My father was a handsome man when he was young. Later, I went out to do business all the year round, but every time I saw my father, I always lamented the kindness of the years to him: my father was never old, but he was still a smiling bodhisattva.
I will never forget the spring of 20 16.
My mother was diagnosed with terminal cancer, just one afternoon in three months.
I saw my father decline immediately.
It seems that my hair was black just now, and it turned white inch by inch in the blink of an eye.
The back also slowly hunched down.
This often gives me the illusion that this man is not a father, but a strange old man who is afraid of losing his mother and is sad.
At that time, there was often a sad atmosphere at home.
But my father had to bear this sadness, work hard and serve my mother.
He didn't trust us to serve, and stayed up with his mother to fight cancer pain.
However, mother went anyway.
That day, my mother took my father's hand, and her eyes were full of concern and disappointment for my father.
Mother left, and she also took away all the attachment of her father to life.
Father refused to live with us.
He lives alone in the old house in his hometown, almost staying at home, slovenly, getting old day by day.
I often grieve for my father's stubbornness to die alone in the room, but there is nothing I can do. We are with our father every day, but his heart is still lonely. His heart belongs only to his mother and has never been open to anyone since.
My husband has been working in an enterprise since he graduated from college. He is elegant in appearance, smooth in work and proud of his career. Until he was forty years old, he held a parent-teacher meeting for his son who had just entered high school, and was misunderstood by the teacher as his brother. At the age of forty-four, when the enterprise was restructured, he asked to work in a newly established branch factory in a remote place. He lived and ate on the construction site every day, from the civil engineering foundation to the procurement, installation and debugging of equipment. Just as he was busy as a bee, I found out that I had breast cancer. After a while, my husband came out with a pile of white hair. His face is black, thin and wrinkled, and now he looks like a man in his fifties. There is a saying: a family is generous to a teenager. A person has experienced more and suffered more. No matter what age, he looks more vicissitudes than his peers.
My son (freshman) was an only child in his first year as a soldier. Because the Spring Festival is coming, Zisi's heart frosted slightly on his temples and his hair turned white overnight. I can't take it anymore. The next day, I drove more than 20 hours across six provinces, with a journey of 1800 kilometers, to visit my children in the army. It took me less than three hours to get together with the children (recruits can't go out for training), and then I drove back after lunch.
Poverty inherits the wind!
My experience feels that after retiring at the age of 60, my body has not changed much. I do housework, exercise in the morning and afternoon, run and swim for thousands. I feel good psychologically, as if I were still young. However, 65 years later, it is obviously not as good as before. After the activity, I feel very tired and have a rest, and my body changes obviously. I gradually reduce the amount of activity and time, and my physical strength is not as good as before. My idea is that this is a normal change in the laws of nature, so we should adjust ourselves in time, and we should not bite the bullet to adapt to the change. There is a certain amount of energy, so we should put less and more. Being old is old, which is different from being young. There will be more and more changes in the future. Let go of your mind, face it correctly and live happily every day.
Personally, I think the biggest change in the appearance of adult men should be one or two years before marriage, but I don't think it is aging.
When I first met my husband, he worked in a clothing factory. The first impression is that the boy has a lot on his mind. I feel that he is not particularly enthusiastic about acquaintances, and he will not take the initiative to say hello when he meets them. He is so thin that he seems to have no special temperament. After a year together, when he came home for the New Year, his neighbors, relatives and friends said that he was much better, his face was red, he talked and laughed when he met, and he was more active in greeting people than before. This should be a different life circle, and people will be happy because of it.
According to Chinese medicine, human life rhythm is related to "8", and there will be physiological changes every 8 years, such as changing teeth at the age of 8, 16 years old with reproductive ability, reaching the height limit at the age of 24, reaching the peak of vitality at the age of 32, and gradually aging after the age of 40. Just like flowers bloom and fall, seasons change and aging is an irresistible natural law of human beings, but finding signs of aging in time and actively adjusting lifestyle can greatly delay the aging speed.
