it is best not to involve the scope of love. Let's talk about childhood. It's not good to go straight to the point! Girls should be wary of you like wolves.
Might as well kiss up less. You praised her for her beauty. If she is really beautiful, then you are only the 700th person to praise her for her beauty, and what impressed her most is probably the first person to praise her like this. If she is plain-looking, there is no telling what will happen if you praise her like this. If she finds out you're not sincere, you're dead. Remember, you can only coax a girl after she becomes your girlfriend. Before catching up with her, you didn't master the performance of the temperature.
Don't be so macho. A boy finally invited a girl he had admired for a long time to dinner, which cost him half a month's living expenses. Later, when he went to pay the bill, he found that the girl had already paid the bill for him and he wanted to pay her back. Girls don't want to. He was angry that the girl stripped him of his face. The girl cried with anger. Girls pay for him, which shows that they have a good impression on him. He lost his temper instead of trying to please him. No wonder he is going to be single. Few girls will have a good impression on boys who don't respect women, remember! Remember!
Unite the majority. Almost every girl has one or two closest girlfriends. When everything else is blocked, they are your road to success. You can know whether girls are interested in you through them, and you can also convey your meaning through them. This is much better than what you said directly. Don't ignore this new force. I have seen the boy succeed in this way more than once.
Finally, I want to remind you that there is never a fixed formula for love. The way others succeed may be your failure; The way others fail may be just your beauty. I only mention some principles here, and I must not copy them mechanically. If it ruins your good deeds, don't come to me. If a girl doesn't like you, even the Jade Emperor can't help it. As the ancients said, it is the best policy to defeat the enemy without fighting.
First, what kind of first impression should I leave on MM (when I first came into contact with MM)
1, I think the most important thing is to let MM see your self-motivated.
The greatest charm of a man lies in his successful career. Young people can't "succeed" if they don't work long hours. At this time, you should let M.
M thinks you are a self-motivated person.
Others can talk nonsense, but this question cannot be vague. You must tell MM that you are full of confidence in the future and you are not satisfied.
Be content with the status quo, and you will have long-term plans. In a word, your future is not a dream.
2. Be confident and responsible.
Don't be a child. Girls are lazy and want to find someone to rely on. You should show your confidence and sense of responsibility.
It's better to have a wrong choice than no choice at all.
Not too formal, but not too casual.
Be serious where you should be serious, and ridicule when you should be ridiculed.
Girls like men who are a little cynical, so it seems that they don't care about anything, which is too dull.
Step 4 look mature
A leisurely man has fatal attraction to mm.
Second, how to further contact MM (time: the stage of starting to chase)
1, the most important thing at this stage is not to worry, not to make things so clear that people can see them at a glance.
Chasing people.
Think about it, most people don't like you at first sight, but they don't hate you at first sight. Are the children of ordinary people (
Unless you look like Chow Yun Fat (Andy Lau or kevin costner), goodwill needs to be realized through constant understanding.
Yes, so the key to the problem is the opportunity for further development you want.
Think about it from the girl's point of view: girls must have psychology if they rush directly to have sex.
Stress. If I find that I don't like you after a while, it won't be a lie, will it? So if you start with ambition,
When you come out with a winning attitude, you will basically be bored back immediately.
Step 2 start with a low profile
First of all, we should position the relationship as a "friend", which is originally an "ordinary friend". You want to be a good friend with taste.
You can also ask the other person to be a "confidante" or something. Anyway, don't say "chase you".
Think about it, if you don't mention "chasing" at all, then this girl won't have a chance to "refuse" you-why don't you go after her?
Reject you? !
This can relieve the psychological pressure of girls and let you have a smooth relationship. Don't fantasize about agreeing to get married after three days of knowing each other
Give you full contact and understanding. Feelings don't come out of thin air.
Don't be too impatient in the process of communication.
Relax and don't pester others all day. Anyone who does this to you will get tired of it. I have a good friend who told me to chase girls.
The key to children is eight words-"hot and cold, playing hard to get" (this is the crystallization of my classmates' efforts for many years).
Staying with people all day, naturally you won't think you are good. If you are indifferent for a day or two, girls will remember the benefits of your existence.
Also, don't take out the ambition of "you must marry". It is not good for the price to drop too low. Sometimes you can play a little trick.
4. Create opportunities appropriately.
I said before, don't let things turn into "you are chasing others" right away, you need to get a chance to get close to girls. this is
It depends on your creativity.
You can collect information and find ways to turn waiting for rabbits into encounters; You can also pretend to be casual and find out the most suitable one.
Invite the other person to do something with you.
In short, this is the most technical place. If it is really not feasible, you can consult your predecessors.
5. Never: It is impolite to give gifts to others casually.
Some people are eager to chase girls and like to buy things for others often, but they don't know that chasing girls is the most taboo.
As the saying goes, "something for nothing". You are putting pressure on others by giving them something like this. People will feel indebted to you, so they will find ways to repay you. If they can't, they will find a way not to associate with you, so they won't always owe you a favor.
If you want to show your sincerity, you might as well invite girls to spend money together, such as finding a good restaurant to eat, or finding an expensive one.
Girls can naturally see that you spent a lot of money, but after all, the money was spent by two people instead of.
Is to turn it into something to take home.
Third, what is a "girlfriend"?
1, "girlfriend" is a fact, not a promise.
You start dating girls, from "ordinary friends" to "good friends" to "very, very good, talk about everything"
Friend ",on a sunny afternoon, you" accidentally "pulled her hand; "On the willow tip, you suddenly attack.
Kissed her. At this time, she is already your girlfriend. Whether she admits it or not, she already thinks you are her boyfriend.
friends.
I know the best. I didn't ask "Would you like to be my girlfriend" until I went to bed. Finally, the girl was anxious: "Why don't you ask me to be your girlfriend!" "
So, don't rush to pierce enough paper, the more hazy the situation, the better for you.
2. What is "confession"?
As I said before, confession is actually just a form, and the correct order should be: in fact, you have become your girlfriend, and you can confess to others. Many people don't understand this problem, and always feel that people promise to be their girlfriends first, and then what? I can only say.
He is very, very "simple" and very, very "stupid".
3. Have you ever had to confess?
Yes, for example, there is a third party, or your relationship with a girl is immature, but two people may be separated for a while.
At this time, the confession is an immature confession, which is very risky, similar to the severe backwardness when playing Go.
The other side was forced to release the "winner". If you win, you win. If you lose, you can only say that you are born with bad luck.
4. Don't export the word "love" easily.
I often see a "bold confession" in the forum. To be honest, I really think this is a very immature performance. "love
"Is a sacred word, meaning pursuit, commitment, and even a responsibility.
A man who casually says "love" is irresponsible.
Fourth, civilized love cannot be forced.
1, not every MM can catch up.
There will always be many people chasing good girls, and it is impossible to satisfy everyone's wishes. There will always be losers. For example, even if you
Study hard and master the principle of chasing MM, so you can't catch up with either twin.
Look at the problem from another angle. A small rural nanny who didn't graduate from primary school will earn you 600 yuan a month, even if it is good for you.
700 yuan's gift (overdraft) is willing to be a cow and a horse for you, and you won't fall in love with her. If she cries and pesters you every day, you must feel bored.
So love needs a material foundation, at least a balance.
2. Chasing MM is a serious social activity.
Don't bother others, leave yourself a way out. Why don't men have wives? Some MM are really snobbish (a few).
If you are not convinced, you can prove with facts that "she was blind at that time" and never mistake others for yourself.
Finally, don't be cynical in front of MM, cynicism sometimes means "you are a loser".