Generally, girls over the age of 30 will be called "older women". Our present situation is that there are more men than women. A woman can marry herself in minutes as long as she is willing to marry, but she doesn't want to settle down and find her ideal lover.
The general reasons for older women are as follows:
One: I am arrogant, my eyes are too high, I don't like ordinary men, and I don't deserve excellent men.
Two: I fell in love for too long and broke up when I was getting married, which was delayed by my ex-boyfriend.
Three: Pay special attention to the boy you like, and be sure to seek true love.
Leftover women are generally not bad at their own abilities, they can support themselves and have a good life. They are in no hurry. In either case, she is most worried about her own parents.
A Qiu has two older girlfriends, one is 36 and the other is 43. They are all excellent. The 36-year-old girl was delayed by her ex-boyfriend. She didn't get married for many years, but broke up. This 43-year-old woman has a strong working ability, but she has a high accomplishment. It must be a man with good internal quality, special kindness and ability to make her value.
Let's take a look at the story of this older woman, which may give you some inspiration.
The 35-year-old Bai has become an older woman: she would rather be single than marry a poor man with a monthly salary of 10 thousand.
Lin Jiao is 35 years old and has never been married. Her parents arrange blind dates for her every month. In the end, even the matchmaker gave up on her, because she was introduced to dozens of men, and none of them were worthy.
Lin Jiao, with a bachelor's degree, is tall 1 m 7, looks sweet, loves sports and fitness, and is absolutely fashionable in dress. Walking in the street has a very high rate of turning around.
After graduating from college, Lin Jiao went to work in a big city. She returned to her hometown at the strong request of her parents and found a good job with a monthly salary of 6000 yuan. In this third-tier city, the average person's salary is around 3000, and Lin Jiao has a high salary.
But with a monthly salary of 6 thousand, Lin Jiao is still a moonlight family! Because she has to maintain a very delicate life.
Lin Jiao's gym has an annual card. She signed up for yoga classes and dance classes for shaping, and she likes to wear tights and sweat like rain. Her circle of friends often sends such pictures. The following comments are all praise: good figure, excellent figure, goddess and so on. Lin Jiao enjoyed such praise very much.
You must buy famous brands for clothes, shoes and bags, and high-end cosmetics. I often eat in restaurants, occasionally cook by myself, and take a whole set of photos of pots and pans that make western food. I will definitely travel to various scenic spots during the holiday.
These all need money to maintain. She got the exquisite life she wanted by her own efforts.
Lin Jiao thinks it is the most cost-effective to invest money in herself, even if it is moonlight, because it can enhance her value and make her worthy of a better man.
If you look through her circle of friends, you will definitely come to a conclusion: this is a "white rich beauty" that ordinary men can't afford.
Lin Jiao really thinks so. She is good in all aspects, beautiful and highly educated. Although she has no special talent, she knows a little about everything, so if she wants to marry, she must marry an excellent man.
The matchmaker once introduced her to a very nice boy, Zhang Kai, with a monthly salary of 10,000, who has a stable job and room for improvement in the future. Boys with such conditions are very popular in this small city, and many girls want to marry him, but he refuses. Because Zhang Kai wants a fashionable and beautiful woman.
As soon as Zhang Kai saw Lin Jiao, her eyes lit up. Isn't this the girl who has been waiting for a long time? Zhang Kai clearly expressed his love, but was rejected by Lin Jiao.
Zhang Kai's monthly salary is 10,000, Lin Jiao is 6,000, Zhang Kai's height is 175cm, and Lin Jiao 170. In everyone's eyes, whether economically or externally, they should be a perfect couple.
But Lin Jiao's ideal boyfriend is like this: height 1 m 8, handsome appearance, annual salary of at least 500,000, good temper and like himself.
Lin Jiao believes that the monthly salary is 1 10,000, and the annual income is only120,000. If the money is used to buy a house and a car, the usual life will definitely be a mess. What should I do if I have children in the future? I can't reach my living standard at all, so I might as well live alone.
Everyone has their own criteria for choosing a spouse. In some people's eyes, a monthly salary of 10,000 yuan is a high income, but in Lin Jiao's eyes, it is far from enough to maintain her exquisite life, so she refused Zhang Kai.
A Qiu said: Marriage can't be forced, everyone has his own standards, and Lin Jiao also has his own ideas and pursuits, that's right. It's just that he has never had the luck to meet the perfect man in his mind.
However, with the growth of age, perhaps the criteria for choosing a spouse can be lowered a little. A happy life in the future depends not only on men. Isn't it more fragrant for married couples to work together for success?
Some principles in life should always be adhered to, but in marriage and feelings, we really need to be flexible in order to finally get our own happiness.