However, most male compatriots in life don't know this. As the pillars of the family, they are often busy socializing and exhausted, and unconsciously accelerate the pace of aging.
One sign of aging is: panting after finishing some work.
With the growth of age, many men often feel that their physical strength is not as good as before and they are easily tired. For example, when they play basketball and football, they are not as flexible as before, when they walk and climb mountains, they are not as far away as before, and when they carry heavy objects, they are more laborious than before, and they are panting after doing some manual work. These are all signs of aging. If you don't take these manifestations seriously, you will continue to have unhealthy lifestyles such as smoking, drinking, staying up late and lack of exercise, and your whole body will decline, and your health will light up "red light".
Tips: Even if the work is busy, male friends should consciously exercise, especially jogging, brisk walking, swimming, cycling and other aerobic exercises, which can exercise lung function and promote vital capacity, not only stimulate physical vitality, delay aging, but also relieve tension. Exercise should master the intensity, keep the heart rate at11kloc-0/50 times per minute, not less than half an hour each time, and exercise at least three times in bad weeks.
The second sign of aging: the urine line is thin and weak
Many people say that male aging begins with the prostate. Clinically, although many men are still strong, they have symptoms of frequent urination, urgency, dysuria, thin and weak urinary line, and urinary incontinence, which may be an aging alarm issued by the prostate. Just like the lumbar vertebrae and cervical vertebrae, with the increase of age, the prostate will also undergo degenerative diseases, but as long as careful care is taken, the aging rate will slow down.
Tips: Don't hold your urine in your life to prevent urinary toxin deposition from directly harming the prostate; Avoid excessive sexual life leading to persistent congestion of sexual organs and prostate, and reduce the risk of prostate disease; Clean the foreskin, scrotum and other places that are easy to hide dirt and shelter dirt every day, keep local cleanliness, and prevent harmful bacteria from invading the prostate; Avoid sedentary, prevent the upper body weight from oppressing the prostate for a long time, leading to poor blood circulation and increasing the chance of illness.
The third sign of aging: after making love is very tired.
Research shows that the most active age of male sexual behavior is 20-30 years old. 20-year-old men, most of whom have good physical strength and quick recovery, can have sex every day. After the age of 30, it may be reduced to two or three times a week, and after the age of 40, it will be reduced to twice a week. In addition to the reduction of the number of sexual intercourse, aging will also cause many changes in male private parts, such as the penis epidermis becoming slack; Sensitivity decreases and the number of sexual impulses decreases; Erection does not lift, sexual response is slow; The amount of semen decreases, and I am very tired after sex.
Tips: When male friends have the above performance, don't rush to buy "aphrodisiac" drugs, and taking supplements at will may be counterproductive. Delaying sexual aging can be done from the following aspects: insisting on regular sexual life and wasting sexual ability for too long, but sexual life will accelerate sexual aging; Maintaining a good attitude can reduce the heart load, which is equivalent to "lubricating oil" for sexual organs; Maintain good living habits, avoid excessive drinking, long-term insomnia or staying up late and other bad habits, in order to prevent testosterone production from slowing down and causing gonadal hormone disorder; Eat more healthy foods such as leeks, walnuts and mutton.
The fourth sign of aging: words come to your mouth but you can't remember them.
With the growth of age, many male friends often complain that their memory is getting worse and worse. They often say it but can't remember it. I left something in one place, but I didn't know it was a sign of brain aging. Many men have bad habits of drinking, smoking and staying up late, which will accelerate the decline of memory. Studies have shown that middle-aged alcoholics experience memory loss six years earlier than those who drink less; When smoking, the amount of oxygen is reduced, and long-term hypoxia in the brain will damage memory.
Tips: If you want to keep your young brain active and quiet, you'd better exercise regularly to promote blood circulation and improve your sensitivity. Aerobic exercise such as brisk walking and jogging can promote the growth of brain cells; Also learn to calm down and meditate, which helps to release stress and control emotions. In terms of diet, walnuts, dark chocolate, oysters and other foods are rich in fatty acids, ketones, zinc and other components that protect the brain, which is conducive to delaying brain aging.
