The hardships of pregnancy in October, the pain of a delivery, and the caution of confinement, for fear that if you don't pay attention, you will fall behind for life. With children, I can't sleep at all. Feeding, changing diapers, crying at night, from a self-righteous girl to a mother, physical and psychological discomfort, followed by postpartum depression. Many women even quit their beloved jobs after having children and concentrate on taking care of them. Sloppy at home, the enthusiasm for children far exceeds that of her husband, who is left out at home looking for excitement, cheating and divorce. Such examples abound. So many women point the source to their children: all because of you, for you, I gave up my job and dressed myself. Everything I did was for this family, but what did I get in the end?
What Marjorie wants to ask is, don't you have only one identity in this world, and that is your mother? Where did you put yourself?
If you choose to be a mother, please be a qualified mother.
Of course, this is also for dads. Either don't be born, or assume the responsibility of being a parent. Raising a child is not just as simple as throwing him a bunch of toys with enough food and warm clothes. Parents should be concerned about whether the child is happy and psychologically healthy. Especially before the child is three years old, the relationship with his mother is the closest. The child's mood is deeply influenced by his mother, and your life state determines his attitude towards life in the future. Many people must think Marjorie is exaggerating, but it is. Mothers' wholehearted companionship will make children feel safe, and the children brought out by sunny mothers must be optimistic and positive. Good parent-child relationship in early childhood is the basis for a person to form a sound personality.
Take Marjorie himself as an example. When mom and dad were young, they were very busy at work. Today they are sent to this relative's house to take care of them, and tomorrow they will be in another relative's house. When they are a little older, Marjorie will be locked alone at home. This is probably the main reason why she still feels insecure as an adult.
Look at the left-behind children in the countryside. Parents work outside, grandparents are old, and it is not easy to take care of their children's food and clothing. Who cares about their inner desire for love? So, drop out of school early, make friends carelessly, and go astray.
There are even younger parents, who still long for their own world after giving birth, and give the children to their parents. The older generation always dotes on their children instead of disciplining them. Grandparents are old, and the children follow them back and find that they are rebellious and don't listen to themselves. In fact, there are no rebellious children, only parent-child relationships that lack communication.
Besides being a mother, you are also a wife.
Many mothers ignore their husbands after giving birth. When the child was young, he pestered him. When the child is older, he still puts all his thoughts on the child, but rarely communicates with his husband. When her husband proposed a separate date, he felt indignant. It is said that children should be happy and parents should love each other first. If women spend too much energy on their children and ignore the existence of their husbands, it will not only make the children stressed, but also make the relationship between husband and wife tense because of lack of communication. You should remember that before the children came into this world, you and your husband first formed a family. The process of accompanying children is to watch them full-fledged and drifting away. And your other half will spend the rest of your life with you. Couples with children will know very well that when they want to have time and space to communicate, they will always be interrupted by young children. So, you might as well entrust your children to your grandmother, and you two can take a short trip, watch a movie and have a romantic dinner. If the relationship between husband and wife is harmonious, the children will grow up more happily in a harmonious atmosphere.
You are the mother of the child, and you are yourself.
Everyone has multiple identities. Except as children, parents, etc. You should never forget yourself. This is not to make you selfish, but to give you a clear understanding. How can you infect your children when you can't live a full and happy life? I've seen a lot of hot moms. After giving birth, they exercise, restore their pre-pregnancy figure, go out to make up and wear appropriate clothes. I have met many literary women, who continue to study and travel after giving birth and live a poetic life. I have also met some mothers who have given birth. They seldom go out to see the children every day and do nothing. Because I don't go out, I don't pay attention to my image, and I don't dress at home all day. I don't think any husband wants to go home and see such a wife. I think any child likes his mother to be neat and beautiful. Of course, these women will say, I want to see that children don't have time to dress up, and I want to care that children don't have time to study. Is that really the case?
Don't use children as an excuse for not making progress.
No matter how tired and busy you are, you can squeeze out 20 minutes to read and dress yourself properly. Nothing is impossible if you want to.
Marjorie is also a mother. Don't think about how much you sacrificed as a mother. Children bring you more happiness. If you choose to be a mother, you have to take responsibility. First of all, keep a peaceful mind, be yourself and make your life as full as possible. Secondly, do you have to fall in love with a man to run your marriage well? So can you. Finally, accompany your children with high quality. If you are optimistic and get along well with your husband, can your children still be unhappy? Remember, you are not just a mother, you are yourself.
Brother Qiao's mother has a three-year-old Mengbao.
She is the treasure mother of Xiaorou, and is often mistaken for a newly graduated student.
Good at reading and writing, like reading poetry.
Of all the necessities, I like to bake the tea ceremony best.
Among the natural vegetation, Hanfu is embroidered with blue and white.
Try to be a woman with a fragrant soul.