Sometimes all three of them are embarrassed to speak in dialects and feel a little isolated.
Besides, my college goals are different from theirs. I usually work hard to brush GPA, but I am basically alone, and sometimes I will be very lonely. What should I do?
Local roommates communicate in dialects.
Not necessarily to isolate you.
Man is a typical social animal. People with strong psychology can rarely completely break away from social circles and live independently. Moreover, they can enrich their hearts without feeling lonely.
For college students, the most important social circle is their roommates, whether four, six or eight, these people are basically your partners in recent years.
Therefore, it is also very important for you to get on well with your roommates as much as possible, so that you can have a better life in recent years.
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Bian Xiao believes that if your roommate does nothing but speak dialect in front of you, you don't have to feel isolated by local roommates too soon.
I don't know where your school is and whether the local dialect is really completely incomprehensible.
If, like most places in the whole north and south except Zhejiang, Guangxi, Fujian, Guangdong, Jiangxi and other provinces, the locals can hardly understand a dialect as long as they listen attentively. In this case, you don't mind at all, you will get used to it after a long time.
If your school is in Zhejiang, Guangxi, Fujian, Guangdong and Jiangxi provinces, and the local dialects have their own characteristics, there is a big gap between them and Putonghua. I'm afraid you really can't understand a word without one or two years' experience.
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But you must put yourself in others' shoes. It's actually uncomfortable for them to speak Mandarin to each other.
In fact, if you don't understand the local dialect, it won't be a big problem. Take the initiative to communicate with them in Mandarin.
On the road to Excellence
It is perfectly normal to feel lonely.
You also mentioned that your college goals are different from theirs. You study hard and often feel lonely because of one person.
As long as you pursue yourself beyond the average level of your group, it is completely normal to feel lonely, which has nothing to do with the interpersonal relationship in the dormitory.
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In fact, every "Xueba" and "Daniel" you know who can make achievements in their own fields have mostly experienced the same feelings as you:
If you want to develop eight-pack abdominal muscles, you must endure the loneliness of lifting iron in the gym alone;
If you want to make achievements in scientific research, you must endure the loneliness of staying alone in the laboratory until the early hours of the morning;
If you want to fully understand the truth, you must endure lonely meditation by Deng Qing's ancient Buddha.
If someone can understand you, it is your fate; Others don't understand you, which is the normal state of the world.
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Observing the students around you, you will find that the more talents you don't pursue, the more you get together without standards and principles; And those who have pursuits, when you see him, are often thinking alone or doing their own thing.
Suppose you ask them, "Are you lonely?" Most of them will be confused and look at you with a depressed face:
I ran glue until 3: 30 in the middle of the night yesterday, and I didn't even wash my face when I went out to class in the first class today.
Of course, if you are dedicated and strong enough, you will gradually attract a group of like-minded friends, gradually form your own small circle, or join similar circles that have been formed, but the value of these circles is completely different from that of ordinary dormitory roommates.
Although college roommates get along every day in these four years, once they graduate and enter the society, they may never see each other again. Bian Xiao's roommates are scattered all over the country now, and they haven't been together for seven or eight years.
However, the circle formed according to the same ideals and interests can often last for a long time after graduation, and even when you want to start your own business, they will support you at all costs and bring you the earliest entrepreneurial team.
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Just like the famous "paypal Gang" in American science and technology, Ma Yun's "Eighteen Arhats" in the history of Ali's development.
If you are really roommates,
What if you are isolated?
How can I really be isolated by my roommate? Bian Xiao believes that the collective must have obvious hostile behavior towards you.
Of course, Bian Xiao's point of view is that from the perspective of boys, the interpersonal relationship in girls' dormitories is often more subtle.
For example, four people in a dormitory can build five or six WeChat groups, each group is blocked by different people, and the objects and topics in the group are different, but on the surface, everyone can still act as if nothing happened.
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But in most male dormitories, generally speaking, if you are really isolated by your roommate, it is likely that the responsibility is not entirely attributable to your roommate. You should reflect on your own behavior or habits to make others so disgusted.
In your eyes, a group of roommates isolate you collectively. In their eyes, maybe you are the unbearable "wonderful roommate".
In this case, you can find a roommate with a good personality and a less rigid relationship with you. Ask him privately and find out why your relationship has come to this.
You can also go out every morning and spend the evening in the library to minimize the time with them. If the bad interpersonal relationship in the dormitory really affects your studies, you can also apply to the school for a change of dormitory.
If you are sure that what you are doing is not wrong, but you and your roommate have different living habits or values, then directly "show your cards" with your roommate and tell them your own bottom line and tolerance. I hope they can respect your lifestyle, don't challenge your patience and touch your bottom line.
If this can't alleviate the contradiction, it is necessary to reflect the problem to the counselor or related teacher in time. I hope they can mediate between them.
How is your relationship with your roommate? Come and share it with Bian Xiao!
(Content source: Voice of the University)