The fifth sign of aging: constipation every three to five times
Constipation is a common problem. Many male friends don't take it seriously at all, but they don't know that it is the beginning of intestinal aging. With the increase of age, people's intestinal peristalsis is slower and slower, and the water in the intestine is relatively reduced, which is easy to constipation. In addition, many male friends are used to sedentary, seldom exercise, long-term mental stress, decreased intestinal muscle contractility and frequent constipation. A large number of stools are blocked in the intestine, and toxins and garbage cannot be discharged in time, which not only leads to dull complexion, acne and bad breath, but also increases the risk of colorectal pain. The data shows that colorectal pain has become the second most common cancer among men in Beijing, and it is becoming younger.
Tips: In order to cope with the aging of the intestines, it is best for male friends to drink more boiled water to moisten the intestines; Eat more foods rich in dietary fiber such as coarse grains and fresh fruits and vegetables; Regular defecation every day and clockwise massage around the navel from the right lower abdomen to the left can also stimulate intestinal vitality and delay aging.
Six signs of aging: a lot of hair loss every day.
Generally speaking, everyone will lose 70- 100 hairs every day, but losing more than 100 hairs every day for a period of time may be a sign of physical aging. There are many reasons for hair loss, which are related to age, genetic factors, insufficient nutrition, bad mood, greasy diet, frequent staying up late, endocrine and autoimmune diseases. Among them, various unhealthy lifestyles will accelerate the aging of the body and make men lose their hair earlier and earlier. According to the survey, 60% of patients began to lose their hair before the age of 25, and 83% of them lost their hair before the age of 30. Hair loss will seriously affect men's personal image and even cause psychological problems such as self-confidence and inferiority.
Tips: In the face of hair loss, men should first go to a regular hospital to investigate the reasons. Prevent hair loss. In addition to changing the bad lifestyle in life, we should also avoid perm and hair dyeing too frequently, and use less hair dryers and moisturizing styling chemicals; It is best to comb your hair and massage your scalp regularly, which will help regulate sebum secretion, promote scalp blood circulation and promote hair growth.
Seven signs of aging: always angry in my heart.
In addition to physical aging, the heart will also age. If a male friend suddenly becomes sensitive, suspicious and impatient, he always loses his temper at the slightest sign, and he is always holding a fire in his heart, full of anxiety and panic about the future, and often feels uneasy and lonely. This may be a symptom of psychological aging, especially after men enter menopause.
Tips: In the face of physical and mental changes, male friends should never bear it silently. In addition to comforting yourself, you should also talk to your family and friends, seek care and understanding, and release your emotions appropriately; We should also try to shift our focus and do things that we wanted to do when we were young, but we didn't have the opportunity to do them, such as cultivating hobbies and getting satisfaction from them.
I don't necessarily observe.
1, about 40% of men can't tell their age at 25-50. That's why some people mistakenly think that father and son are brothers. Some men are even 60 or older.
So, what about the remaining 60%? One is bald, in his thirties to fifties, and all the thanks are due. 10%. Second, most of the hair is white, and it can rise and fall by 5% before the age of 50. Third, he is too fat and has a big belly, so he can't move freely. He must be old. 10%. Fourth, due to poor working conditions, overwork and wrinkles, accounting for about 20%. Fifth, premature disability or illness, including heavy smoking and drinking. 10%.
2. How to predict? I have the following experience:
(1), because heredity accounts for a large proportion, so we can focus on his father and grandfather, taking into account his mother, uncle, aunt and grandparents.
(2), because of the great relationship with the profession, you can refer to the main image of the group in its industry.
3. How to protect yourself? We can strive for improvement from bit by bit in our daily production and life.
For example, the ecological and nutritional collocation of eating habits.
Another example is the moderation of men's and women's lives. Some people lose their money because of overload and indulgence in their thirties. There is only a fragile shell left. Some are still in their sixties and seventies.
Another example is labor protection. Anti-virus, anti-danger, anti-waist injury and so on.
Another example is the family environment, work environment, popularity environment and so on.
Another example is the adjustment of self-mentality, contentment is not a slogan, making more young men and women friends is not hooliganism, and accepting correct new things and new ideas in time.
4. Others
(1), I remember when I was in college, college students all over the country put forward a slogan: "Serve our country for 50 years". It is not easy to realize this slogan. We will be 20-27 years old when we graduate, which means we will work until we are 70-77 years old. In other words, you have to live to be 80. Then, for example, when we worked for 37 years, it had fallen by 10% (four died and three or four were too sick to work). There are still 13 years left. Of course, some of us have worked for 60 years.
(2) If a person can be recognized at a glance by classmates and friends whom he hasn't seen for decades, he is often confused with his sons and nephews at class reunion like the next generation. He is still active in his seventies and eighties and busy at his eighties. So, is he a winner in previous lives? !
Bone mineral density can measure a person's aging degree, which is more accurate.
From birth, a person's bone mass increases with age, almost reaching the peak of bone density around the age of 20, and then slowly increasing until reaching the peak at the age of 30-35, and then bone density begins to decline.
When the peak bone mass of 25% is lost, it can be considered that there is obvious aging and the appearance will change greatly. The corresponding age of adult males is about 40 ~ 45 years old. Adult women are older than men, about 35 to 40 years old.
In a person's life, metabolism is constantly going on, and bone formation and osteolysis occur all the time. Before reaching the peak of bone mineral density, the rate of osteogenesis was higher than that of osteolysis, and the bone mass increased. After the peak of bone mineral density, the speed of bone dissolution is faster than that of bone formation, and bone loss occurs. This process is irreversible and is the law of life.
The maintenance of bone mass or bone density is closely related to exercise. Exercise before the age of 20 can accumulate the most basic bone mass. After that, continuous exercise can make the bone density reach the maximum peak and store the maximum bone mass for future consumption.
Exercise or less exercise after the age of 35 ~ 40 is particularly important for maintaining bone mass. Proper exercise slows down bone loss, while lack of exercise accelerates bone loss. This is because the body does not need to bear the force of exercise on bones, and redundant bones are unnecessary.
This law is not only applicable to bone mass, but also to the functions of human trunk, limbs and organs.
Therefore, proper exercise can keep you young and delay aging.
There is not much difference in the appearance of young men in their twenties. Most of them are thin, with clear lines on their faces and firm and smooth skin. However, when people reach middle age, they gradually present a completely different landscape. Some people enter the ranks of greasy uncles ahead of time, while others are still young.
Nevertheless, most people will walk on the journey of life at the same pace of aging, so we can infer a person's approximate age from his appearance. Aging comes quietly, and when we find it, we are already covered in vicissitudes. For men, in which year did aging happen rapidly, and in which year did it bring about earth-shaking changes?
What is aging?
Aging is what we often call "aging", which is a gradual, complex and systemic irreversible degradation of structural and physiological functions.
Aging, just wrinkles? No, it includes many aspects. In addition to the external manifestations such as withered hair, wrinkled skin, loose teeth and obesity, the decline of strength and endurance, poor coordination and sensitivity will make people feel tired and slow to move. In addition, various organs of the body are also experiencing the process of "aging", such as the decrease of myocardial cells, the thickening of myocardial membrane, the increase of vascular wall hardness, the thinning and elasticity of alveolar wall, and the decrease of the number of nerve cells and brain cells.
When did the aging of men begin?
In the "ancient innocence" in Huangdi Neijing, it is said like this:
As can be seen from this description, Neijing thinks that men are around 32 years old (48 years old), with the strongest bones and muscles and the best body, reaching the peak. From the age of forty (May 8), because the kidney qi began to decline, hair loss and loose teeth all began, which is the beginning of men's aging.
Observing all kinds of men in real life is roughly the same as that described in Neijing. As long as life is not very indulgent, you can still be 20 years younger at the age of 30, but at the age of 40, most men will be classified as middle-aged uncles anyway.
There are also some aging tables of human organs circulating on the Internet, some of which are extracted by Yu Hangjun as follows:
Based on the above, we can see that the age node of male aging is about 40 years old, which is equivalent to the dividing line between youth and aging. However, this is only a summary of common phenomena, which does not mean that every man will have obvious physical changes when he is "40 years old". Because everyone's lifestyle and genetic factors will seriously affect the aging process. Because of this, the Yellow Emperor and Qi Bo will continue to have such a question and answer in On Ancient Innocence:
It means that as long as you are good at keeping in good health, you can stay healthy, delay aging and have good fertility even when you are old.
The aging road of modern white-collar men's appearance
"Fat middle-aged" is a popular hot word on the Internet in recent years, which roughly means that middle-aged men are fat and sophisticated. In fact, the obese body of middle-aged men is the most important basis of the word "greasy middle age". Among the expressions of "greasy middle-aged" listed on the Internet, expressions about body shape occupy a considerable part, including fat head, big belly, baldness, oily face and so on.
However, from young white-collar workers to greasy middle-aged, it is not a one-off event. Let's see how this evolved:
Graduated from college at the age of 22 and entered social work. This is the first time node, and men have changed from a lot of exercise to little exercise at school. Nevertheless, by the age of 25, most young male white-collar workers can still maintain their youthful appearance and slim figure. Until the age of 30, although the appearance will change, on the whole, it still belongs to a young state. However, a considerable number of men began to gain weight because of overeating and lack of exercise. By the age of 27 or 8, the belly is small and the body fat rate is high.
Most men get married around the age of 30. Because the aging process of the body will accelerate after the age of 30, many organs begin to join the ranks of aging. However, lack of exercise, overeating, excessive calorie intake and lifestyle disorder have become the norm for most middle-aged men, and getting fat is inevitable. At this time, the glory of youth began to fade from the faces of many men, and the image of "greasy middle age" began to appear. By the time they are less than 35 years old, many middle-aged men are really little or big fat.
At the age of 40, if you go to a class reunion. Men who keep their exercise habits and strict lifestyles still look young. This is in sharp contrast with the looks of most fat "middle-aged uncles" and will produce the feeling of "poor generation". However, men who can still maintain their youthful vitality and appearance at the age of 40 will always be a minority.
This is the general path of the aging development of most men from their twenties to their forties. It can also be said that from the age of 25 to 40, it is a gradual process in which the young appearance is exhausted, and it will not suddenly make people old. Of course, the circumstances of life will also affect people's appearance. Some men will encounter great changes in their lives, such as major setbacks in their careers, family changes, serious diseases and so on. And it may make people age faster.
How do men delay aging?
For us mortals, the best way to keep healthy and delay aging is to keep good eating and living habits and take an active part in physical exercise.
If men can stick to long-term regular fitness from their twenties, they will look much younger than their peers in middle age. The older you get, the more obvious this difference in appearance becomes. In fact, long-term strength training can keep men's muscle strength and endurance well, even in their forties and fifties, there is not much difference between them and their twenties. The anti-aging effect of aerobic exercise can not only maintain cardiopulmonary function, but also reduce free radicals in the body, enhance immunity, improve lipid metabolism and reduce blood lipids.
A lot of practice and research have also confirmed that exercise and fitness not only has a positive effect on improving physiological function, but also can adjust psychological activities and release pressure, thus making people more confident, cheerful and positive.
We pay attention to the practitioners of Buddhism and Taoism (practitioners of Buddhism and Taoism are not necessarily monks or Taoists), and we can also find that many people who remain young look younger than their peers. If readers have access to some practitioners, you can find this phenomenon.
The so-called "phase is born from the heart", the secular life of cultivating the heart, being kind and moderate will undoubtedly be revealed in our appearance.
Modern health experts, fitness coaches and doctors always ask people to maintain a healthy lifestyle when they appeal to people to stay healthy and delay aging. And this also corresponds to the record in Neijing:
In fact, there is no secret to delaying aging and staying young forever. Just keep a healthy lifestyle. Although aging is inevitable, the young appearance of men can still be maintained for a long time, so don't worry about premature aging!